Alpha, yes it is a real turn on for me and who knew? I have just figured this out the last few months trying to get our sex life back on track. Getting through to my husband of course is another challenge all together. We have made some progress but not nearly enough for me. We seem to be using lots of toys in the bedroom lately which is fine as its hard for me to have an O without lots of stimulation so for the most part I am good with it, his hands however sometimes is all I want but I have an issue getting there, but he seems bound and determined for me to have an O every time we have sex. It doesn't always happen but I keep trying to get it a crossed that it is not always my goal. The other day when we were about to get to it he says whats your pleasure today? basically asking me what toys I wanted and I just looked at him and said whats your pleasure lets let it be about that! Then I said do what you want and make yourself the priority which actually would really turn me of if he just grabbed me and did what he wanted for his pleasure. He has been working a little better with the responsive desire but has a ways to go. So yesterday we headed to the bedroom had been having an adult beverage or two and he did not ask what I wanted he just went over to the toy box and got out what he wanted to and headed for the bed. Then he began with the foreplay and it was getting steamy and he finishes the drink and says to me I am going to make us another drink and your going to stroke my cock while I do it. I almost fell over, shocked the shit out of me but turned me on like no other, he was still half dressed and I was naked and I said but I am naked and he said so, so I just followed him to the kitchen and did what he asked while he was fixing the drink and it had me hornier than hell, just that pure dominance of the request did more than 20 minutes of foreplay with a vibe would have, so I am stroking him while he is slowly making the drink of course and I just rubbed up and down on his leg too and pressed my boobs on his back and needless to say that session was awesome and I had an O that was so intense and I know it was just because my state of arousal was so high after that little session in the kitchen. He was more dominant in the actual act too as he said I am gonna tit fuck you so get up on that pillow and I just did as he asked, wow, getting me all worked up just thinking about how it went down. Now to just get him to do more of that YES PlEASE!!!!