We had a couple of really good sessions this past week. However there was a little hiccup on one and I'm looking for a little feedback.
Sorry this will be a little long, but I think context and background are important for this one.
My wife has always had a difficult time with orgasms. I've posted several times about the one very specific vibrator and never finding anything else that works for her. We've learned to make it work for us, although it does kill some of the spontaneity.
Now, even though she almost always orgasms in the exact same position, with an almost identical type of stimulation, the strength of her orgasm can vary considerably, usually as a result of any extra stimulation I manage to bring via g-spot, etc.
She has very rarely had what I would call a full-body orgasm, and those are awesome. However years can go between those, despite my best efforts. She'll also occasionally have a really good/significantly above average orgasm, that just leaves her laying there basking in the afterglow for quite some time. She'll also, once in a great while be up for multiples, chasing a second, third or fourth orgasm. Then 95% of the time, it's just a single good (but average) orgasm, she'll snuggle up/roll over afterwards, and drift off to sleep.
So over the weekend she had one of those basking in the afterglow type orgasms. My intention was to initiate sex, and I was pushing all the right buttons, escalating things, and I just got carried away and forgot about the sex and pushed it into obviously building to orgasm territory for her. I even managed to get the vibrator out without breaking the escalation. She's struggling a lot to get there, which results in a lot of unintentional edging, but she does get there, and it's a really good orgasm for her. One of those where she wants to lay there in the afterglow and not move for hours, but one where she's not really drifting off to sleep either.
Of course I'm horny now (getting her off really gets me ramped up). Of course sex is off the table, which I obviously know. So I lay down beside her and proceed to start taking care of myself. She reaches over and offers a little half-hearted assistance. I can tell she's in one of those doesn't want to move states, really basking in the afterglow. I make a suggestion, and she comments about not wanting to move and kill the afterglow and suggests an alternative, which I agree with.
I move closer to her to facilitate this and she immediately says never mind, and moves to proceed with my original suggestion. I can see all of this happening, and it's like my little bit of movement just totally deflated her afterglow bubble.
Of course now she enthusiastically moves on to helping me finish, but then I can tell she's just really disappointed for having lost the afterglow. Hours later I can still sense the disappointment from her, and obviously if not fo that she would have been fast asleep.
So my question to the group is two fold. 1. In the moment when it happened I said "I'm sorry you lost the afterglow, do you want to go for round 2 and get back there?" which he declined, as she has no faith we'd actually get back to that perfect blissful state, and would likely just giver her an ordinary orgasm. She didn't say that, but I know that's it. Now the following day, other than the effects of a restless nights sleep, she's fine. I'm assuming i should do nothing more here, don't mention it, etc.
The real question, primarily to the ladies, does any of this make sense to you? When you get to the total and complete bliss state can something kill it that easily? I sense from her with the disappointment of it being "killed" rather than fading away on its own it that it erased any and all good feelings it engendered?