The only thing I'm going add to the discussion is that as per red pill wisdom, I stopped listening to what my girlfriend SAYS and started watching what she DOES. And what my girlfriend has done, this whole past year after me finding out about the lying that happened a year and a half ago, is being absolutely consistent in her behaviour towards me and the relationship, in some areas even more than I expected. Believe me, I've checked.
It's true, her lying destroyed a part of my trust in her. That's why for the foreseeable future I will keep trusting but verifying. I am slowly building it up again, with a great deal of help from her. On the other hand, when she lied to my face we barely knew each other. I understand. Again, I do not condone the way she ACTED but in retrospective, I understand now.
A big thank you to everyone that contributed to the thread and also to Alex the Average Married Dad with whom I corresponded about this as well.
This has been cathartic to say the least, and has lifted a great weight from shoulders. I am grateful for that, whether I decide to continue the relationship or not.
The OM went beta fast (both by her words and by her journal) and got replaced by the alpha male.
Sounds like she has a modest notch count, and when dating mid-30s that is expected.
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BlackwulfLeading the pack. Silver MemberPosts: 1,782
I would advise trust but verify to be a life long thing, it doesn't mean you go snooping, but you pay attention. Blind trust is setting yourself up for heartbreak.
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Hello everybody.
The only thing I'm going add to the discussion is that as per red pill wisdom, I stopped listening to what my girlfriend SAYS and started watching what she DOES. And what my girlfriend has done, this whole past year after me finding out about the lying that happened a year and a half ago, is being absolutely consistent in her behaviour towards me and the relationship, in some areas even more than I expected. Believe me, I've checked.
It's true, her lying destroyed a part of my trust in her. That's why for the foreseeable future I will keep trusting but verifying. I am slowly building it up again, with a great deal of help from her. On the other hand, when she lied to my face we barely knew each other. I understand. Again, I do not condone the way she ACTED but in retrospective, I understand now.
A big thank you to everyone that contributed to the thread and also to Alex the Average Married Dad with whom I corresponded about this as well.
This has been cathartic to say the least, and has lifted a great weight from shoulders. I am grateful for that, whether I decide to continue the relationship or not.
Thank you.
The OM went beta fast (both by her words and by her journal) and got replaced by the alpha male.
Sounds like she has a modest notch count, and when dating mid-30s that is expected.
I would advise trust but verify to be a life long thing, it doesn't mean you go snooping, but you pay attention. Blind trust is setting yourself up for heartbreak.