This post is a followup to something I mentioned to
@htx2008 in a thread of his
So the catchphrase to remember is "Bickering is beta"
Where did that thought come from.
Background: as a health industry professional who has gone out into the world of startup companies and the executive suite, I've been privileged to meet and get to know men who can be classified as true Alphas.
These guys are a breed apart, and for the record, they recognize each other when they meet, and they interact very differently with each other than they do with "subordinates."
One thing I've noticed is, and filed in my memory banks is:
these guys never bicker.
Just want to put that out there. I can elaborate if people are interested.
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I'd like to hear you elaborate too.
No excuses, no drama, just get it done.
All out War on the other hand...
How will you live well today?
At least that's what I have learned from working with C level executives.
I guess some teams are more sane than others
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
@Elise said: "and a common interest in success that creates a big discussion then plan for action. "
@Reborn said: "I guess some teams are more sane than others"
I watched two C level Execs engage in what could only be described as 'open warfare' for a period of years. Much to the absolute detriment of their personal (and the entity's) 'common interest' - it was a power-play that never ended. It was fascinating frankly. They were Alphas on steriods BTW - no one was going to back down. Ever. I guess its true - it sure as hell wasn't 'bickering'.
So, maybe the health care industry is more genteel than others. And Cripes Almighty @Rorschach @Ellise put a bunch of C / Senior Exec level folks who are attorneys in a room. Ha! Watch the posturing, peacocking, sniping, potshots, one-ups, etc. begin.
How will you live well today?
How will you live well today?
And in my experience, the bickering flows MUCH more easily downhill than any other direction.
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
One of the more fun parts of the day is watching my Alpha lawyer move through the halls. He stops to chat with other suits, asks if they're also going to Judge X's retirement party, exchanging pointers on dealing with the new judge ... most of my life, I've dealt with engineers and nerds, so watching smooth Alpha at work is a delight.
My lawyer does not bicker. He does not show emotion (even when my ex started swearing at him.) Instead, he calmly goes for the jugular.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
Its a fascinating character study: F. Ross Johnson, Henry Kravis, Nick Forstmann, George Roberts, Jim Robinson...all these titans of industry and Wall Street - all Alphas on steroids. One guy in the book had the nickname of 'Mad Dog' and ate Milkbones in meetings and barked at people. What's fascinating to me is that they all lost sight of The Prize - in this case, the leveraged buyout of RJR Nabisco - and it became an all consuming fight to 'Win'.
In the end, KKR 'won' - they took-over RJR/N. But destroyed it - and everything in their path; they ultimately had modest returns on some assets they sold off and took losses on others.
The Prize became secondary to The Fight. It became 'winning at whatever cost'. 20+ years later, this is still probably one of the best and most interesting business books you'll ever read. Still used as a case study in many MBA/business schools.
Pick it up - its a roller-coaster of a read. And very insightful in terms of watching what happens when The Fight becomes the real prize.
How will you live well today?
If one won cases based on the quality of the argument ...
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
Read what she said, think long and hard, about what you "think you know" about Alpha, then compare it to what Hilda has said.
Then relax for a second . . . and think about whether you would like to be the kind of man women take delight in watching.
The clue truck has driven up to the loading dock.
Are you going to take delivery?