I said this about teen dating and it holds for teen sex and marital affairs too.
If your kids are going to have sex they will with or without your blessing, and whether you allow dating or not. Simply saying no isn't enough to stop them, you've got to do more and let them make their own minds up based on the education and facts you provide as a parent.
One night, during my freshman year of college, a group of guys and girls were sitting around drinking and the age of their first time came up. EVERYONE, with the exception of myself, lost their virginity at or before age 15. This was in 1990.
Daughter is going to a Fall party this weekend at a friend of mine's house (she goes to school with his daughter). About 30 kids, boys and girls, ages 13-15. They are going to kick things off with a bonfire and then they have rented a projector and are setting it up in his barn to watch scary movies until midnight.
He invited me over to help chaperone.
This oughtta be fun.
"My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be happy, if not, you'll become a philosopher." -Socrates
Hi @Maria, it's been a while since I have been on the forum. Thanks for the video and lyrics. I can almost follow along with the song. The song does ring true, we sent her to South America in July on her own expecting that it would be a growing experience for her. She did grow quite a bit. She is the one with the most common sense. She had a second outing with her "bf", bowling with his parents and friends.
I have to take the stance that I can stop her from dating but I have seen that go horribly wrong. My parents were like that, as a result my oldest sister married the loser next door just to escape. My second oldest sister ran away to Mexico with her boyfriend. Another sister was smarter just had a big fight with dad and moved out at 18, they didn't speak for years.
Little girls growing into young ladies is the natural progression of life. The best we can do is stay involved and guide and make sure they learn how to be in an age appropriate relationship. But honestly most of the teaching happens before puberty, all a parent can do now is watch, correct, and hope you have taught her well.
"Calm seas never made a good sailor" English Proverb
"We can not fix a problem with the same level of thinking that caused it" A. Einstein
One night, during my freshman year of college, a group of guys and girls were sitting around drinking and the age of their first time came up. EVERYONE, with the exception of myself, lost their virginity at or before age 15. This was in 1990.
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If your kids are going to have sex they will with or without your blessing, and whether you allow dating or not. Simply saying no isn't enough to stop them, you've got to do more and let them make their own minds up based on the education and facts you provide as a parent.
He invited me over to help chaperone.
This oughtta be fun.
"My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be happy, if not, you'll become a philosopher." -Socrates
I have to take the stance that I can stop her from dating but I have seen that go horribly wrong. My parents were like that, as a result my oldest sister married the loser next door just to escape. My second oldest sister ran away to Mexico with her boyfriend. Another sister was smarter just had a big fight with dad and moved out at 18, they didn't speak for years.
Little girls growing into young ladies is the natural progression of life. The best we can do is stay involved and guide and make sure they learn how to be in an age appropriate relationship. But honestly most of the teaching happens before puberty, all a parent can do now is watch, correct, and hope you have taught her well.
"Calm seas never made a good sailor" English Proverb
"We can not fix a problem with the same level of thinking that caused it" A. Einstein