@Angeline during the times I laid down consequences it didnt happen. But I am at a point that if this is something that keeps coming up, she needs to do what she wants. Am tired of being blamed.
So why is it that you fear her leaving you? why aren't you working to be awesome? with the side benefit that maybe you learn you can do better? The main benefit of course is being awesome.
"Speak your truth." - Scarlet Remember to play! Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not. Be married, until you are not.
Yep. Which right now I am. (In a custody dispute 5 years later and the change in my kids life could hurt that). But still dont want to be trampled on.) and they love her. .
I dont think I have caved in the pasr. Actually kicked her out for two months in the past for violating my relationship boundaries. Right now, feel between a rock and a hard spot. She knows I will follow through, but also Knows I need her now due to my ex wanting to move my kids away. We have 50/50 right now.
Btw. I have done a call with Athol which was perfect for what I needed at the time, and I would highly recommend. However I trying to save every penny for a legal battle right now. My last one cost over 30k. . And my ex's family has unlimited resources.
Understand, and I did one in the Men's Gold Section, was a Moderator, not sure if you have the ability to see, but I am fine if you do I was trying to keep private due to the legal issues, hope you can understand.
So why is it that you fear her leaving you? why aren't you working to be awesome? with the side benefit that maybe you learn you can do better? The main benefit of course is being awesome.
I am awesome.. and so is she for 95% of things.. yes, there are things I can work on, and am.. but..
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BlackwulfLeading the pack. Silver MemberPosts: 1,782
If you have in the past said you would be done if she has a relationship with her friend and you haven't starting down the road of ending it, then it is on you. You have telegraphed you are weak on boundaries and she can do what she wants.
@Blackwulf are you suggesting tomorrow I start a move out plan? My first mediatio with ex is next Wednesday?
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BlackwulfLeading the pack. Silver MemberPosts: 1,782
No, I would confront her about it and spell it out that you don't think this person is a good influence on her and that she has the option of being with you or not. The problem is though she likes these women and identifies with them. To combat the identification you have to be seen as higher value.
If you have room to move her out of the bedroom and into another then I would do that.
Shit. Too late. I told her that based on her decisions and how she knew that that I felt about F1. That it was an ender, but F2 wasnt. And that she acknowledged that but still did it, at this point I didnt see a future, although we would discuss tomorrow. (Half day for me) and her kids are gone at 17:00. I understood her relationship with F1 and hoped she could understand that I was being true to what she knew and has always been the same. Then she went to work.
Honestly. I feeling... I was happy single, granted under different circumstances, but had good friends, good Family, and a great relationship with my kids. I am ready to say fuck it all. But am held back by the idea that if she has changed... Would be making a huge mistake. Sorry all.
Honest question: can there ever be real trust in a relationship that originated in infidelity? I have known a couple of relationships that started as affairs, and they were full of jealousy, suspicion, and drama. I just don't know how you achieve trust in a relationship that started as inherently untrustworthy behavior.
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Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
If you have room to move her out of the bedroom and into another then I would do that.
huge mistake. Sorry all.
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net