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A question that has been perturbing me, I’m thinking either too much porn use and/or low-T… but here goes, I’m 40 or thereabouts and very rarely get spontaneous boners, in fact I rarely get boners unless I’m directly stimulated, even when passionately kissing my wife (in the kitchen for example… in the bedroom however when getting down to business is a different matter and I generally have no problem there). Or when having mental fantasies during the day I rarely get a boner. I do get a boner almost every morning though. Just wanting to understand is it a being 40 thing that spontaneous boners are a thing of the past, or, should I be looking to other issues?