Don't mean to spam this site for the red pill room, even though that is what I am doing. Anyway, an excellent primer on the red pill by MMSL friend Ian Underwood. I was looking for a simple summary of red pill concepts and found this. It is a power point type format, which is pretty cool. Chapter 13 is not done yet, but everything else is. I thought the chapter on feminism was excellent. I did not know a lot of this. Also, I like the mention of relationship game and being a man, father, and provider as a meaningful strategy towards life. Usually red pill stuff seems to be a pump and dump strategy with ranting about how lame women are.
It is pretty basic, but is gold and worth a look. Not as comprehensive as Athol's books, but is a real quick read.
http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/p/the-red-pill-primer-for-boys.html
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He's decided he isn't interested yet, but it's there when he is.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
Great idea! I am going to also, although my boys are not interested yet. You know, it could be good timing if they read it. And kudos for you in trying to raise a RP boy without a functional father. You are definitely swimming against the tide. That is to be respected.
Well I can clearly see your point. I was coming from the readings in the manosphere that pretty much blast marriage and providers are viewed as frustrated chumps. So I was pretty surprised to see marriage provider game mentioned. He does put quite a bit of negative stuff in feminism, but there is quite a bit of negative stuff in feminism if you are a man. Feminist hate us. If you are a women, why of course it rocks.
As a provider man, I do not see any benefit from marriage except for raising kids. I would be interested in knowing any. Maybe if I was a receiver of benefits I would like it.
Generally speaking married couples live longer, are more healthy, happier, wealthier, and have more sex than single people.
"My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be happy, if not, you'll become a philosopher." -Socrates
The ugly truth is the manosphere can damage men for relationships, the same way being a Women's Studies major typically wrecks a woman for relationships. Ideological rage and hatred for the opposite sex makes for a shitty person to be married to.
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"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
However, @Katt I'm going to take exception with the idea that you could possibly be 'as' insulted by radical feminism as someone like myself. I'm sure you're 'also' offended, but I'm not quite sure you could possibly grasp the depths of how it scarred some of us. Let's just say we're both pissed, but to a different degree.
That said, I'm not sure how effective, productive or positive the "let's hate them back" strategy really is, especially in the long run. It might be the biggest irony of the entire movement -- it's based upon a huge frame fail by letting the misandrists draw you into theirs.
That wasn't bad at all.
I agree that his take on feminism is a bit lop-sided. A lot of women say they are "feminists" but wouldn't agree with the thinking of, say Andrea Dworkin.
Resentment is corrosive, whether it's feminist resentment of men or the manosphere's resentment of women.
Coming back to the ostensible purpose of the primer, though: if it's aimed at boys - presumably teenagers - then it's more important to set positive expectations of normal, healthy gender relations than to drag them into this polemic before their time.
That's where I see the primer failing: it's value-neutral between marriage and playing the field, and I seriously doubt that it's truly possible to be value-neutral on this subject: if you don't teach that marriage is the preferred outcome but only one of many equally valid choices (and a "bad deal," at that), then what teenager would ever aspire to it? What do they care that it's best for raising children when they are still mostly children themselves?
Ironwood does make it clear that Single Game and Married Game are very different strategies. I expect he has more to say about proper mate selection if one is playing Married Game.
Some men want to be free agents, being a PUA and competing for the highest N. Others want to be group leaders and have 127 kids to carry their awesome through the generations. Different men, different strategies.
As far as the radical feminism goes, this is a bee in Ironwood's bonnet. But, when college girls routinely talk about "dismantling the patriarchy", boys need to know. Just as they need to know about what "consent" really means (the next, still unwritten chapter)
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
Until that is balanced, men who have been burned will remain angry. Just as women don't want to be only a sex object, men don't want to be only a trust fund. I think that is the root of the anger in the manosphere.
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That's funny, I've never been accused of feminism before . Oh well, this is really not my fight, I'm just thinking how to raise my boys & they haven't met any college feminists yet. I'll be watching the primer updates though - good point @HildaCorners.
There are, and always will be, men who want to be fathers, and men who want a life long relationship. [There also have been, and always will be, women who don't want kids or a LTR.]
Marriage is fundamentally a religious contract, one that the government has made into a legal contract as well. Different religions define marriage a little differently ... in some, the man gives up nothing, in others, almost everything. Given the changes in relationships that have been happening lately (gay marriage, polyamory), I can see the government getting out of the marriage business in my lifetime — but that's still science fiction.
Summary: the majority of human adults will want to pair bond, regardless of legal consequences. The role of MMSL is to make those pair bonds work well.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
However, I also expect they will marry anyway, for the reasons that you listed. So my additional advice to them is "Build your wealth before you marry, but do not transfer ANY of it into marital assets, no matter what your wife may try to convince you to do. Enjoy the fruits of your investments but don't hand her the keys to your prosperity." A sad commentary but necessary self-protection.