Hi guys,
I've been reading the forum for a little while and just ordered the book. Can't wait to read it and get to work.
This is my first post and it is probably a real newbie question.
Do you map together with your SO, or do you keep it a secret?
My first thought was, I'll keep it a secret and will just work hard on improving myself. For example, I've already started going to the gym three times per week and have lost 8 pounds. He's definitely noticing.
My second thought, maybe it's good to work together on this, or at least to not keep reading the book a secret. Then he can join in if he likes.
The downside is that he's not really into self-help books, telling me that I'm to smart to read that kind of stuff.
How would you approach this? What has worked well for you?
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The only thing I have kept secret is my being here on this forum, as I worry that he might see it as disloyalty if he found out, telling all our private things to the world. Or could have seen it that way in our bad old days. He's not on the forum himself AFAIK, but if I thought he was I would probably delete all my posts. I spend too much time here myself anyway .
So I would say you do your own thing, and unless you are to the point of throwing down the gauntlet like @RebuildingHusband, don't worry about formally announcing it, and if/when the time is right you'll know it.
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When I quote the book or blog, I am vague - "Something I read" - as I read a lot and he doesn't care where I read it, as he is not a reader so I know that he is not going to ask for a link or to borrow the book. When I mention something I read here, I just call it my weight-loss board as it's totally normal for me to be on some forum.
So, my Mapping is not a secret but MMSL kind of is.