Of course variety is good and what doesn't work for me might with a different woman. The only way for me that I can perceive this kind of teasing to have arousal potential FOR ME is if he was commanding me to beg for it while he teased in that way. The psychological turn on of that might outweigh the physical meh quality for me.
Furthermore, with respect to Oral sex techniques, all of the information that I can find online and in books (and my limited personal experience) on the subject suggests that the majority of women prefer a slower, gentler technique that ramps up in pressure and friction through the response cycle. If we replace the tongue with the penis, what the OP's post indicates sounds similar to me.
Yep, this, penis included. Sometimes I need a slower start, slower than what he's providing at the time. If I had to wage a guess, I'd say I'm probably saying "slow down" as often as "faster/harder" during sex, because I need such a variety.
Furthermore, with respect to Oral sex techniques, all of the information that I can find online and in books (and my limited personal experience) on the subject suggests that the majority of women prefer a slower, gentler technique that ramps up in pressure and friction through the response cycle. If we replace the tongue with the penis, what the OP's post indicates sounds similar to me.
Yep, this, penis included. Sometimes I need a slower start, slower than what he's providing at the time. If I had to wage a guess, I'd say I'm probably saying "slow down" as often as "faster/harder" during sex, because I need such a variety.
Part of why it is hard for me to reconcile all of the information here with my own experience is that when Wife is chasing her orgasm she is constantly telling me to slow down. When she wants a quickie, she seems to enjoy it harder (possibly even harder than I've been able to deliver in the past), but she doesn't orgasm from that.... yet
So, this leads back to my understanding of the female sexual response cycle in that the slower paced lead up and harder/faster finish seems to coincide with the literature and my (again limited) experience. The 'Pound Town' experience of duty sex doesn't seem to offer that same opportunity to move through the cycle.
How do the FO's that appreciate/prefer that 'Pounding' experience get from Zero to 'O'?
Furthermore, with respect to Oral sex techniques, all of the information that I can find online and in books (and my limited personal experience) on the subject suggests that the majority of women prefer a slower, gentler technique that ramps up in pressure and friction through the response cycle. If we replace the tongue with the penis, what the OP's post indicates sounds similar to me.
Yep, this, penis included. Sometimes I need a slower start, slower than what he's providing at the time. If I had to wage a guess, I'd say I'm probably saying "slow down" as often as "faster/harder" during sex, because I need such a variety.
Part of why it is hard for me to reconcile all of the information here with my own experience is that when Wife is chasing her orgasm she is constantly telling me to slow down. When she wants a quickie, she seems to enjoy it harder (possibly even harder than I've been able to deliver in the past), but she doesn't orgasm from that.... yet
So, this leads back to my understanding of the female sexual response cycle in that the slower paced lead up and harder/faster finish seems to coincide with the literature and my (again limited) experience. The 'Pound Town' experience of duty sex doesn't seem to offer that same opportunity to move through the cycle.
How do the FO's that appreciate/prefer that 'Pounding' experience get from Zero to 'O'?
I don't O from pounding either. But I love it just the same . The stimulation provided to give me an orgasm usually takes place with him backing out a bit (occasionally in doggy but either way it's hard to pound and work the clit at the same time. I enjoy having an O as much as the next gal, but sex is as much mental as physical for me, and the stuff that really arouses me and gets me to the point that I easily orgasm and am dying for that release is psychological more than physical. The manifestation is in physical action (such as various elements of rough sex), but the reason it gets me going isn't so much that it physically feels so pleasant (having your hair pulled actually hurts, for example) but that it taps in to my deep psychological need to be dominated. So while the action that actually physically completes the orgasm might need to be more methodical, what gets me to the point of being able to have one easily and desperately wanting one is the aggressive action.
I'm not sure if I would like this or not. Hmmm ... might be kind of interesting in a slow, sensual way. Especially if I had a margarita first and was in kind of a lazy, hazy phase. Slow ramp up .... yeah, maybe.
@Saigo You've got to keep in mind that a lot of the women on the Forum are here because their partners were low desire for one reason or the other. They are hyper-sensitive to anything that they perceive as being tentative or showing a lack of desire.
Anything that hints of her guy not being wildly into it, must. have. her. now. acts as a kind of trigger to them.
I think that's what you're hearing more than anything else.
@angeline Oh No doubt the op said part of the technique was to finish in a Robust manner.
I was taking joy in the spirited denials and then the 'well maybe" rebuttals We gots ourselves some very out spoken FO's on here who have incredible and amazing insight into the woman's mind and even they don't know what they want!
@August_West One of the differences between that feeling pleasurable or sexually frustrating would be how much I trusted the man.
Teasing can be cruel or it can be erotic and trust is what partly makes the difference.
For a woman, her body follows her head and her head will be about herself in relation to the man she is with and men in general. She not only carries her sexual history but her mothers,friends,sisters and every other woman she has talked about men and sex with.
Men do not have the same psychological hurdles to overcome as a woman does and on top of this her body chemistry strongly affects her emotional state as "where her head is at"
I became really angry with a guy I was dating who brought me close to orgasm orally and than stopped to the point where I was yelling at him and I rarely raise my voice. It took me awhile to trust him again and in a way I never did fully again.
I felt he was messing with my mind, intentionally trying to hurt me.
What you described can be erotic and basically makes you want to be filled immediately and deeply " If it does not piss you off"
For it to work on me I would have to be highly aroused and he would have already have been inside me and than pulled out holding himself and than entering me slowly and only an inch or so but after two or three times I would not be able to take it because of the affect so would need him fully inside me.
The entrance is extremely sensitive in ways different than inside as I would think men are aware of if they are sexually experienced.
If you want to please a woman you cannot use a rule book because no two woman are exactly alike but most are similar.
Women fall on a sexual spectrum that is actually very wide in how they behave sexually because our personalities profoundly affect our sexuality.
You absolutely must know the audience you are playing to if you want applause instead of catcalls and boo's
Men love strategy and your minds are built for it but strategy without sensitivity to the woman you are with will leave her feeling cold and mistrustful.
I love a man who is entralled with his own sexual powers and it is in my interest to support this because only a man who believes in himself will satisfy me but it is how he comes to believe in himself that makes the difference.
Performance does not make the man because the man is already made and the performance is merely an expression of him that she benefits from, by being a part of it and swept up in it.
Women intuitvely know a man who "thinks about what he is doing sexually" will be a poor lover because it must come naturally. The problem for men is they must learn how to be this way so it is learning something so completely that it becomes instinctual and done without thinking.
Making love as a knowing, fully in the moment, instead of planning your next move.
Two lovers in the flow "as one". Each moving and changing in relation to the other. It has a Zen quality to it yet is also out of control and wild.
It is the raging bull not the calculating scientist that brings tingles but within this bull must be a man with a spirit that walks with God. Pure yet unholy. Both God and animal.
You bring this to me or any woman and she will respond. It is the duality of good and evil that makes a man an amazing lover. The bad boy with a heart of gold.
If you are going to tease than tease yourself at the same time.
If you are going to satisfy a woman do it for the right reasons because the wrong reasons will lead you down the path of resentment, insecurity and eventual sexual problems.
I like being sexually objectified but I don't like being used. One comes out of nature and the other fear and I can smell fear from a mile away and it is always a sexual turn off.
Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it. ~Andre Gide
"If you love someone, set him free; if you have to stalk him, he probably wasn't yours in the first place."
I've been known to tease my girlfriend in a similar way. I do it for my own enjoyment. She is mine, and if I want to make her squirm, I will. And anyways, I personally like the anticipation, and if she begs for more, all the better.
Rather than this millimeter by millimeter approach, I prefer to go in a little, then pull out and slide the head up over her clit nice and slow, and then slide it back down and in again, all while I look in her eyes with a "I'm going to fuck you hard" look. There's no lack of stimulation doing this, for either of us. It's just prolonging the full entry a little.
But I do tend to pound the living daylights out of her every time we have sex, so a bit of extra tension up front is not going to be followed up by a let down.
Also just thinking about when I most feel like teasing her like this... and it would tend to be after I'd already made her cum orally or manually.
Put me in the 'not for me' category. It's just irritating. I want his cock DEEP. But then I'm not one for cunnilungus either, unless it's fairly rough. I dunno.
I'm glad it's not just me on the receiving oral thing. It's not my fave either.
I understand the lazy Sunday stuff that Angeline talks about but it usually involves lazily wandering hands and fingers. By the time we get to actual PIV, it's Game. On.
Yeah that's what it is for us, too, I didn't mean to imply different. Just that it might be fun for us to try because that kind of lazy slow playing is fun, so maybe this would be, too. And unlike a few of the ladies who have commented, I LOVES me some oral sex, and the head of the penis is just incredibly soft, the little bit of rubbing to spread the lube or ore-cum around feels awesome, so I'm definitely willing to try it.
I can also see where for some couples it would be returning to a really bad pattern.
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The weird thing is that I can orgasm from oral but I'm still not crazy about it. As I mentioned before, even if I'm aroused, any contact with my nether regions that isn't really firm tickles me (and yes I am a very ticklish person in general) And yes, after the soft initiation phase of my marriage, I am averse to anything that seems slow or tentative. Luckily our actual sex never really went bad but soft initiatiation fucked with my head and made me fearful of anything that isnt a bit aggressive I guess. But, from a strictly physical standpoint, FOR ME, this seems like it would tickle instead of turning me on LOL.
I've been known to tease my girlfriend in a similar way. I do it for my own enjoyment. She is mine, and if I want to make her squirm, I will. And anyways, I personally like the anticipation, and if she begs for more, all the better.
Rather than this millimeter by millimeter approach, I prefer to go in a little, then pull out and slide the head up over her clit nice and slow, and then slide it back down and in again, all while I look in her eyes with a "I'm going to fuck you hard" look. There's no lack of stimulation doing this, for either of us. It's just prolonging the full entry a little.
But I do tend to pound the living daylights out of her every time we have sex, so a bit of extra tension up front is not going to be followed up by a let down.
Also just thinking about when I most feel like teasing her like this... and it would tend to be after I'd already made her cum orally or manually.
@SomeDude gets it. and Like @August_West said, it's all about controlling the dynamics. Not only do I get enjoyment from "teasing" like this, but the anticipation can skyrocket my wife's arousal. I can get her so riled up, the build up is so tantalizing, that she will O as soon as my penis enters. It's not all about mm tip teasing either, there are so many other ways to give/take/control the throttle to turn a women into a crazy begging ball of putty.
As with most things around here, it's all about frame. As @Katt eluded to, these situations are completely dictated by me with lots of commands, so it's coming from a position of dominance. These are not passive, soft initiation beta moves. And yes, I pound her through the wall when the main event starts.
If there's anything I've learned from this thread, it's that polling other men and women may be the worst way possible to find out if your wife is likely to respond well to this technique.
"My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be happy, if not, you'll become a philosopher." -Socrates
I think slow penetration can work depending on the frame that it is presented in. If you are doing it in the context of a larger theme Ala Tantric Sex then I can see this working out pretty well. If you are doing it without the aid of a larger theme, then yeah, I can see this coming off as annoying.
Regardless of what my wife would say, she friggin' loves it when I do something similar. However, its never to get her ramped up, its only done when she is already ramped up.
Messing around someplace in the house ... head to bedroom, rip off clothes .... take a dominant position over her .... tease like this ... OMFG, GUSH, MOAN ... she is a sweating heap in less than one minute. Seriously.
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So, this leads back to my understanding of the female sexual response cycle in that the slower paced lead up and harder/faster finish seems to coincide with the literature and my (again limited) experience. The 'Pound Town' experience of duty sex doesn't seem to offer that same opportunity to move through the cycle.
How do the FO's that appreciate/prefer that 'Pounding' experience get from Zero to 'O'?
This gender warfare crap Has Got To Go ladies. Jeez
Fate favors the prepared.
Obviously, field studies must be done.
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Anything that hints of her guy not being wildly into it, must. have. her. now. acts as a kind of trigger to them.
I think that's what you're hearing more than anything else.
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Teasing can be cruel or it can be erotic and trust is what partly makes the difference.
For a woman, her body follows her head and her head will be about herself in relation to the man she is with and men in general. She not only carries her sexual history but her mothers,friends,sisters and every other woman she has talked about men and sex with.
Men do not have the same psychological hurdles to overcome as a woman does and on top of this her body chemistry strongly affects her emotional state as "where her head is at"
I became really angry with a guy I was dating who brought me close to orgasm orally and than stopped to the point where I was yelling at him and I rarely raise my voice. It took me awhile to trust him again and in a way I never did fully again.
I felt he was messing with my mind, intentionally trying to hurt me.
What you described can be erotic and basically makes you want to be filled immediately and deeply " If it does not piss you off"
For it to work on me I would have to be highly aroused and he would have already have been inside me and than pulled out holding himself and than entering me slowly and only an inch or so but after two or three times I would not be able to take it because of the affect so would need him fully inside me.
The entrance is extremely sensitive in ways different than inside as I would think men are aware of if they are sexually experienced.
If you want to please a woman you cannot use a rule book because no two woman are exactly alike but most are similar.
Women fall on a sexual spectrum that is actually very wide in how they behave sexually because our personalities profoundly affect our sexuality.
You absolutely must know the audience you are playing to if you want applause instead of catcalls and boo's
Men love strategy and your minds are built for it but strategy without sensitivity to the woman you are with will leave her feeling cold and mistrustful.
I love a man who is entralled with his own sexual powers and it is in my interest to support this because only a man who believes in himself will satisfy me but it is how he comes to believe in himself that makes the difference.
Performance does not make the man because the man is already made and the performance is merely an expression of him that she benefits from, by being a part of it and swept up in it.
Women intuitvely know a man who "thinks about what he is doing sexually" will be a poor lover because it must come naturally. The problem for men is they must learn how to be this way so it is learning something so completely that it becomes instinctual and done without thinking.
Making love as a knowing, fully in the moment, instead of planning your next move.
Two lovers in the flow "as one". Each moving and changing in relation to the other. It has a Zen quality to it yet is also out of control and wild.
It is the raging bull not the calculating scientist that brings tingles but within this bull must be a man with a spirit that walks with God. Pure yet unholy. Both God and animal.
You bring this to me or any woman and she will respond. It is the duality of good and evil that makes a man an amazing lover. The bad boy with a heart of gold.
If you are going to tease than tease yourself at the same time.
If you are going to satisfy a woman do it for the right reasons because the wrong reasons will lead you down the path of resentment, insecurity and eventual sexual problems.
I like being sexually objectified but I don't like being used. One comes out of nature and the other fear and I can smell fear from a mile away and it is always a sexual turn off.
Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it. ~Andre Gide
"If you love someone, set him free; if you have to stalk him, he probably wasn't yours in the first place."
Rather than this millimeter by millimeter approach, I prefer to go in a little, then pull out and slide the head up over her clit nice and slow, and then slide it back down and in again, all while I look in her eyes with a "I'm going to fuck you hard" look. There's no lack of stimulation doing this, for either of us. It's just prolonging the full entry a little.
But I do tend to pound the living daylights out of her every time we have sex, so a bit of extra tension up front is not going to be followed up by a let down.
Also just thinking about when I most feel like teasing her like this... and it would tend to be after I'd already made her cum orally or manually.
Fate favors the prepared.
I can also see where for some couples it would be returning to a really bad pattern.
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
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@SomeDude gets it. and Like @August_West said, it's all about controlling the dynamics.
Not only do I get enjoyment from "teasing" like this, but the anticipation can skyrocket my wife's arousal. I can get her so riled up, the build up is so tantalizing, that she will O as soon as my penis enters. It's not all about mm tip teasing either, there are so many other ways to give/take/control the throttle to turn a women into a crazy begging ball of putty.
As with most things around here, it's all about frame. As @Katt eluded to, these situations are completely dictated by me with lots of commands, so it's coming from a position of dominance. These are not passive, soft initiation beta moves. And yes, I pound her through the wall when the main event starts.
If there's anything I've learned from this thread, it's that polling other men and women may be the worst way possible to find out if your wife is likely to respond well to this technique.
"My advice to you is get married: if you find a good wife you'll be happy, if not, you'll become a philosopher." -Socrates
Wow. Who knew that a slow penetration thread would be more controversial than an N-count thread.
Anyhow, If I did this for more than 10 seconds, DW would be all "WTF!" But whatever floats your boat...
Messing around someplace in the house ... head to bedroom, rip off clothes .... take a dominant position over her .... tease like this ... OMFG, GUSH, MOAN ... she is a sweating heap in less than one minute. Seriously.