So it came to my attention yesterday that there have been observations made about appropriate female work attire. It came up in a conversation between myself and a coworker (she is about 22). She says that another male coworker of ours made the comment that we (she and myself) shouldn't be wearing yoga pants to work because they're too provocative (my word, not his, I don't know what word he used). This man isn't a supervisor, but he's generally well-respected. So as a result she (my coworker) has stopped wearing pants that are tight. Which I think is bullshit, and I told her so. (She happens to be my subordinate, but we are friends.) She says she bikes all over campus, and needs to wear pants that allow her to bike and walk around as well as look somewhat professional at work. I absolutely understand this and I encouraged her to wear whatever she would like.
I live in the South, and there is still so much of this kind of thinking here. I wear yoga pants everyday because they're so comfortable, and yes they make me feel feminine. My husband has tried to school me on what kinds of underwear are best to avoid panty-lines, and I don't have the most perfect body, but I'm in decent shape and wearing tight pants is flattering on me, I think (and my H agrees). My female coworker has actually said she doesn't wear underwear under hers because she's embarrassed about panty-lines. My boss himself told me (somewhat inappropriately) that I was looking really fit in my legs (but it didn't bother me because I know him well). I don't wear short skirts. I don't wear cleavage-revealing tops. And most certainly I've observed the male coworker who made the comment about our pants ogling me and my legs multiple times. Really obviously. It's slightly disconcerting, but he's harmless. There is one other male employee that makes me (and my female coworker) a little uncomfortable, but we are both careful to stay away from him, and so all is well.
So what is this attitude about women's clothing? Or about yoga pants specifically? I don't get it.
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Seriously, W wears 'yoga pants' to work with various outfits frequently - had 'em on today in fact. She has good, solid Girl Game, and dresses very well for her job. Knowing you as well as an internet-stranger can, I imagine you look very professional with solid game - not see-through with halter-tops (those are for other occasions). I have no issues with any of W's outfits - she looks solid, professional, and frankly hot.
Methinks your co-worker is simply projecting his own issues here. Eff him. If you really have a concern, ask your Sup. - is my attire considered within our policy - either official or unofficial - of work attire? Do you have any concerns? Do we need an 'official' policy?
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"Yoga pants" covers a wide range of possibilities. I can think of yoga pants (more like tights) that would be wildly inappropriate for my work environment, and there are others that I've worn to work on a casual day.
I work with students, and I've seen some jawdroppingly-inappropriate outfits, and that doesn't equal sexy or attractive, either. Just...please, no.
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I work in a "business attire" environment, and never thought yoga pants fit in with that. There is a very fit young lady in my office who wears them sometimes. While the yoga pants never seemed appropriate here, I would never say anything because (a) it's none of my business, and (b) eye candy.
@forestleaf, you asked, "So what is this attitude about women's clothing? Or about yoga pants specifically? I don't get it." Well, I, and probably a lot of men, think it's about as sexy as cleavage. (Even sexier if worn with thong or no underwear - we can tell.) That's probably why some people don't like it outside of the gym or home.
I think I do dress professionally. I came from working on a farm where I was wearing jeans and t-shirts daily, so when I began this job I bought a number of basic blouses/tops that I felt were appropriate although not super "dressy" (and far removed from the informality of t-shirts). I usually feel a little more exposed wearing tighter tops along with my yoga pants, and more comfortable when I have a looser, longer sweater over the top or at least a looser top like today. I'll admit my top today isn't super dressy.
I should point out that I rarely interact with public, although I do. I certainly don't have to wear power suits or anything like that, LOL.
@Angeline I am going to post a pic I just took. Lighting is not great, sorry. I pulled the shirt up a bit to see the actual pants. Can't get a photo down to floor because it's a bathroom mirror. And I know I have panty lines. Which is what my H comments on. Is that maybe the issue?
"And most certainly I've observed the male coworker who made the comment about our pants ogling me and my legs multiple times. Really obviously. It's slightly disconcerting, but he's harmless. There is one other male employee that makes me (and my female coworker) a little uncomfortable, but we are both careful to stay away from him, and so all is well."
There's NOTHING wrong with looking.
If you're going to wear clothes that show off the assets, it's poor form to act as if the guys who notice this are somehow dangerous, and need a wide berth.
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This kind of bugs me. I'm glad to hear about your attitude toward it because who the hell cares what someone else chooses to wear? But I don't think it's justified to ask women who wear yoga pants to not wear them. I felt kind of protective about my female coworker who is now too embarrassed to wear them. I felt pissed off that the male coworker would say something to her (but nothing to me). Damn. Maybe I should just wear a burka and call it a day.
Angeline said: Yeah, that's part of what I was getting at.
There is no black and white answer here, sorry!
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