Is it possible to have a good marriage when my wife is probably smarter and stronger willed than I am? We have been married for five years and things got bad on year four-textbook case. Sex dried up and I complained. Thankfully I found the blog and forum and started the MAP. I have eliminated most screaming Reds but the baseline is that she is high alpha and we clash a lot. It's been a rollercoaster the last 6 months when I started showing high value and stopped whinning. Still, it's not ideal and I feel as If I need to be on alert all the time. We grew apart but interestingly enough we have had better sex. I have considered divorce because we don't have kids yet and I definitly will not live the rest of my life in this state of ambivalence and uneasiness. Maybe I have been the distant ahole she spoke of this weekend. Maybe I have to DHV but keep showing good Beta, but when being rational I sometimes think that our personalities are just not a perfect match for H and W. I am the nice guy istj high SC and she is the independent strong woman Intj high D. We really want to work things out but it is taxing.