So I'm here for my annual post-divorce check in from you wise people of love and relationship excellence. I've actually followed the advice given to me on previous posts and have chilled out completely on dating. I'm getting my kids all super stable and feeling good, I'm in a better financial position than I've been in, ever, have spent lots of good time with friends and am finishing my master's degree, with a new job set up for the fall. I work out like a maniac and look pretty fit for my elderly age of over 40. My best friend is a hair stylist so my hair is looking pretty glorious thanks to her:) But....then there are my breasts. When I look in the mirror it's like the scene in the shining, when jack Nicholson turns around with the beautiful woman in his arms and suddenly she's an old hag. They actually are not that terrible, but I really want to get them done during this time when I actually have the money available and am genuinely not interested in dating.
I just want pretty breasts that match the rest of me (or how I see myself, at least). I definitely will enjoy them on my own because I am ridiculously vain, but of course I'd like to enjoy them with a partner some day. The last man who saw them looked visibly disappointed, so I know it's not just in my head.
So what's the consensus? Are beautiful breasts just a little bonus, or a big enough deal to make me more attractive to the better, older, successful men I'd like to date? Do they justify the $7k which could be spent taking my children to Disney or helping the poor or otherwise not just me wanting to look good in a bikini?
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Distorted or very saggy can be a turn off for me. If that is the case then maybe consider it.
Some me men are into huge breasts. Some are into small breasts. Most are just into women and enjoy the breasts just the way they are.
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I've heard so many man insist that some porn star's or actress' breasts are real, when they are clearly nicely done implants. My husband wouldn't believe that most porn stars have implants until I showed him dozens of before and afters on real self. He thought they all just had great tits. Which they do. They are just implants. Scarlett Johansson is a great example. Hers are lovely, but they are surgically enhanced. Now, I wouldn't be surprised if 10 guys show up to say "Oh no, Scarlett's are real."
Which is a roundabout way of saying, I've always suspected it was kinda worth it. Men generally think they look great. They aren't going to be clinically evaluating whether they are real, and in fact are probably biased in favor of believing they're real. Maybe once you get in bed it's a different story. But if I was single now, I'd probably get them.
But after kids? You better believe implants are happening.
As for why if single? Well I wouldn't feel as guilty splashing the cash (and maybe fibbing about how much they cost...). I think they give you an edge in the market. You can do the grody recovery stuff with no one around.
It's one of those ask forgiveness instead of permission things. I think if when my husband met me I had pretty implants, he would love it. But asking for that kind of expense when my breasts are nice enough and when we are paying down students loans while saving for a house? That's a way tougher sell.
If you're single and it bothers you, got for it.
Yes and very happy. He loves her breasts now.
Isnt this kind of like penis size? Really bad does matter. Really big matters to a few. Most aren't affected that much as long as it is in the normal size range.
If you can afford it and it makes you happier then go for it. But do it more for you more than for men. They will want you regardless.
If that's possible then get someone you trust (or two) to give you an opinion.
But yeah, age and kids change some woman a lot. And I don't see any reason you should feel weird or guilty about it.
my neighbor just had it done. She was size near-zero. And she was stunning prior to the change. Now she's even more stunning.
The other thing is you mentioned you are looking to date older successful men. Assuming that SMP dispartiy is imminent, it sounds prudent to do everything possible to up your ranking no?