Not attracted anymore

levijean

For years now my wife has suffered from rosacea and/or acne on her face.  She looks fantastic with makeup on but most of the time she doesn't wear it, only if we go out to dinner etc.  Yesterday she cut her hair super short. She's been talking about it for weeks and I didn't think i'd care much (it was short when I met her years ago) but i fucking hate it.  Between her lousy complexion and pixie cut I can't even hardly look at her anymore.

frillyfun

I don't see a triage thread for you after a quick look, and it looks like your last MAP update was over a year ago.

Rosacea is a medical condition. There are a lot of treatment options, and fixes for the issue if she goes to a dermatologist.  Be prepared to pay a few thousand dollars out of pocket for laser treatments if they're recommended (they do work wonders).  

So, the answer is the same as any other spouse that's trying to get their spouse to fix a medical issue.  MAP yourself to a position of strength, and use your leverage to get them to go to a doctor.

Makeup on top of rosacea especially with acne can feel pretty awful.  Encourage her to find the products that work for her.  They're out there.

HildaCorners

MAP update please, and a triage update too.

You've been here a long time, and many of us old-timers never completed a triage. It's one thing to not have a triage if you're not asking for help, but if you have marriage issues, a triage is a must.