Wife, Married 14 Years, Triage Time

SignorePillolaRossa

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2013/02/how-to-fair-warning-a-husband-that-doesnt-listen-before-things-are-too-late-to-fix/

hey @sl3625 ;
 ... does the blog post at the link above resonate for you?

also, i wanted to push back a bit to folks who think a guy making $$$ can't be lazy bear ... i think that label fits if he is lazy about leading his marriage ... i think it is not uncommon for guys who work hard and rake in $$$ to want to come home and be maid, trayed and laid without having to continue to work so hard for them  ... as if a grateful sex kitten should await his return from work in order to meet every want and need of his without him having to do any more work ... especially if he is use to people at work asking "how high?" when he tells them to jump ... he might just want the sexy gorgeous woman whose life he finances to have a sexual smorgasbord ready for him which she has curated and prepared for him and is waiting hot and wet to lavish him with ... he wants to have to do nothing more to have it given to him ... he is lazy

dalef

SignorePillolaRossa said:

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2013/02/how-to-fair-warning-a-husband-that-doesnt-listen-before-things-are-too-late-to-fix/

Having a male figure speak to him, not just to say you are considering leaving but also why, up your girl game, and give him a copy of MMSL and the forum url are good ideas.

If he comes on the forum after several of the others, we will advise him that you are having an affair; and how do you come clean and show remorse about nothing happening?

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2013/08/getting-through-to-the-lazy-bear-husband/

Is a later post and I believe a better way to proceed. (

Ervin3070

BrianC said:

Hone your flirtation - not only do you want to respond when he flirts, but he needs to be reminded of the sexual nature of your relationship.  You can do that by flirting with him more.  Sexting is a forum favourite option, but boudoir photos, spicy love letters slipped into his lunch, teasing him by wandering around in very little clothing, etc. can help.

More importantly flirt with him in a light-handed way in public.  Laugh at his jokes, play with your hair, make some saucy comments, etc. He needs to be aware that you are in a sexual frame of mind, and have some reason to fear that if he doesn't step up his game he is going to lose you.

Actionably, do one thing every other day to express interest.

While you're at it, could you email my wife and suggest she does the same?