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I received the following text from my GF of 10 months. At first I was flattered. Then it struck me this sound beta. I've worked hard the past 18 months on alpha. I don't want a "relapse". How should the text be interpreted?
text:...Not once do I ever feel your prying...just
concerned...
I ask a lot of questions, as well..
If ever I ask too many just tell me to shut up ..Lol
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If you were to post a triage we could better help you.
Fate favors the prepared.
Not once do I ever feel your prying...just concerned...
I ask a lot of questions, as well..
If ever I ask too many just tell me to shut up ..Lol.
I am SOooooo very thankful to have someone like you ,that's just easy you get it, understand,smart, compassionate, all and then some...I don't think you realize how much I love that about you ..your just easy in all ways.
Though old habits die hard, we try not to talk "alpha" or "beta" here. Instead, Athol uses the terms Attraction and Relationship Comfort.
For a one night stand, Attraction is enough. But for a long term relationship, you need to provide that comfort as well.
There are different types of Attraction and Relationship Comfort. Different people need different mixes of them. But any relationship that's going to last beyond a long weekend needs both, and from both partners.
The text sounds like she's looking for you to lead the relationship. Nothing "beta" about that.
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"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
It sounds like she's replying to something, and I can't tell much about what she's getting at without knowing what.
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