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  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    edited October 29
    UPDATE October 2016 Update RED -I've watched some porn of late. That needs to stop I hate myself for it -Cigars once in awhile, wife hates it -Not initiating enough sex. I've been a little down of late -Going through a phase of sex...Meh.! -I'm too flirty at work Yellow -plan more night outs, be more fun -more touch from me, not enough -better Alpha Beta balance from me needed -Pick my ass up and get my mind going in the right direction -need some new friends to hang out with Green -bought some new sex toys. mixed results -winterized her car -kids are doing well -gym going great hit this all the time -quality of sex is great but 3-4 times a month still -good leadership moments from me

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

    amblrgirlBlueWolftry_red_pill
  • CartB4HorseCartB4Horse Southwest USASilver Member Posts: 4,155
    @fordsvt - Glad to see you back here, on your own thread.

    Sorry about your troubles.  How much of that do you think is caused by not actively running your MAP?

    Put back on course via a 'One Hour Call' with Athol.  Seriously worth 10 times the cost, but don't tell him that....

    “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Victor Frankl 

    BlueWolf
  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    @CartB4Horse the issue with work?   None
    the rest of it yes. I've slacked off on my Map and need to pick it up.  
    I have no excuse here.  Like I said I've been kind of Blah of late.  Need to pick my person up and get on with it.   

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

  • TenneeTennee Next Stop: AwesomevilleSilver Member Posts: 5,963
    fordsvt said:
    I've been having some tough days of late. I'm now going through a 2nd investigation at work. I was cleared in Sept for a June incident of any wrong doing. My Superintendant called me yesterday to inform me another is beginning. This is unreal to say the least. I feel like I have a target on my back. Thankfully we have a Union in law-enforcement.
    @Crashaxe

    I am assuming a second, 'new' issue?  I don't know how it works north of the border - does the Union provide counsel?  And are they worth a shit?  Because if not, its time to get your own.  I don't believe in coincidences, and neither do you. 

    Have you spoken to an attorney, either Union or personal?
    "Fall down seven times, stand up eight"  Japanese Proverb

    How will you live well today?
    BlackwulfCrashaxe
  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    I'm feeling somewhat better today. I was a little stressed the past few weeks. It's cut down on me initiating too which is bad.  
    Got lots done today though around the house. Ran some errands too
    i should know the outcome in a few weeks or less. Then life goes on and one more mountain climbed 

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

    nubbyCartB4HorseRorschachBlueWolf
  • TenneeTennee Next Stop: AwesomevilleSilver Member Posts: 5,963
    I assume your attorney/union was present during the interview? 
    "Fall down seven times, stand up eight"  Japanese Proverb

    How will you live well today?
    RorschachCrashaxe
  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    Yes she was. Without question and wouldn't have it otherwise. I just hope it goes my way 

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    Well no news so far about the investigation. 

    Been five days no sex. Not to concerned about it either.  Still doing my thing here as best I can. My Xmas party is in a few weeks and she's made it quite clear I'm not going alone. Not sure if it's me or the female coworkers she doesn't trust. But she got quite annoying and worried when I said I may go and she could leave early if she wanted. She has to work at nine the next day.  She was having none of that. Not going as I'm a little fed up with work right now and it seems like she doesn't want to go anyways.  Mate Guarding? Insecure and trust ?  

    Big Shit Test today. We were talking about my family and Xmas dinner.  My mother won't give me an answer yet for time.  I don't get along with her all that well. My dad has been having mental health issues this year so it's been rough. We talk more about my mom and her bossy my way snippy self which I can't tolerate.  
    Wife. I use to see a lot of her in you.  She raised you ( or something like that ) 
    Me. I don't care much for her company.  Only in small increments 
    Wife. So glad you worked on yourself and made changes.  You stood to lose it all. 
    Me.  STFU. Say zero look at her and raise an eyebrow.  

    In my mind I'm thinking no you stood to lose half actually.  With joint custody of the kids.  
    Did I handle that correctly?   Or should I have said anything?  I was thinking STFU was better right then. 
    She says some loyalty/ shit tests at times and I try to catch them. She seems insecure and worried still at times.   

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

  • AngelineAngeline planting seedsCategory Moderator** Posts: 14,501
    edited November 26
    Blackwulf said:
    This investigation is a warning sign, you need to either totally change your approach at work and make more allies or think about canging careers.  I hope it works out and you aren't just being made a scapegoat.

    I was thinking the same thing, and a Christmas party is a perfect chance to do that. Show up, be cheerful, flirt shamelessly with Ancient Sally in Accounting, and just be a big, force of nature, positive breath of fresh air for a couple of hours. Work the room. Talk to people from every part of the company.

    If it comes down to one or two people deciding things on a gut feeling, you appearing as the guy who's "obviously a great guy to work with, just look at him, working the room!" could swing things in your favor. And as @Blackwulf says, if you aren't that guy, maybe you need to take a look at your approach and change some things up.

    People can get their backs up at the idea that they should be friendly and easy to work with, like being an asshole is some sign of integrity. It isn't.

    Just like in your marriage, bringing positive energy elevates everyone, but also as a tactical issue, when you DO need to go asshole on people, it's much more effective if you arent simply written off as the crank who is an asshole all the time anyway.

    "Speak your truth." - Scarlet
    Remember to play!
    Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
    Be married, until you are not.

    Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
    BlackwulffordsvtBeatriceCrashaxe
  • fordsvtfordsvt Canada Eh!Silver Member Posts: 2,300
    Rough start to the am. Wife gave me the gears about cigars still.  She hates it and she made it clear this am. She hates that I hide it do it etc...  I said yes you're correct it needs to stop. 
    With tears in her eyes she said " it makes me wonder what else your hiding"
    Im thinking Wow that's out of nowhere. I STFU and didn't engage that one.  
    Sometimes I think she's on the fence some days. No text from her so far today either. This one has been brewing for awhile. 

    Into Phase 3..

    Those Who Dare......Win.   "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."

    amblrgirlRorschachCrashaxewrangler
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