i don't post or read much any more. This site can be time consuming and I'm too busy living.
My MAP:
1. Be more disciplined about the quality of food I am eating. It's the only thing keeping me from looking awesome.
2. Call my mom more. Call my friends more. I have gotten pretty introverted as my wife is an introvert and maintaining open lines of communication is time consuming and I am busy with work, work out, and wife (the 3Ws?). I will regret it if I lose these relationships.
3. Be more proactive at work. I have a ton of great ideas that I don't pull the trigger on because I don't stay an extra hour. Hours are long, but I could go more and an extra hour per day would make it appear like I am doing 20 more hours of work each week.
And that is it. Wife is doing great at work and we are getting along great. I can actually joke with her without her getting upset like she used to do. Both of us are volunteers for different non-profits. My job is great. Sex is great. Our non-existent kids aren't causing us any trouble. We save more for retirement each year than our combined incomes half our marriage ago. We are both getting in much better shape and we share the gym experience. Next year is our twentieth anniversary and I plan on:
A. Upgrading her ring
B. Taking her on an expensive vacation
C. Remodeling the master bath
Positive energy is everywhere.
It's good beta.
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Fate favors the prepared.
Into Phase 3..
Those Who Dare......Win. "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."Fate favors the prepared.
Results: she is complimenting me constantly and telling me the great things other people are saying about me. I don't care. I know she is taking care of business without me in the bedroom. I am bothered intellectually, but not really physically.
My thoughts: I need to get back in track. I need to initiate sex. I need to workout. I need to lead.
it is year 20 of our marriage. Years 18 and 19 have been our best, but this year hasn't been special. It is time I changed that.
Do it.
Fate favors the prepared.
My gym up to twice a week.
Eating smarter.
Getting way too many IOIs from students.
Ioi's?
these IOIs are still a reflection on your attractiveness, because girls don't give them to just everyone...but *acting* on them would put you in the creepy/loser bucket, even if they actually let you have them. because you are actually more attractive to them when you are off limits.
Anyway. Maybe that makes the temptation less?
Besides, it would make so many of us other old-timers so sad to think you would cheat on your wife.
Don't let your MAP die!!
I I also have gotten a huge raise recently, lead successful projects, and started learning my 9th instrument. I am learning how to cook too.
The bad thing is mostly that I am not being as badass with my wife. She is resistant and stressed from work. I am not working out enough. We are doing great in our relationship outside of sex.