The hair down there

amblrgirl · May 2015

My dermatologist is offering 30% off all laser hair removal packages purchased this month. Hubby has given me the okay to drop some cash for underarm and bikini. I have to call tomorrow to book it if I want the deal, and I have to tell them if I want bikini only or full brazillian.

I was going to just get bikini and then keep the rest trimmed short, but hubby has expressed an interest in brazillian with a landing strip only. I'm open to that since he likes the idea of it (and trimming 1-2 times a week is annoying), but I'm a little nervous about - 1) the pain. I hear the brazillian can be a lot more painful than a bikini. 2) what if it looks weird in 30 years and I wish I had a bit more hair to hide things sagging?

Any thoughts/experiences to share?

frillyfun · May 2015

Are you really going to miss taint hair?
If you're nervous- maybe ask them to leave more up top in case "trends" change or you need to hide something???

There's a chance they might have numbing cream, or something like Dermaplast novocain spray (you can pick some up at a drugstore, and use it before the procedure.

Beatrice · May 2015

Very often pubic hair thins out as you age, so there might not be much coverage there later on anyway. I wouldn't worry about it.

The_Dude · May 2015

I'm no expert but in my (wife's) experience it isn't completely permanent. Maybe an individual thing but I'm not sure you have to worry about it being a lifelong decision. Maybe some other ladies can comment here.

amblrgirl · May 2015

frillyfun said:

Are you really going to miss taint hair?

This made me laugh! You're right, I will not miss it one bit.

Hubby re-iterated his preference by cutting out a tiny paper triangle and holding it up to me to demonstrate the "hairstyle" he prefers. So, I'm getting a brazilian with what basically looks like a little arrow pointing down to the goodies. Seems a bit forward to me, but if he's into it, I'm game!

Tiger_Lily · May 2015

One slight con I've read about is that there may be some correlation with yeast infections, possibly because without hair things tend to get a bit more sweaty down there.

Katt · May 2015

Good luck!

I am bare (strong preference for my H) but shave - the wax scares me. If it hurts on my eyebrows... LOL. Anyway let us (me) know about the pain factor / if it's irritated after because I suppose it would be a lower maintenance way to keep hair free.

I havent found any negatives to not having hair there.

Angeline · May 2015

Do I have it right that you've never shaved bare (or whatever style you're planning on getting lasered)? Even though the grow out period can be miserable, I'd recommend it before you go through all that pain and expense to make sure you both actually like the look.

amblrgirl · May 2015

Angeline said:

Do I have it right that you've never shaved bare (or whatever style you're planning on getting lasered)? Even though the grow out period can be miserable, I'd recommend it before you go through all that pain and expense to make sure you both actually like the look.

I keep a very close trim and do shave the outlying areas. But that hair is thick so that even after a fresh shave, the hair follicles are still visible and dark. And the skin is very sensitive. I've tried everything under the sun to deal with the razor bumps and ingrown hairs and nothing has ever worked really well. So between the dark hair follicles and sensitive skin, I've avoided a full shave in the area.

Hubby feels confident he will like the look. And he's really excited about the smoothness for oral. I googled pictures and it seems fine, but I will have to shave in preparation for the laser treatment, so I guess if I hate the look then, I'll tell them to do something different at the appointment.

frillyfun · May 2015

I get the best results when I shave with hair conditioner instead of shaving cream- it softens things up nicely, and I think I get fewer ingrowns. I also follow-up with some sort of salicylic acid product- like Stridex pads to keep the pores open so the hair can grow out rather than getting trapped in. A few aspirins dissolved in water can have the same effect. It stings for a minute, but after that there's a pretty good anti-inflammatory effect.

Cowboy · May 2015

amblrgirl said:

I googled pictures and it seems fine, but I will have to shave in preparation for the laser treatment, so I guess if I hate the look then, I'll tell them to do something different at the appointment.

Really? Someone had her lady regions lazered, took pictures, and posted them on the World Wide Web? I guess I shouldn't be surprised; you really can find anything out there.

Please tell me you didn't look at them at work.

Serenity · May 2015

I'm hearing a lot about what your husband thinks would look good, and not so much about your own preferences. From what you've written in other threads, your husband is not expending a lot of effort in order to attract you, and you're already doing a lot of the work to keep the attraction alive in the marriage.

Just make sure this isn't a covert contract for you that if you do xyz, he is going to magically change and exert the effort to attract you. That's a recipe for disappointment.

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2013/03/brazilian-waxing-jennifer/

amblrgirl · May 2015

@frillyfun

Thanks for the tips! I'll try it out and see if I get better results than I have in the past. I've never tried hair conditioner for shaving, but I can see how it might help.

@Cowboy Yes! There are many before and after pictures. There are also many pictures of only the after, but I usually just refer to those as porn.

@Serenity What can I say? I agree that I'm doing most of the work here, but I'm not sure he sees it that way. And to be fair, he is the one paying for all this work I'm doing. He is trying - initiating more, touching a bit more, getting things done around the house, choosing the restaurant we go to eat. And he's already an excellent provider. He told me once that the only thing he's done wrong is not knowing how to initiate. I think he still doesn't understand my need for him to lead to something fun and exciting, what kinds of initiations work, or how to really work my responsive desire. Sometimes I think he just gets busy with work and life and sort of forgets. But I do see him making an effort. Unfortunately, I admit that I haven't been able to maintain the feelings of heat that I had recaptured before his work trip in March. And at this point, I am being receptive to his initiations because I choose to be, not because I'm turned on. So, that's not ideal, but I guess I just think, "Hey, at least he's initiating now. That's a step in the right direction."

But as I've read on the forum - the stay plan is the same as the go plan. I am in no way planning to go anywhere. It would take a really bad situation for me to walk and we're nowhere near that at the moment. But whether I stay with him or leave, I need to be the most attractive, awesome version of me. I lost weight, bought new clothes, started wearing dresses and heels. Now it's on to hair removal. I'll be more attractive without the hair - to him or to someone else. And I like not dealing with the hassle. I'm definitely nervous about the pain factor, but I like the idea of feeling clean, well-groomed, and always ready for action in that area.

DireWolf · June 2015

I know, just my opinion, but I like a little variation, I may like her bare/smooth for a while, but then ask her to do a landing strip after a few months, or even grow most of it in after a few months, it probably changes 2-3 times per year. I am not sure what your hubby is like but I would probably prefer she didn't do anything permanent, I think the changes can add a little excitement.

Maria · June 2015

I prefer sugaring to waxing; it's not as painful and the result is even more smooth.
Never fear, neither waxing or sugaring is permanent after the first couple of times. You need to have it done every 6 months for quite some time in order for hair to stop regrowing. If you don't like the look there's no damage done.

I am not so fond of shaving, because I don't like the sensation of touch on even the finest of stubble in my bikini area (like chalk on a blackboard, huh); but that may be just me.

Want2bFO · June 2015

Hi folks its been awhile since I have logged on and its funny that I choose to read this thread.

I am Brazilian and I have been brazilianed wax since age 15. Including underarms. After about 10 years of waxing there was no hair at all underarms. Everthing else got finer and finer. Another 5 and the girly parts are also mostly bald now. I wish I had a landing strip now, but too late.

Its not true of yeast infections or urinary track infections either. The less hair the less bacteria and moisture hangs around. Menstrual orders are reduced.

And most importantly he will stay down there longer and you will feel more.

just sayin'

amblrgirl · June 2015

Had my first session and it was not bad at all. I have thick, dark hair so I was expecting some pain, but it was marginal and over very quickly. The laser she used for underarms and front brazillian felt like suction and a pinch. The laser she used for the really sensitive underneath parts of the brazillian had a cold tip. On the lighter hairs, I only felt the cold tip. In the thicker/darker areas, I felt the cold tip followed by a little zap, like putting your tongue on a battery. But everything was over in just a few minutes.

I get my brows and lip waxed regularly and it was less painful than that.

It's a bit early to talk results, but as far as the pain factor - no big deal.