I made a comment on a thread that the original poster had chose to leave and needs to own that choice. There is disagreement on that point since the OP gave the A/B Ultimatum and the spouse chose to divorce.
I see it as when you give someone a choice you are choosing to live with whatever they decide. From the alpha leader role then you are saying either decision is acceptable. Thus you made the decision even if the other person chose the less desirable option. It doesn't matter who made the last decision. The chain of events was set in motion by the leader and is their responsibility. I see it as an avoidance strategy to put it all on the other person.
So I made a new thread to not derail that thread.
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If one of the a/b options you give is sub optimal to you, then you presented the wrong choices.
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Remember that a choice was made that led to the A/B...that didn't come out of no where.
In my case, it was her choice to be dishonest and her choice not to put in the work to earn trust again.