Wife informed me last night that she hadn't been wearing her estrogen patch.
She wouldn't tell me for how long, but I counted the patches she has and it corresponds to a major shift in behavior.
Almost on a dime, she stopped sleeping, affection dropped, sex dried up from 2-3 a week to 2 quickies in the last 4 weeks.
She's back on it as of a couple nights ago, but I am getting major attitude and shit tests, even up the point where she is more or less per-emptively rejecting hotel sex this weekend, when we are going on a trip which I have captained the shit out of.
So, basically, her hormones went haywire and she has been blaming her crappy attitude over the last few weeks on me.
The only thing I can say is that it is like the light went out of her eyes when she looked at me -- it really hurt as we were just getting back to a good place.
So, while it's good to know I was not crazy, I am really tempted to confront her on this, rather than shutting up.
Thoughts?
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It's a really predictable pattern.
I went through this with my husband a couple of times.
He would use his supplemental testosterone, and feel great. His energy would increase, sex drive would come back, all would be well, and then ... for no apparent reason, he would fall off a cliff again.
You just have to hold her feet to the fire. It's not okay for her to ignore the medical. You don't have to be confrontational, just matter-of-fact.
Is she also taking supplemental progesterone and supplemental testosterone?
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I presume she'll have to go off it for a while to get her normal levels tested, not sure. I think she stopped in anticipation of this.
I can tell almost to the day when the light went out and it corresponds perfectly to the number of patches left and the prescription date.
Why do you think she won't tell me how long she's been off?
Estrogen alone can have some nasty side effects. It leads to estrogen dominance, and can cause feelings of moodiness and irritability, weight gain, etc. If she still has a uterus, unopposed estrogen can also cause the lining to thicken, causing (sometimes severe) complications.
Is she going to a competent provider? She's probably going to feel a lot better (and be a lot healthier) with supplemental progesterone. Supplemental testosterone will also help with energy, mood, weight control, and libido.
Creams are usually the most convenient and effective delivery mode.
She doesn't need to go off her estrogen in anticipation of testing. Saliva testing is the best method for when you're on HRT.
Why do you think she won't tell me how long she's been off?
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She has switched to a new provider, who is so booked she couldn't get in to see her until December about adjusting hormones.
I won't confront her, but I am angry that I spent a month wondering what the hell was going on, not getting laid and feeling completely cut off emotionally.
It's nice to know I wasn't crazy, but a bit of a shit sandwich, don't you think?
Self-esteem is hard.
It will be ok, I've got this.
I do want to have sex, but I don't think that's a covert contract. I want sex every day and probably would be getting laid this weekend whether we went on trip or not.
But it will go down better if you can own it and play with it. Be out land and proud that you are there to make sure no one steals your woman. "Come here. I gotta pee on your leg before we go so those horndogs know to keep away."
"They aren't like that!"
"Yes they are."
"They are not!"
"Yep. Or they're gay."
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
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HRT for the win!