Spontaneous boners at 40

Beta_BlockerBeta_Blocker Silver Member Posts: 121

A question that has been perturbing me, I’m thinking either too much porn use and/or low-T… but here goes, I’m 40 or thereabouts and very rarely get spontaneous boners, in fact I rarely get boners unless I’m directly stimulated, even when passionately kissing my wife (in the kitchen for example… in the bedroom however when getting down to business is a different matter and I generally have no problem there). Or when having mental fantasies during the day I rarely get a boner. I do get a boner almost every morning though. Just wanting to understand is it a being 40 thing that spontaneous boners are a thing of the past, or, should I be looking to other issues?

okmike

Comments

  • Joskin_NoddJoskin_Nodd AshwanSilver Member Posts: 4,045

    Long time porn use will do it. Taking full advantage of internet porn will definitely do it. Have to reboot to get 'em back, and you do, but it takes a while. 

    "There are no right biscuits." – Mandrill

  • PandaBear7PandaBear7 OKSilver Member Posts: 436

    And we're old.

    shibariHildaCorners
  • PandaBear7PandaBear7 OKSilver Member Posts: 436

    Woke up to morning wood! And screaming, fighting children  :'(

    Joskin_Nodd
  • ConradConrad MidwestSilver Member Posts: 810

    Woke up to morning wood! And screaming, fighting children  :'(

    Those are completely incompatible:)

    PandaBear7Joskin_Nodd
  • Beta_BlockerBeta_Blocker Silver Member Posts: 121
    Crashaxe said:

    The old saw I have oft heard is After age 40, never waste an erection and never trust a fart..

    And therein lies my real question... if there's a saying for it, it must be true, the old fella could simply naturally be on the decline, sad times...

    okmike
  • CrashaxeCrashaxe Partytown, which is wherever I am.Gold Men Posts: 1,243
    edited May 2014

    Beta_Blocker said:

    Crashaxe said:

    The old saw I have oft heard is After age 40, never waste an erection and never trust a fart..

    And therein lies my real question... if there's a saying for it, it must be true, the old fella could simply naturally be on the decline, sad times...

    It is certainly the case to some extent. Atherosclerosis was found in the autopsies of most young 18-19 year old soldiers killed in Vietnam, and has been found in autopsies to be starting in children as young as 3 years old. It is an ongoing process that is of course worse the older you get.

    I heard that old saw the most in The Time Before Viagra, though :)

    “I’m going to plead with you, do not cross us. Because if you do, the survivors will write about what we do here for 10,000 years.” General James Mattis, USMC

  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300

    Well I don't have that issue. I still get them. Wake up with morning wood a lot. I'm visual too. 

    When I see a good looking woman in stilettos- bing. Happened today. I have a heel fetish big time. 

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

    Shepard
  • EightbitEightbit DruidiaGold Men Posts: 2,410
    edited May 2014

    I generally don't get spontaneous or morning erections unless I'm taking my daily cialis.  Been years since its happened and I turned forty in March.  Been off porn for years and masturbation for a long time.

    Insert witty, insightful signature here.
  • Beta_BlockerBeta_Blocker Silver Member Posts: 121

    I drive a desk most of the time, but am active the rest of the time. Morning wood almost daily. Random hard-ons rarely though (through the day). Sometimes when my mind wanders or i'm very tired on the train... but this is rare.

    Thanks for the links.

  • markmark new yorkMember Posts: 127
    Not having spontaneous wood is normal around 40 or so.  But you should still be getting fairly hard morning wood.  

  • soa2005soa2005 United statesSilver Member Posts: 631
    I'm early 30s, rarely masturbate, rarely view porn. Rock hard morning wood? Everyday. Regular spontaneous erections? Not since I was a teen. My refractory period is like 10-20 minutes so I'm not really concerned. 
  • monkeydogmonkeydog KansasSilver Member Posts: 415
    I am 49 and am a walking hard on.

    Moderate porn use keeps the edge off, but I get a boner just hearing my wife's voice.

    I don't even want to think about what it would be like to go no fap.

    This may explain why mrs monkeydog feels like she has to beat me off with a broomstick.

    CowboyShepard
  • monkeydogmonkeydog KansasSilver Member Posts: 415
    I'd rather leave it to your imagination.
    TenneeJellyBeanCallmeCatShepard
  • CowboyCowboy In the South, USASilver Member Posts: 1,994
    Like @monkeydog , I, too, am over 40 and have boners all the time. It doesn't take much at all. I'm getting one right now remembering the one I had twenty minutes ago, when the waitress whispered the special in my ear because the room was loud. I wake up every morning with a fresh bundle of wood.
    I don't do porn, and I don't fap, either; fantasizing is enough for me.
    "Men were designed to hunt mammoth. You need to go find your mammoth." --Serenity
  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    For me as well.  No porn and very little Fap is very beneficial 
    morning wood more often and just harder   Also more stamina too.  So the no porn deal is well worth it. 

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

    UnBetaMe
  • georgegeorge Silver Member Posts: 1,514

    Automatic until about 43.  After that though, not so much.  The dilithium crystals are at about 40-60%.

    AngelineShepard
Sign In or Register to comment.