I started out wanting to write of my entire experience starting from the below episode up to what I consider the final denouement the following April. But that would have taken forever! So I am presenting the below story that describes my true initiation to Game. My intent is not to disparage my wife. Women loathe beta husbands, we all know that. What I hope to convey is my belief, based on my own experience, that as long as your wife is still physically and emotionally faithful to you, even if she loathes your beta-tude to the core, it is possible to make her fall deeply in love with you all over again. But even if you don't, you will have so improved yourself in the process that you will have absolutely no problem finding another, more worthy, woman.
November 2011
At this point, my wife ("BF") and I had been living nearly full-time in separate bedrooms since early 2004 (this was at the 10 year mark). At first, it was because my snoring had bothered her, and me, the ever-agreeable AFC went along, and I set up a bed in what was formerly just my office. We still spent about the half the time together, but that declined. Slowly, at first, and then it cratered.
Things got worse, of course, and at some point, she had taken full possession of what was formerly our bedroom. She fiercely defended "her" domain from any intrusion, even mine, even to use our bathroom (even in my lowest state, I refused to surrender this prerogative of mine). My entrance into what I still maintained was our room was considered an invasion by her.
Almost exactly a year ago (November 2010), I told my wife I wanted divorce. After many months and years of agonizing frustration (the details which I won't go into here, but it was bad) I just wanted to pick up the pieces and move on. For the first time in a long time, she softened, and we talked; she wanted to try to reconcile and she proposed regular counseling with her therapist, who we sometimes went to together to fix what seemed to be eternal and unfixable problems. As far as therapists are concerned, she was pretty good, and ascribed to a therapy method that placed great focus on being able to maintain a dialog without reacting. This actually was great help later, as this is a central tenet of Game (call it state control or whatever, it was a major help, and this is crucial to have before you can do anything else). However, that was not enough to fix our marriage. I was still agreeable to a fault, constantly tripping over myself in supplication. I was a total doormat. And she treated me in the vicious manner women treat men who doormat themselves to them.
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Please let me know if that happens here.
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"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
What you describe is really dysfunctional and far beyond the norms of a relationship. Especially an Orthodox one. Lying about her period is one of the biggest no-no's I can possibly think of between an orthodox couple.
Was it just your beta-tude that completely turned her off? And adding alpha - poof - cured it all so fast and easily?
What you described - especially her screaming episodes sounds very bi-polar to me but I am far from an expert.
I hope you continue to have success - but don't ever let yourself get to the point where you were previously. Never again. Keep your self respect above all else.