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The Married Guy's Guide to Wife Part Four is Live!
Athol_Kay
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The Married Guy’s Guide to Wife Part Four is now done!
The Married Guy's Guide to Wife Part TWO.
The Married Guy's Guide to Wife Part THREE.
The Married Guy's Guide to Wife Part FOUR.
$10 Off Code
There is currently a $10 off code for buying all five episodes in Part One. The code is MARRIEDGUY.
There is currently a $10 off code for buying all six episodes in Part Two. The code is MARRIEDGUY.
There is currently a $10 off code for buying all five episodes in Part Three. The code is MARRIEDGUY.
There is currently a $10 off code for buying all five episodes in Part Four. The code is MARRIEDGUY.
$0.99 Rental for Episode One of Part One
Something else to note is that the rental is just $0.99 on Episode One of Part One.
Free Stuff
There’s a couple of extra features you can watch for free on the Vimeo page of Part One. A 16 minute video about the progression of Primer --> MAP Book --> Married Guy’s Guide to Wife. There's also a 7 minute preview of the entire series.
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That's about it, thanks in advance to everyone who buys and has supported us along the way.
...and now we get started on Part Five!
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. 
He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
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I bought part 4. Got $10 off. Downloaded all 5 episodes. Converted them to MP3 and loaded them on my phone. I'll listen while commuting.
It will be like carpooling with @Athol_Kay for the next few weeks!
Morpheus: "My beliefs do not require them to."
Very few I've abandoned, but certainly a whole lot of nuance is different.
It's a whole lot smoother to apply and ultimately a more effective toolset.
If by "changing my views" they mean I've adapted the material to not cause asshole Alpha to implode a marriage around the six month mark, then yes, that is a significant change.
I've also vastly more focused on exactly what the guy needs to know to get his marriage back on track and head him towards the sex he wants. The Primer had a far amount of extra material that simply wasn't focused on the primary goal of achieving that. Cutting it isn't the same as changing a viewpoint.
The most significant changes I've had since I wrote the Primer is seeing the role of endocrine disorders creating situations that mimic psych disorders.
Leadership Moments did not appear in the Primer and is the #1 tool I've developed.
Loyalty Testing wasn't in the Primer and is critical as well.
I've also expanded a great deal on the importance of the Captain role as well since then.
The MAP book tweaked the Phases of the MAP ordering a little.
Relationship Momentum is a concept not in either Primer or MAP Book and is likewise huge.
The Six Brands of Attraction, Six Brands of Comfort and Six Brands of Sexuality are new, but also based on the Three Love Systems on which the Primer is based on.
Some common concepts are renamed for clarity.
The Primer has next to nothing on Outcome Independence.
The Primer has next to nothing on tailoring initiations to maximizing both sexual frequency and improving Relationship Momentum.
There is also a critical error in the Primer about an assumption that all guys reading it already had an oversupply of Beta, and thus adding Alpha was creating balance, when in fact a good number of guys reading were deficient in Beta and adding more Alpha creating additional problems.
The video material is designed for the brand new guy to start from scratch and introduce the content in a methodical manner for his to make the right moves in the right order.
I suspect that mostly the core complain of changing viewpoint is that I am not angry at women or willing to help lead a Men's Right's parade. All I'm here to do is fix marriages. The gender warfare just distracts from all of that.
I'm also becoming acutely aware that the "Red Pill" motif is becoming increasingly toxic to having a successful married relationship, for exactly the same reason someone with a Women's Studies degree is going to be a crappy partner as well. You can't ship a justified sense of hatred or rage at the opposite sex into your relationship and get the success you want.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force.
He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
Oh and the most humbling change since the Primer days, is the realization that if attraction is the only problem for the guy, they can get the sex and marriage they want by Phase Three of the MAP.
The women *all* have to go to at least Phase Four and maybe further, to get the response they want.
The MAP process is basically the same for men and women, but the women aren't the Captain, so they all have to essentially stage a mutiny of sorts to get the husband to respond.
Just repeating that, there have been ZERO cases I know of on the forum where the wife just turned on the Girl Game and the husband responded by checking into the marriage and generally acting better / dealt with the relationship breaking thing that she came to the forum to address in the first place.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force.
He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
Fate favors the prepared.
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Fate favors the prepared.
The trick is getting the right material into the outstretched hands ... for most new guys, the videos are best. For women, MAP and being active on the forum is best, and for the "My marriage is fine, I'm just curious", MMSLP gives a lot of theory, and this guy might realize his marriage needs work, too.
It's all gold.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
You can rent them for a week.
Part Four is the responsive desire and sexual flavors.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force.
He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
If you get discouraged, and don't start a MAP then you definitely won't get changes. If you MAP just to get your H to change you'll probably beat your head against the wall a lot. If you MAP to get the best life possible then that's what you'll get.
Good luck.
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force.
He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet