My story - a triage too late

Under_Construction

@MissD that's a great idea 

Templar

Sorry to have been so absent, of late. Life, on my end has been . . . hectic.
Man, you are handling this so well! Yes, there are speed bumps. That is what happens when other people have control over any aspect of your life.
The reassurance that you will see him in a definite amount of time is makes a huge difference - especially if you sound confident when you tell him. Though the STBX is making waves, just ignore them and keep the seas calm for your son. You have already displayed strength and stability. Keep it up! Your future is bright and awaiting for you - you are simply going through a dark hallway and are soon to burst out into the bright sunlight!

Under_Construction

Thanks @Templar much appreciated. I hope things slow down a bit for you

Under_Construction

Well it's the end of Christmas Day in Aussie land and I wanted to make one final post on the forum.

So, a year ago my life stared to turn upside down. My wife wanted me out of the house. She became a stranger overnight. I tried, I really did try everything to save my marriage. It took a long time to come to terms with the fact it was dead. I tried to understand why, why it all went sour, why she wanted me out, why she didn't think we could share the care of our son, why she found it so easy to throw me under a bus.... I found out what it was like to come home to an empty house. I was told by a "professional" that I didn't understand the developmental needs of my own son. I was told I was thinking of my own needs. Handovers are a weird out of body experience where my wife (or her parents) don't say a word. I'm at war with my STBX. I'm constantly concerned about my actions and how that will impact on my future with my son.......

But it will be ok. I found support in family, friends and in this forum. I'm fitter than I ever was. I'm playing music again with close friends and I'm writing songs again. I'm finding my way. I know I need to be patient and keep moving forward. I'm trying my best to be a good father and I'm constantly learning.

My son told me today "this is the best Christmas ever". That's all I can ask for right now. Thank you everyone for taking the time to read and give your support and advice. I know stuff like this is a massive energy drain. I really appreciate it, I really do.

And thanks Athol, you're a great guy. Merry Christmas and God bless.

HildaCorners

I'm so glad you got to spend at least part of Christmas with your son!