HildaCorners said: I can get an orgasm another time, or give myself one. What I can't get, what I haven't gotten, was feeling raw male passion. For me, this is worth more than 25 orgasms.
I want sex with a man who is able to show me that side (raw male passion) of him.
But when I didn't O, I was just as happy if I felt aggressively desired.
MAP on ... lead in bed ... hold your wife responsible for clearly communicating if she wants to cum or just enjoy the intimacy ... bring mass quantities of positive energy to bed and enjoy yourself in an expressive, generous, adaptive way
unadulterated playfulness with passionate energy and pleasure taking
she absolutely loves being treated like my sex object and feeling how much I lust after her.
so make it all about you, captain ... direct and invite her along ... let her feel how happy you are with her and keep the invitations open for her to join you
I wanna tie back in @leoslayer s observations to the OP, because I think he's rightish- although he won't agree with my assertion of the manner in which he's right.
Disclaimer: W is unicorn-ish, O's 98.127% of the time to PiV.
So, W will blast-off right after me, almost always. And these days I talk - tell her I like fucking her, tell her I'm gonna fill her up, tell her I'm gonna explode. Groan. Bite. She and I were talking about sex once not long ago, and I said 'You love it when I come' and she said "No I don't!!!. Wait...yeah, I really do". Yeah, she really does. She 'hates dirty talk' BTW.
The largest sex organ resides between the ears, right? So, if you're bringing an A game, real animal passion, stuff that excites her...well, that's good sex, right? In other words, using H3P0's analogy, she wants to fuck Wolverine, not Walter Mitty. You can actually BE Wolverine, but if shethinks you're Walter Mitty, I got news for you Walt.
I don't necessarily know where the acme break-point of 10% comes from. I had lots of repeat business back when - including several FBs that went on for years and years. I don't think I was in some club per se; I think my attitude brought it. I think Leo's attitude brings it. Obviously, a selfish, dead-fish lover isn't gonna inspire Wolverine thoughts. So be Wolverine. And not Walter Mitty.
I totally agree with SPR's great insight earlier on - get out of her frame and into yours. Be Wolverine.
Wanna be in the magical '10 % Club'? Ok, act like it. Fuck her like Wolverine.
"...if you don't have it, but you think you have it, well then you have it"
"Fall down seven times, stand up eight" Japanese Proverb
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I wanna tie back in @leoslayer s observations to the OP, because I think he's rightish- although he won't agree with my assertion of the manner in which he's right.
Disclaimer: W is unicorn-ish, O's 98.127% of the time to PiV.
So, W will blast-off right after me, almost always. And these days I talk - tell her I like fucking her, tell her I'm gonna fill her up, tell her I'm gonna explode. Groan. Bite. She and I were talking about sex once not long ago, and I said 'You love it when I come' and she said "No I don't!!!. Wait...yeah, I really do". Yeah, she really does. She 'hates dirty talk' BTW.
The largest sex organ resides between the ears, right? So, if you're bringing an A game, real animal passion, stuff that excites her...well, that's good sex, right? In other words, using H3P0's analogy, she wants to fuck Wolverine, not Walter Mitty. You can actually BE Wolverine, but if she thinks you're Walter Mitty, I got news for you Walt.
I don't necessarily know where the acme break-point of 10% comes from. I had lots of repeat business back when - including several FBs that went on for years and years. I don't think I was in some club per se; I think my attitude brought it. I think Leo's attitude brings it. Obviously, a selfish, dead-fish lover isn't gonna inspire Wolverine thoughts. So be Wolverine. And not Walter Mitty.
I totally agree with SPR's great insight earlier on - get out of her frame and into yours. Be Wolverine.
Wanna be in the magical '10 % Club'? Ok, act like it. Fuck her like Wolverine.
"...if you don't have it, but you think you have it, well then you have it"
How will you live well today?
Outside of you O'ing, what's the rational for her O'ing? Did she specifically ask for it? Or is your ego involved?
Who does it matter more if she O's, you or her?
You can have both at the same time and if you can get the flavor you want and an orgasm then why not?
I know sometimes it's not going to happen. Sometimes I can't get there either but it doesn't stop me from trying to get there everytime.