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She’s about a 7, and will move up when she gets back to working out (she likes Crossfit). She loves having sex (wants it 1-2 times a day) and is willing to try anything. She loves to travel. She’s smart, cultured, very sweet and super devoted to me. The bad: she’s on ADHD meds. She has student loans (but is paying them off). Sometimes she pities herself and blames others.
I never really “fell in love” (she fell for me). I’ve just come to love her over the last year. Sexually she wasn’t really my type but in the ballpark, now I like her more. I’ve been evaluating whether monogamy is really a good idea or not. I think it might be for someone like me who wants to be very productive, and also build a stable home life. On the other hand I like people but don't need them, so I might be okay without it.
I’ve become an agnostic/atheist while we’ve been dating, so it took us about 8 months to start having sex. She’s the first girl I’ve had sex with, and maybe the third girl I’ve dated. I wonder if I should go out and get more experience. I have a lot of other life experience. I’ve been going through a lot of personal change, and she’s willing to put up with all of that and more. She isn’t enthusiastic about having kids but is willing to do it – I want 4 or 5. After I finish my federal clerkship, I’m going to become an entrepreneur – that’s pretty risky and she’s not wild about risk, and it takes a lot of hard work and I'm worried about neglecting her while I do it. I’m getting into the Red Pill stuff and upping my game; I could get to 8 (I figure 9 and 10 are for good-looking millionaires). I have good prospects what with education and ambition (but need to get more ripped and be more assertive), but she’s already happy with my Alpha/Beta traits.
Intellectually, I keep thinking, I can’t pass this up: educated, extraordinarily devoted, level-headed, hard-working, loves sex. But I’m trying to make sure I get the icing too – I like icing. Or to mix metaphors, I don’t want to look over the fence in a few years and see that the grass is greener. Should I be feeling more passion? Would I be feeling more passion if she were naturally my type? Should I date more first?
Questions, thoughts, insults? Thanks guys.
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Just getting to 4-5 kids is a huge commitment of time, money, and your future wife's vitality. If you go with her odds are good that willingness to get to 4-5 will go away along the way, or that she will resent the sacrifice she made.
No, I don't go cow-tipping. It's too mainstream...
No, I don't go cow-tipping. It's too mainstream...
You're basically saying you found a magical unicorn, and you're not happppppppppppy?
What's her Girl Game like?
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"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
I ruled out everything that wasn't Girl Game.
Pretty much everything in that list was unattractive or a Beta trait.
I mean has a rational calm discussion ever given you a hard on?
One Hour Call 12-Week Guided MAP
"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
What are her friends like?
A little unsolicited advice on your career, be careful about starting your own practice too early. If you go out to soon without the requsite experience and book of clients you can easily get into a situation where you will take any old case just to keep the lights on, even cases where you have no idea what you are doing. It sucks having to be constantly worried that you are going to get disbarred or that you arent going to be able to put food on the table. The legal job market is tough right now, and I know plenty of people who have started their own shop because they couldnt find anything else. You are not in that position. You have a federal clerkship, the career potential that that unlocks for you is immeasurable. You should be able to land a job at a firm. That way you can spend a few years learning how to actually be a lawyer and building your client list and business contacts. It's always better to learn your trade on someone else's dime. You will be in a much better position when you start your own shop.
Frankly, I think this bit is the least of your concerns. You're not crazy about this girl, and you seem to be trying to talking yourself into loving her and marrying her. Don't do it. Just let her go so she can find someone who really wants and desires her.
No, I don't go cow-tipping. It's too mainstream...