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A question that has been perturbing me, I’m thinking either too much porn use and/or low-T… but here goes, I’m 40 or thereabouts and very rarely get spontaneous boners, in fact I rarely get boners unless I’m directly stimulated, even when passionately kissing my wife (in the kitchen for example… in the bedroom however when getting down to business is a different matter and I generally have no problem there). Or when having mental fantasies during the day I rarely get a boner. I do get a boner almost every morning though. Just wanting to understand is it a being 40 thing that spontaneous boners are a thing of the past, or, should I be looking to other issues?
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Long time porn use will do it. Taking full advantage of internet porn will definitely do it. Have to reboot to get 'em back, and you do, but it takes a while.
"There are no right biscuits." – Mandrill
Both low T and porn can have this effect.
So can some meds, including some allergy meds.
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And we're old.
The old saw I have oft heard is After age 40, never waste an erection and never trust a fart..
“I’m going to plead with you, do not cross us. Because if you do, the survivors will write about what we do here for 10,000 years.” General James Mattis, USMC
Woke up to morning wood! And screaming, fighting children
Those are completely incompatible:)
And therein lies my real question... if there's a saying for it, it must be true, the old fella could simply naturally be on the decline, sad times...
Beta_Blocker said:
It is certainly the case to some extent. Atherosclerosis was found in the autopsies of most young 18-19 year old soldiers killed in Vietnam, and has been found in autopsies to be starting in children as young as 3 years old. It is an ongoing process that is of course worse the older you get.
I heard that old saw the most in The Time Before Viagra, though
“I’m going to plead with you, do not cross us. Because if you do, the survivors will write about what we do here for 10,000 years.” General James Mattis, USMC
Well I don't have that issue. I still get them. Wake up with morning wood a lot. I'm visual too.
When I see a good looking woman in stilettos- bing. Happened today. I have a heel fetish big time.
Into Phase 3..
Those Who Dare......Win. "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."I generally don't get spontaneous or morning erections unless I'm taking my daily cialis. Been years since its happened and I turned forty in March. Been off porn for years and masturbation for a long time.
I drive a desk most of the time, but am active the rest of the time. Morning wood almost daily. Random hard-ons rarely though (through the day). Sometimes when my mind wanders or i'm very tired on the train... but this is rare.
Thanks for the links.
Moderate porn use keeps the edge off, but I get a boner just hearing my wife's voice.
I don't even want to think about what it would be like to go no fap.
This may explain why mrs monkeydog feels like she has to beat me off with a broomstick.
I don't do porn, and I don't fap, either; fantasizing is enough for me.
morning wood more often and just harder Also more stamina too. So the no porn deal is well worth it.
Into Phase 3..
Those Who Dare......Win. "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."Automatic until about 43. After that though, not so much. The dilithium crystals are at about 40-60%.