Moderators, if this is not a good use of the PM system, feel free to remove this thread.
I know there are several of us looking for new jobs. And there are several people here who work in the employment field or otherwise know a lot about job hunting.
I thought we might start a private message group where we can encourage each other and share strategies.
The advantage of a PM group is that, since PMs aren't searchable or open to the public, we can be a little less anonymous, post resumes/cover letters for critique, etc.
If you're interested, and it's cool with the mods, post here and I'll start the group/add you.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
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Fate favors the prepared.
It's your call what you do with PMs @HildaCorners. I really don't care what people PM about, until something is happening in PM that requires moderation.
Typical reasons for that being, (1) complaints of harassment, (2) marriages failing because of awful cherry picked advice in PM, (3) EA's and PA's. All of which were happening with disappointing frequency.
If you can somehow avoid all that in a job search discussion... it would be appreciated.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
@Athol, I'll be careful to follow your guidelines.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
(1) Find a female member with an avatar and/or username that is sexualized somehow.
(2) Read her threads and comment on them.
(3) PM her something complimentary about her thread/what she did to handle something.
(4) Keep commenting on her thread. Agree/awesome/LOL everything she says on the forum.
(5) PM her something fun/off topic. Talk about how you do Alpha stuff in real life.
(6) Maintain doing four.
(7) PM her for advice about your situation / frustration. Create some investment and vulnerability / emotional closeness appeal.
(8) Have her spill more of her situation that she hasn't posted on the forum.
(9) Ask for an opinion on your G rated pic. "Is this shirt good?"
(10) Get her to send a G rated pic.
(11) PM her that you think she's special / hot / attractive, but that also you know it's inappropriate to do so.
(12) Express combination of general horniness, and thinking about her. Importantly don't do this in the same PM. Separate them by a few hours. You want this to be a subconscious connection.
(13) Express how much you appreciate her support and intelligence. Talk about your business expansion you're working on.
(14) Ask for PG-13 pics. Send her a pic of yourself, Photoshop the Eiffel Tower into the background.
(15) Ask what she does to satisfy her frustrated libido.
(16) Talk about how you can understand the porn minimization thing makes sense, but no FAP is just impossible.
(17) Tell her you can't keep talking to her like this, it's too personal, too intense. You're just going to work on your MAP and hit the gym hard.
(18) Dramatically fold and PM her asking for off forum contact information. Ideally do this between midnight and 1am. You can't sleep thinking about her.
(19) Once you have off-forum contact information, mix it up between that and the forum. Be normal, be fun, be flirty, enjoy your EA.
(20) Play Show and Tell games on Skype.
Pro Tip. You can do most of the early steps with more than one female forum member at once. Sometimes you can do it even in the same PM with multiple women.
So yeah... this is why we can't have nice things. Even then the horseshit advice via PMs was worse. Usually the guy omitted critical information and was seeking "she's a bitch!" feedback.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
Don't wish she were different, wish you were better.
Seriously @athol_kay I used to scratch my head some when you'd post how exhausting dealing with the PMs was, and was disappointed when PM went away. After reading this, I now scratch my head in wonder at how much patience you had to put up with all that silly bullshit for so long.
I don't say this enough: thanks for Captaining the SS MMSL. I think it's easy for many of us to forget the effort that it takes.
How will you live well today?
Fate favors the prepared.
Do you want in?
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
How will you live well today?
...I used the Burj Khalifa....
How will you live well today?
Not in specific no. But in terms of showboating something "awesome", yeah I've seen that. The point is to throw in some sort of epic display of high value. It's really not that hard to escalate things via text / PM / facebook messaging.
And for what it's worth the EA/PA thing was minimal compared to the incidence of harassment and the routine of someone trying to cherry pick the advice they wanted to hear.
For me personally, the worst thing about PMs was having to investigate complaints of harassment and discovering that guys I had spent months/years helping via email before the forum, were happily talking up a bunch of shit about me via PM.
To be blunt, the my favorite members on the forum are @Jon and @MrsJon. There have been a couple of times in the past where I seriously considered straight up deleting the forum and just moving on with my life. But I thought about them, and I didn't.
For @Jon and @MrsJon, the forum saved their marriage and turned around a really rough situation. They only show up occasionally, and when they do, they talk about their MAP, what they are doing, they cause no drama and then they leave and MAP some more.
Which makes it worth it.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
My dad was a mid-20th century electronics geek. His post WW2 job was repairing cutting edge technology — black and white televisions, and in the early 1960s, he and my mom built a Heathkit color TV. Test patterns bring back fond memories.
I've actually applied for university staff jobs, so I might have questions for you.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH