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Hi there. This is my first time here and I really need some help. I’m not sure where to start so please excuse me – everything seems like such a mess right now. I’ll do a summary and then provide the triage questions if that’s ok.
I feel like I have totally screwed up. I have made the critical mistake of bringing up the issue of no sex with my wife (before I became aware of the MAP). If only I had come across the Primer and MAP book many months ago (even years), things may be totally different now. I’ve started reading “No More Mr Nice Guy” and I fit the Nice Guy Syndrome profile.
My wife is so offended I have made a big deal about this she is prepared to end the marriage. All she seems to want is for me to leave the house so she can "have some space". If only I had known I could have worked on the MAP and hopefully turned things around. To complicate things only a few weeks ago she has gotten back in touch with an “old friend” via Facebook. They met the other night (Saturday 11th Jan) and I made things worse by looking like a possessive loser to her and pushing her further away (I was monitoring her chats and knew she was planning to meet). I am pretty certain they did something physical that night but can't be sure. Regardless I confronted her and she didn't even care.
I feel like I've pushed her to this point through my actions. Now we're in some kind of no man's land waiting for the final curtain. I'm really worried about our 4 year old son - I don't want to get shafted if we separate. All I know is I'm not leaving the house until we sort this out and I want to share the care equally for our boy if we end things. I am willing to work on our marriage but I am so confused how things escalated so quickly. I need a reality check. I'm building the courage to get a session with Athol - even if it is just to get some kind of reality check in this insanity. I would appreciate your thoughts. We have a counselling session (pre-booked) tomorrow. I have no idea what will happen with this.