Do you all like dirty talk?

Britguy68

Trying to introduce this during sex, feels really alien and slightly ridiculous to be honest, need lots of practise.

Do all F.O's like this? My wife told me to shhssss once as I was breaking her concentration, but then I did only start talkign dirty when she was getting close.

Thoughts?

Chimpy

I do cos its sort of natural to me )

MrsC absolutely hates it

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Hipster_Hick

Chimpy said: MrsC absolutely hates it 

Of course when you call her that, I get a mental image of your wife as Marion Cunningham from Happy Days, so it all makes sense.

Scarlet

I do like it, but it makes me blush furiously (the nickname "Scarlet" was not after Ms. O'Hara).  I find it terribly embarrassing yet terribly fun. 

PhoenixDown

I don't really like it. I've gotten used to it because he likes it. Both talking and listening.

Even so, I could still do without it.

Serenity

It can be hot...but only if the guy has absolute confidence.  If he hesitates or stammers his way through it, complete turn off.

I'd say practice until you can do it well....or don't do it at all.

Rain

I agree with Ms_Fit.

neen

My H does this......I guess I like it. ;;)

RJac

Well, it is preferable to dead silence. At least then I know he's enjoying it. Sometimes the silence is so deafening, I would love for him to blurt out something truly shocking. )

Serendipity

I like it. DH does mostly the "I want to be inside of you" type of talk, but I'm waiting for him to pull out the "Suck my.." type talk too.

I've amped up my dirty talk a bit to see if it gives him confidence to do the same.

FlyingDutchman

My wife rarely orgasms without some dirty talk.  But, she "says" she doesn't like it.  Go figure...

Classic red-pill, what they say they like and what they respond to are not the same.

Blakfyre

There are a couple of ways to go with the dirty talk.

You can be self-aggrandizing or demeaning, and you can be filthy or you can be descriptive.  Generally you fall somewhere on those two axes, and you're more comfortable at one end or the other.

If dirty talk makes you uncomfortable, it's easier to start with self-aggrandizing descriptive dirty talk, because you just take the bravado necessary to pull it off from the commentary itself.  Make yourself believe as you say them, and then it kind of snowballs.

"See that cock?  You love that cock, it's the biggest cock you've ever seen.  I'm going to fuck your mouth with that cock"

You don't have to start with "take that fucking cock, you filthy little whore."

Dirty talk isn't for everybody...  if your girl has a hotbutton issue, DON"T go to it in your dirty talk.  If she has actually been raped, for instance, don't go there.  If she doesn't like the idea of being a whore FOR YOU, don't call her one.

Also, I've had good success with the beta version of dirty talk too, telling her what you like about what she's doing and how good it feels.  "I love the way your ass looks when you're on your hands and knees.  I love the way your pussy squeezes me, I love the way your nipples tighten up when I look at them."  etc.

...having said ALL that, I'm really uncomfortable with dirty talk myself, and I have to start slow and build from there so that I can maintain frame and confidence...  but it drives C wild by the time we move from "making blakfyre comfortable" into "filthy descriptions of things I want you to do."

Rapunzel

@Blakfyre said, "filthy descriptions of things I want you to do"
Yes, I like that kind of dirty talk and, just as much, "filthy descriptions of things I'm going to do to you." Those are my kind of sweet nothings. ">

Savage

Yes (to the OP's title question).

Wife likes to HEAR it...doesn't like to SAY it......bummer.

Serenity

Okay, after reading @Blakfyre 's comment, I need to revise my answer.

*Mildly* dirty talk is hot, stronger dirty talk, no.

His first example would be on the way far end of the spectrum of what I'd be comfortable with, his second example would fall in my 'never' category.

We may need to define our terms here.

HopeAndHardWork

Serendipity said:

I like it. DH does mostly the "I want to be inside of you" type of talk, but I'm waiting for him to pull out the "Suck my.." type talk too.

I've amped up my dirty talk a bit to see if it gives him confidence to do the same.

This is where we are, also.  Although, he's saying the "I want to come inside you, NOW" and I'm still trying to come up with something to say that doesn't make me feel stupid.

Jane

LOVE to hear it, hate to say it.  I've been with a no noise guy in the past - that would be the worst option.

Fleur

Scarlet said:

I do like it, but it makes me blush furiously (the nickname "Scarlet" was not after Ms. O'Hara).  I find it terribly embarrassing yet terribly fun. 

I'm with @Scarlet on this one.  BF likes to do it and it makes me super embarrassed and yet kinda hot too.  I can barely talk about my body parts lol.

Britguy68

Well from everything I've read guy's are supposed to start kinda soft on the dirty talk at the start, and then as their woman gets closer to finishing, ramp it up to more dirty, and then at the climax pretty much get as dirty as you want and woman love it. 

It's hard though, trying to give a running commentary on what's happening.

I've read a lot of David Shade's stuff, who's entire philosophy is around sex being in a woman's mind, which you have to lead with dirty talk to really get her going.

fredless

When my wife's 'wound up,' she's really into it.  When she's not, not so much.  I do it when I feel like it because I like it.

SomeDude

Just tried an experiment the last two nights.

First night I kept in really gentle and with no dirty talk at all - my wife had been telling me she does not like any roughness or dirty talk. So while she had two good orgasms, she was really not that wet, and was not keen for PiV at all.

Second night I was a lot more hands on, rougher, and did a whole lot more dirty talk. The result was she was dripping wet, wanted a pounding, and had two killer orgasms.

So as usual, go on the actions not the words. 

That said, calling her a slut or whore or anything "degrading" would probably be a bad idea, but hey maybe I'll try it one day and see what happens.