Have a close friend who just went through a nightmare divorce and custody battle (which he mostly lost).
He's a wreck emotionally, physically, everything. Part of the reason he lost so badly in the divorce.
I am thinking he needs a structured approach to getting his shit together. Basically the MAP but focused around recovering for this.
I'm sure there are lots of books out there but I debate which ones might be intelligent, structured, logical and not just self help bestseller crap.
Suggestions?
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Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
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Is the book to recommend.
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I don't know if there is a set amount of time, no greiving period for divorce. I think the moment the papers are signed, start again. And how can you start over right, if you dont know where you went wrong?
If I get fired as a cook, should I go sit at home and sulk for 6 months then go apply for another cooks position? Or should I immediately start learning to be a better cook? If I just wing it and pray, I will get fired again.
I am doing that right now, as my map. I am learning, applying, learning applying until it becomes me. Only then will I think of another relationship.
perhaps he needs an introduction to Red Pill thinking. Just be there for him and talk. Support his needs and get him moving forward
Into Phase 3..
Those Who Dare......Win. "What gives you fear today...Gives you Strength tomorrow.."After my marriage broke up, I was foundering until I discovered Athol's blog. From the first post I read, things about my relationship started making sense, and the more I read, the more I understood why the marriage was doomed, and what my (tiny) part in it was.
Knowing this, I was able to start healing. And when Athol started the forum, and published the MAP book, I was able to see past the "in marriage" talk and pull what's helpful for me. And it's been *very* helpful.
I'm an Enneagram 5w4. The 5 in me processes things by reading/research, and has no problem pulling the useful bits from a larger picture. If your friend process things the same way I do, I'd get him on board with MAP and the forum as soon as he's ready.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
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