Hi All,
This is certainly not what I thought my first post would be, but it is , what it is....
I may speak for few, or many... Can other members recommend similar forums to MMSL???
I discovered MMSL only a month ago, and it gave me hope for rebuilding my life, myself, and my marriage. I wanted to finish the book first, before putting anything up, and in the mean time spent hours reading other peoples stories, and being blown away by how out of touch I was with a lot of things in my life.
As someone who is only starting on this journey, losing this forum will be a big setback.
I am planning to contact Athol and having some coaching, but I can't call him to vent, or ask a questions, or get some support... So I will need a place similar to MMSL.
I have contacted Hilda about the group she is starting, but I was knocked back, as its only for regular members of MMSL...
So if anyone out there have suggestions, please let me know.
Many thanks to Athol for running this forum, and its members for sharing their stories. I wish you all well.
Felix
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I don't have much experience with either, other than I know they exist.
The new group is not the place for someone new to MMSL concepts and the MAP. None of us are coaches, none of us are trained at helping you work through your issues. You definitely need that to start the process.
We're just a batch of people who found out we do better with our MAPs when we can share with others, and are accountable to each other. Most of us have been MAPping for a year or more; quite a few have been with the MMSL forum since the beginning.
As I said to you, the best way to start is to read and watch Athol's material, and sign up for coaching.Athol's worst advice is about a thousand times better than any "peer counseling" you'd get in the "refugee camp."
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH
ALL of Athols writings are there. Direct from Him.
Go there...click on the handsome bald dude.. go the the Blog and Blog Archives
Read
Do Coaching too!
Fate favors the prepared.
You probably should have an interest in bikes to understand the lingo and you have to be a member to find the thread (called Geezer and the RP) but its on ADVrider.com. Non-members can't see the area its posted in.
"Treating her like a princess didn't make me a prince, it made me a servant."
Link to triage questions: http://marriedmansexlife.com/triage-your-relationship-and-the-911-er-category/
Caveat -- they're coming from a bit of a 'high morals' slant. So, their premise is that "the best sex happens in the marriage bed", and they don't apologize for that.
Will check out the "sexy marriage radio". I have also started listening to "Beige philip show" and that has been hugely helpful (though may not appeal to everyone...), as well as very entertaining!