Can't Keep up. Ladies Opinions Needed.

leoslayer

Alright I know first world problems. But I'm not sure I can keep up with my new main girl V.

She wants it constantly two to four times a day when I'm around. I've been able to perform every time but one ( had mistaken identity with police and had 6 guns in my face so my stress level was high that night).

I know the golden rule is never turn down a female initiation and I haven't but even if I have all this sex I might not orgasm.

Personally I like 3-5 times a week at this point in my life. I'm seeing her 12 days in a row thru this week. How can I navigate this without a big DV?

I'm perfectly happy with CTMC!!! Will that work ladies?

PhoenixDown

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

RedPillRon

^^^^This^^^^^

LadyOrTheTyger

PhoenixDown said:

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

3)  Captain other interesting activities that will take you out of the house in each other's company so you get to know each other better outside the bedroom, and there is less time for her to demand sex. 

leoslayer

PhoenixDown said:

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

What do you think CTMC is?

Cunnilingus To Multiple Completions. I get her off multiples and multiples. Just hoping that'll be enough every now and then cause even when I do get her off 3-8 times she still wants to be pounder to a few more.

She has multiple PIV orgasms.

Tennee

Have sex when you feel like having sex.  Don't have sex when you don't feel like having sex.   Its your dick.  And/or tongue.  And fingers...

Totally agree with LOTT - what are you doing to build a relationship - I am assuming that is still what you're after vs. just another FB - with V?  

My caution to you:  make sure you aren't putting yourself in a position where sex becomes a 'chore'; that you have to check the box (huh huh, huh huh) X times per week or [Insert Bad Thing Here].   That leads to resentment.   You're already writing like its a chore. 

She's very high drive - awesome.  Why are you in the frame of "I have to keep up X times or its DLV?"  Why not be in the frame of "I am Awesome, lets go do lots of Awesome stuff, and hence I am a walking/talking/dancing/prancing DHV machine?"

leoslayer

LadyOrTheTyger said:

PhoenixDown said:

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

3)  Captain other interesting activities that will take you out of the house in each other's company so you get to know each other better outside the bedroom, and there is less time for her to demand sex. 

This is the same girl that's had me bang her mid day on a city Greenway and multiple times on the hood of her car. 

With her there's not much escaping.

LadyOrTheTyger

leoslayer said:

LadyOrTheTyger said:

PhoenixDown said:

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

3)  Captain other interesting activities that will take you out of the house in each other's company so you get to know each other better outside the bedroom, and there is less time for her to demand sex. 

This is the same girl that's had me bang her mid day on a city Greenway and multiple times on the hood of her car. 

With her there's not much escaping.

Where the hell are you that it's cool enough to touch the hood of a car in the middle of the day right now?  


Just say no to indecent exposure and public nudity charges.  

Seriously, if she's having you do things that could get you arrested saying no is completely okay.  

amblrgirl

@LOTT - Seems like taboo is a strong brand of attraction for her. Won't denying that be problematic for the relationship? Or are there good alternatives to satisfy that brand?

soa2005

"Seriously, if she's having you do things that could get you arrested saying no is completely okay.  "

Yea but where's the fun in saying no to that? I agree with @Tennee. Also, semi public sex is a risk worth taking if that's what you're into.

leoslayer

What I'm basically asking is if 25% of the time would you be good with oral only for you or perhaps a combination of oral and a nice massage.

I figure that's the equivalent of BJTC.

leoslayer

To be clear we do tons of stuff together. Went to a movie Friday. Taught her to shoot Saturday afternoon and took her on a ghost hunt Saturday night. Things didn't pop as much as normal Saturday but she couldn't handle more than an hour with the ghosts. 

Hiking, beach, go dancing. 

It's not just bang and see you later.

PhoenixDown

leoslayer said:

PhoenixDown said:

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

What do you think CTMC is?

Cunnilingus To Multiple Completions. I get her off multiples and multiples. Just hoping that'll be enough every now and then cause even when I do get her off 3-8 times she still wants to be pounder to a few more.

She has multiple PIV orgasms.

Oh. I honestly didn't know what that meant. 

frillyfun

 She may be trying to find your limits with this. When you test drive a car don't you want to redline it to see what it can do?

As someoner who definitely isn't a one, and done kind of gal I can say I've never hit an upper limit.  Once I'm warmed up I can keep cracking out O's until I'm over it, or I think I might hurt H.

One trick you might try is detumescing her pelvis when you're done.  Blood flows in to get everything going, and it tends to stick around in some people.  If you press the palm of your hand gently on her pubis it helps calm things down.

If you're not physically into sex because you've already had a bunch of sex then saying so isn't necessarily a DLV, and whatever TC is certainly a valid option. Just be sure to play it off as cocky/funny instead of an outright rejection.

Angeline

Well, improving your oral skills still applies lol

Angeline

Play risky - fun. Actual risk of arrest, tagging of sexual predator - not fun. In many places public sex gets you a sex crimes charge. Anyone who doesn't get that once it's explained can pound sand. 

leoslayer

@frillyfun thanks. Perfect answer.

@Tennee would almost being shot for her qualify as relationship building or FB building?
FTR it didn't impact her libido in any way.

Angeline

It's possible you aren't hitting her particular flavor (see Athol's videos) so she doesn't feel sated. Say (for example) she's into very sensual or very rough, and you are just having lots if straight sex - it's still great but it isn't as deeply satisfying as adding in some spanking or gazing into her eyes or whatever her thing is.

MikeOriely81

PhoenixDown said:

1) Be around her less

Or 

2) Start working on your oral skills. 

Hahah I was going to say the same thing.  Your dick doesnt have to be involved in every time.  I once dated a total nymph like this.. I got REALLY good at oral, fingers and toys.. She'd get off like 10 times with just that  def cooled her jets a little and was fun

SaigoTakamori

leoslayer said:

What I'm basically asking is if 25% of the time would you be good with oral only for you or perhaps a combination of oral and a nice massage.

I figure that's the equivalent of BJTC.

No....What you are asking is..."Is it ok if I let her Control the the Sexual relationship, and thusly I slip into her frame?"

Does that about sum it up? 

LaserShow

zoom to 1:33
"No thank you. 15 is my limit on shnitzengruben."
...
"Baby, please!  I am not from Havana!"

LVS: "Will I see you later?"
BB: "Well that all depends on how much vitamin E I can get my hands on."


I thought I was performing in rarefied air at about 7x/week at 50+ years old, but you, you sir, you take the cake!

Cialis?  "Ditto".