I got my first grey hair at age 19. Now nearly twenty years later, more than half my hair is grey/white. For a few years now I've used permanent darkest brown hair dye to dye my grey roots every three weeks. It works pretty well, I still suit very dark hair and get a lot of compliments on my mane of hair
I'm pale but dark haired - lots of people say I look like a young Catherine Zeta Jones but with light grey eyes. I'll take that!
Now? I'm fed up of dyeing my hair. Both the hassle and putting horrible chemicals on me. I'm petrified I'm going to get cancer or similar from dark hair dye. I'd grown a silver streak at the front for a month whilst looking for a dye without PPD in. I found one, but I'm seriously considering just growing my hair out without dyeing it any more.
I am pretty young for a headful of grey hair. I've felt older looking in the mirror. I don't dislike how it looks but I do feel it ages my face. Plus I wonder if as someone who people usually think is ten years younger, how I'm going to be perceived with a young face but grey hair.
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I developed gray hair fairly late, but I can take 10 years off my age by dyeing my hair. I go for a light red-brown, and use a demi-permanent so I can go longer between dye sessions ... my grays show, but it looks natural.
If you do go gray, it's important to look expensive and youthful — not like a kid, but like a wealthy woman in her late 20s. A good hairstyle and makeup will go a long way to making you look sexy and not too old.
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I have dark hair that is probably 25 - 30% gray with a silver stripe running through it, and I love my hair. (The stripe looks a lot like Stacy London's.) I am also about 15 years older than you, so that's a factor. I hate the texture of my hair when it is colored, although I think that is all in my head, not a real problem. Lol. I did color my hair for a lot of years since I developed gray hair early.
I have always found silver hair on a young face and trim body to be very attractive for both men and women.
ETA: If your hair is dark, then 50% gray hair isn't really gray. It's gunpowder.
The problem is, if you really want expensive, youthful looking silver hair - it's going to cost you. A lot. In time and care.
No other hair colour is more expensive than good looking grey or silver.
Only very few women look great and young wearing their natural, greying hair IMO.
If you want us to be unapologetically feminine, be unapologetically masculine.
2) Sra PR started going gray in her mid 20s, before we had any kids - she started coloring it and hasnt stopped in ~25 years ... she would not look nearly as attractive to me if she was all grey or some straggly grey/mousy brown blend - it REALLY wouldnt work with her skin coloring - the reddish/golden brown really warms her beautifully
3) if someday you are single and wanting to attract the highest possible quality partner, i am nearly certain that you'll have best chances with nicely colored hair
4) unless you are emmylou harris or equivalent, its not going to be as awesome - if it doesnt shimmer and move in rich full waves like a high elfen maiden in rivendell or lothlorien, it wont be awesome enough
5) its only hair, whatever you decide doesnt have to be the decision you live with forever
best of luck
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I have gotten a really good cut (lots of layers and about five inches off) to remove the damaged hair and am now doing a brunette colored glaze. It lasts me about six weeks and fades, so the grey skunk line isn't as noticeable. My hair feels great. I will get it cut every twelve weeks for the remainder of the year. Once all the color is out, then I will let the glaze fade out and will grow my hair to mid-back (it's just below my shoulders now).
I am 50 now and my dad, aunt, and grandmother all went gray at this age. My dad and grandmother never colored their hair and yes, it initially aged them; but when they started hitting 60, 70, 80, and 90, people *always* commented on how they don't/didn't look a day older than 55. Why? Because they are pretty much etched in time at 50-55 slot with the grey hair. My aunt on the other hand, did dye her hair up through to her late 60's and then decided to ditch the color. She aged about 20 years doing that and regrets ever coloring her hair. She told me recently that she wishes she had just sucked it up at 50, lived with the short-term vanity crisis, so that she too, could've enjoyed the "you haven't aged a bit" remarks in her golden years.
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@judyjudy since you have the dark dye already in, what is your plan for growing out the gray? Is there any chance you could add some blonde, or would that not work well with your coloring? I ask because when you have blonde in there, it's not so noticeable when roots begin to grow out. It's way more obvious when you have dyed it a dark color and grays start growing out.
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Uh I just had a lightbulb moment. I've been kind of astonished at how young I think I and my slightly older peers look compared to how old I thought people our age looked when I was a kid. I thought it was just an age/perception thing but I'm remembering now how much blonde highlights and terrible short haircuts were in style in the late 80's/early 90's when I was a kid, and I'm sure that has something to do with it. More women are going longer and with less blonde these days, and for the better.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
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It might not be logical, but it is definitely an issue for me.
This was supposed to be part of the post that said "No", but my computer's electrons went squirrely on me. The post submitted and my computer restarted.
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Lots of frosted blond looking highlights on my color hair not so much. Dead giveaway.