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I think wife's love languages are Quality Time and Gifts. Her version of quality time is not so much really intimate moments together, as just having me around and available. She doesn't like it when I leave the house after she is asleep, for example. I'm OK at gifts, but would like to take this up a notch. What are some things I can do for wife that would be meaningful for her in one of these two areas?
My love languages are Touch and Acts of Service. 1> How can I get these met (legitimately) outside of the marriage (so I'm not dependent on wife) and 2> what are some non-sexual ways of getting these met from wife?
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Thank you, @growingafamily. Is this the book you were referring to?
http://www.amazon.com/The-Five-Love-Languages-Singles/dp/1598595474
Thank you, @john3. I'm pretty sure that this is a love language for the wife. She's just happier when I'm "around," and unhappy when I'm not, even if she's asleep or doesn't want to engage with me, she just wants to know I'm there. Not the traditional Quality Time, but it seems to be her variant of it.
Thanks in advance to others who comment.
The reviews are saying it's aimed at dating and opposite-sex friendships and not much on same-sex friendships, though. Like I said I read it a while ago and I seem to remember quite a bit of non-romantic stuff in it. Like boss-employee, etc.
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There is also a love languages at work book; don't remember the name right off.
Thank you very much, @elise. I appreciate this.
BTW, what is "RC"?
Also, I keep seeing "ETA," what is that, too?
Thank you, @dalef, I will look for it.
@Angeline, there is a martial arts gym, I will check that out.
RC is probably Relationship Comfort
ETA is internet slang for Edited To Add
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
I liken this to methadone for those of us in sexless/intimacy empty marriages. Just wish they didn't cost so much but well worth the money. Fills up the touch tank nicely.
Fortunately my teen son still likes to hug his Mom, but that's only a small amount of touch. One of my 127 former mothers-in-law insisted her son give her foot massages; I found this weird and a bit perverse.
I find a good bath/shower can also help offset the need for touch to an extent. When I lived in the Silicon Valley, I was a regular at Watercourse Way, where I could pay $20 and get an hour of private sauna/hot tub/cold plunge. Wonderful! I wish there was a similar place in my current area.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
What are you other love languages, by the way?
Google: 5 love languages.
There is a test you both can take to define further.
Fate favors the prepared.
Thanks
So I got:
12 Physical Touch
8 Quality Time
5 Words of Affirmation
3 Acts of Service
2 Receiving Gifts
I expect my GF is:
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch