She also said that she doesn't like them because it's a non reciprocal sex act.
I know you said you want to be relaxing on your back with her doing all the work, but have you tried side by side 69? You get to go down on her too but you can take a few breaks to just relax, hold her close, and touch her.
@maxx138 Have you tried whipping it out and gently slapping her across the face with it? Maybe add in a little teasing... don't let her have it until she asks for it.
Lol. That sounds very porno. But I am afraid that it would not go over very well and would probably result in no more BJs ever.
The thing that bothers me most I suppose is that all the talk in here is that BJs usually only come when attraction is high. So why is my attraction not high enough to merit a BJ? Or does she deep down have some issue with them? Hard to say.
After I made her cum last week I motioned for her to go down on me. She said she had a stomach ache. Which she did, she ended up puking an hour later. But she also said she would do it for me the next day, which didn't happen of course. I figured it'd be a DLV to bring it up like "hey, where's the BJ you promised me". So I just let it slide. Maybe I should've said something.
But she also said she would do it for me the next day, which didn't happen of course. I figured it'd be a DLV to bring it up like "hey, where's the BJ you promised me". So I just let it slide. Maybe I should've said something.
What do ya'll think?
Let it lie. There will be other opportunities - bringing up "but you promised!" is a big fat DLV.
Ya I figured. And like I said, I definitely don't need anymore DLVs for awhile. Been doing well though
My SR, at least in her eyes, has gone up. I know that. She has gained about 30 pounds in the past year. So I am hoping as mine increases BJs will be more likely to happen
I ran across this e-book on Amazon the other day at random (was buried deep in search results for something completely unrelated) and thought of this thread. I'm not endorsing it, haven't read it myself, and "subliminal techniques" sounds hokey, but I thought I'd mention it.
Lol. That sounds very porno. But I am afraid that it would not go over very well and would probably result in no more BJs ever.
The thing that bothers me most I suppose is that all the talk in here is that BJs usually only come when attraction is high. So why is my attraction not high enough to merit a BJ? Or does she deep down have some issue with them? Hard to say.
After I made her cum last week I motioned for her to go down on me. She said she had a stomach ache. Which she did, she ended up puking an hour later. But she also said she would do it for me the next day, which didn't happen of course. I figured it'd be a DLV to bring it up like "hey, where's the BJ you promised me". So I just let it slide. Maybe I should've said something.
What do ya'll think?
Neither! You are suggesting that it's best to wait for her to initiate a BJ on her own? Um, no. You have to be the alpha leader here. "Waiting for her to initiate" is a beta move. But you do not say "hey, where's the BJ you promised me," either because that's talking about sex which is a no no. The next night, that's when you just whip it out. She knows her promise, you don't need to mention it.
I was pondering it and I think what I miss most from the early days, besides the spontaneous BJTCs is the affection. She's just not as affectionate as she used to be. I am chalking that up to the depression though
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I know you said you want to be relaxing on your back with her doing all the work, but have you tried side by side 69? You get to go down on her too but you can take a few breaks to just relax, hold her close, and touch her.
No. She hates 69. I love it though but never get to do it. Oh well
@maxx138 Have you tried whipping it out and gently slapping her across the face with it? Maybe add in a little teasing... don't let her have it until she asks for it.
Lol. That sounds very porno. But I am afraid that it would not go over very well and would probably result in no more BJs ever.
The thing that bothers me most I suppose is that all the talk in here is that BJs usually only come when attraction is high. So why is my attraction not high enough to merit a BJ? Or does she deep down have some issue with them? Hard to say.
After I made her cum last week I motioned for her to go down on me. She said she had a stomach ache. Which she did, she ended up puking an hour later. But she also said she would do it for me the next day, which didn't happen of course. I figured it'd be a DLV to bring it up like "hey, where's the BJ you promised me". So I just let it slide. Maybe I should've said something.
What do ya'll think?
Let it lie. There will be other opportunities - bringing up "but you promised!" is a big fat DLV.
Ya I figured. And like I said, I definitely don't need anymore DLVs for awhile. Been doing well though
My SR, at least in her eyes, has gone up. I know that. She has gained about 30 pounds in the past year. So I am hoping as mine increases BJs will be more likely to happen
I ran across this e-book on Amazon the other day at random (was buried deep in search results for something completely unrelated) and thought of this thread. I'm not endorsing it, haven't read it myself, and "subliminal techniques" sounds hokey, but I thought I'd mention it.
Neither! You are suggesting that it's best to wait for her to initiate a BJ on her own? Um, no. You have to be the alpha leader here. "Waiting for her to initiate" is a beta move. But you do not say "hey, where's the BJ you promised me," either because that's talking about sex which is a no no. The next night, that's when you just whip it out. She knows her promise, you don't need to mention it.
3-4 times a week....so sad. lol
I know. What a nightmare right?!
I was pondering it and I think what I miss most from the early days, besides the spontaneous BJTCs is the affection. She's just not as affectionate as she used to be. I am chalking that up to the depression though