Ok, I feel a little weird posting this, but the nurse said the numbers were legit. Anyway, just got the news that we're expecting, and I'm feeling slightly paranoid about losing my girl game/libido over the next 7-8 months. For various reasons (low thyroid, BSC mom induced depression, etc) I haven't exactly been on top of my game, and I was really just getting back into exercising regularly when we were royally stunned by the recent events. I'll add that we're ecstatic and that the stunned part is because I had just started doing the basic infertility checks with the lady doctor. He's going to be surprised to see me
Any suggestions on exercising and/or keeping my libido up? I'm fairly HD - stress can kill my libido, but even then I get cranky as hell if I go too long. Husband and I are pretty evenly matched actually. As for exercise - I'm in moderately good shape. We backpack and hike, and I worked out a fair bit in college. I can usually get back into things pretty fast - started with knee push-ups and squats recently. I'd like to get in some full push-ups before the belly gets in the way.
Just please tell me I won't morph into a flabby, sexless gestational monster, or at least tell me the kiddos are worth it
(Who am I kidding - I'm already thinking about first Christmas and calculating when this one will be old enough to take camping.)
Edited to add: The depression is nearly gone thanks to some grit and some good counseling. It doesn't seem to be a medical issue. The counselor said that growing up with my mom was enough reason by itself! And the thyroid thing is in order. Probably why I switched from "annovulatory" to "obviously ovulated at some point." Mentally and physically I'm in a pretty darn good place. Well, I think my arms are too flabby. But now I'm rambling.
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Congrats!
:-bd
Every woman and pregnancy is different, but my experience tells me that the 1st trimester can suck a bit since your body's gearing up for full time child nourishment. The 2nd trimester, though, is when your body has figured it out and you get *the glow*. 3rd trimester is more of the same until you get to the last few weeks when all the cartilage is all loose and bendy and there's a kid in your lungs/stomach/intestines.
The good news--I lost weight in my first trimester. I gained a bit over the pregnancy, but lost it all right after #1 was born. This was when DH was pouring on the beta support through cooking healthy, veggie and omega 3 meats in. #2, however..... I had a much more carb based diet and kept the weight after that. So my takeaway is quality diet will affect how your body manages your weight.
Keeping moving is good, but forgive yourself if you're just too tired sometimes. Understand, your body is already doing tons of stuff already. If you *can.* *not.* drag yourself off the bed, SLEEP. Your body needs that too. Do you know that you generate an additional 20% of blood volume over the course of a pregnancy? And that blood is made in your bones? So your WHOLE BODY is working. Feed it well --and ignore the diet nazis that say you can't eat anything because of the micro whatever that might have an effect on .0008 % of the population. Eat healthy, and live well.
Thanks for the encouragement. Diet is pretty good - meat and veggies. Lots of fruit/yogurt smoothies. You'd think I shouldn't have weight issues except that stress seems to make me fat (cortisol is evil), and really I'm not that overweight. I think some of it was my mom projecting her skin and bones boy figure onto my rather curvier figure. (Seriously - boobs must weigh something.) Really at this point I'd just like a little tone to go under the overall baby puffiness most people seem to get
The reality is that no one has any idea what any pregnancy will bring. Everyone is different and every pregnancy is different. You kind of just have to roll with it. Do your best, keep your attitude as good as it "can" be (which sometimes is glorious and other times is pure shit)... and just be aware. I wish you the very very very best!!!
(Says the girl who's had 4 babies, each pregnancy different, some no sex drive, others daily needs for multiple orgasms. Who sometimes bounces back fast and sometimes does not. Who tried to make good choices but gave in to sometimes not being able to. Just saying.)
I really appreciate the encouragement and advice. My mom is BSC, so there's really only 2-3 women I can to about this in real life (and I really don't want to ask my MIL about sex and pregnancy). We figure that we'll save the general announcements for later.
Honestly the biggest deal is that this really heals something for me. I've read all the blogs about marrying young when you're fertile and all that, and it kind of hurt. We got married the summer I graduated college, and I really was a virgin's virgin. Dated like three guys, only kissed one. (Athol if you read this it's not as crazy as it sounds. Ring on finger = making out for an hour before church. And possibly an hour afterwards. I can't really remember. Either way, I was clearly into him.) Anyway, we'd done what you're "supposed" to do. Then we waited. And waited. And waited. Six years! Admittedly those were six (mostly) great years of growing and traveling and just having a heck of a lot of fun together. The timing here is great because we're finally in a house and my head is screwed on (mostly) straight, but it's so hard not to feel broken when your body just won't work right. And I know my husband wants kids. He's always roughhousing with the boys after church, and I've seen him have all the little girls chasing him and begging for attention. Guy has serious kid game I tell you ;;) Anyway, yep. Excited. Glad to not feel like my body is working against me.
The worst part I'm anticipating right now? Being pregnant in August/September in Alabama @-) It gets hot!
Sexy undies (thongs remained for me) and sexy nighties also remained.
I didn't do more than yoga and walking.... I was high risk but I felt great! Wore a two piece during my 8 and 9 month my last pregnancy and felt great! I live in Georgia so heat and humidity in summer equals lots of time at the pool!
Again congrats! Make it memorable and do not worry about the little imperfections you are creating life!!!