Best IOIs

DaveBowman · June 2013

Things feel a little "heavy" round here today so I thought I'd start a lighter thread.

What are your favorite Intentions of Interest?

I just had one of the chart toppers.

I'm in the gym today doing sets of 20 (yes freakin' 20 I rock) wide front pullups (my hardest).

To get me through it I'm looking down at a very cute girl to my right doing upright rows on a machine, maybe 8 feet away. I'm staring at her chest while I rip out the last 2-3 because... well if you've seen women do upright rows it's fucking awesome.

Last one, I look up into her eyes and see... she's doing the same thing to me. Staring at my arms (wearing a muscle shirt wife bought me) as I pound out these pullups... our eyes meet and we grunt and pound out one last rep together.

Was almost sexual. I dropped down, nodded to her and walked away.

We used each other to get a kick ass workout in... awesome. Glad I could oblige, ma'am.

fredless · June 2013

I like to get back from younger women...

Matt266 · June 2013

Alright @davebowman, you're my hero, there, I said it.

picard · June 2013

At a bar woman with her husband looking very hot at the next table gets up to walk by me, we lock eyes for a bit and both smile.

Later in the night I'm standing outside a few feet away from my FO and one of her friends, they're chatting I'm getting some air. The same woman comes from the door behind me and grabs my arm and starts chatting away, I see my FO just staring at her, so introduce her to my FO and she ends the conversation and walks away.

Then my FO and friend move closer and her friend says to me "You're full of yourself aren't you?" in a playful sorta way but clearly a bit of a shit test. I say "Yeah, but it's warranted, I am pretty fucking awesome." and we banter a bit back and forth like that while laughing, most of my responses are funny, and cocky to completely arrogant. She says to my FO, he thinks everyone wants to kiss him, laughs, then she kisses me a quick peck and walks away.

I'm stunned but try to act completely cool, my FO laughs it off, but then complains the next day that I was always off talking to other people all night...

garbanzo · June 2013

I was at a concert with my nephew (via marriage, he's a grown man) and a friend about six weeks ago. I was at the bar getting a beer and a woman strides up next to me to get her own and starts talking to me about the music, where we are from, etc. We chat for about 15 minutes and I made it a point to mention my wife during the conversation. After about 15 minutes, I say goodbye and get back to my group. It was clear that she was interested in more than just talking about music but I did nothing more than engage in light, flirty banter.

As the concert ends and the venue starts to clear out, she approaches me and puts a napkin in my hand. It had her number and said "we should fuck, I don't care that you are married." Nothing like that has ever happened to me and it fucked with me hard. Six months ago, I probably would have pursued it because my dry spell was killing me then. Six weeks ago, I threw the napkin in the trash and fantasized about what could have been.

PurpleGuy · June 2013

Friday I went by the credit union to get several cashiers checks cut to pay the contactors building our new house. Since I need several different checks cut I see the branch manager instead of a teller. She is a mid-30's former Miss Something that was probably a 9.5 15 years ago that has aged but is still attractive "for her age". We make small talk while she goes through the process and I compliment her wedding set (huge rock) and dress (blue with lots of clevage). Its 11:30 when she finishes, I thank her and mention that I will grab lunch at the grill next door before I head back to the office. As I'm eating and reading the primer on my iPad she pops up and asks if she can join me. We make more small talk, finish up, and I head off back. A couple of hours later she calls me "just to say 'Thank you'" for keeping her company during lunch and that we should do it again some day.

Tonigh I am working one of my part-time jobs in a hospital ER. I'm BSing with some of the nurses and the topic of food comes up. I mention that I would love some frozen yogurt. A cute, chubby 27 yo RN just stopped by and brought me one from the cafeteria then sat across from me and told me her life's story between giggles and hair flipps.

Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.

wishful_thinking · June 2013

To all those in the above posts, would you describe yourselves, or are you described by others as having above average / good looks? As much as I would love to believe that such scenarios could happen to me, I just cannot envisage experiencing anything like this. Ever.

garbanzo · June 2013

@wishful_thinking, I bet that unless one is clearly unattractive, we all consider ourselves at least above average. As for me, I have always been overweight (lost 40# since starting the MAP) and thought I was fairly average looking until the last few years when a few things have happened to convince me otherwise; at a wedding weekend a few years ago where my wife was a bridesmaid she told me that one of the other bridesmaids (very attractive and stacked woman, solid 8) told her that she thought I was hot. And I recently came across a FB msg between my wife and her BFF where my wife commented that I was getting hotter than her and the BFF (legit 8.5-9) told her that I'd been hot for a while now.

So you might be better looking than you think you are.

DarKeyes · June 2013

@wishful_thinking, men judge women based on their appearance, and therefore we think they judge us based on our appearance. Theys sort do, but nowhere near as much as we do. We think that unless we look like a male model or star athlete, we can't be "hot," but the fact is that women respond to a whole variety of factors. Looks count a little. Dress counts too, but also because of what it says about status, confidence, attitude, values. Men joke that if we say a woman has "a great personality" it means she's unattractive physically. For a man, though, to have a great personality, one that is confident, clear, strong, funny, dominant, etc, is way more important than good looks. Look at it like this, Henry Kissinger was a serious ladies' man. The dude looks like a troll, but he was dating 10s on a regular basis? Why? He had POWER, he also had personality, confidence and skills. He did NOT have good looks, but he dressed well...for a troll. If he can date 10s, you can at least get to the point where an 8 thinks your hot.

TK421 · June 2013

Got a "Hey yoooouuuuu!" from a solid 30 year old 9 at work when I walked up to her desk to ask her a question. This was just days after reading the Hey You post on Heartiste, and was delivered in near sing-song style, almost exactly the way it was described below, complete with glimmering body language. I almost told her to meet me in the broom closet in 5 minutes.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/04/10/hey-you/

There really is something predictably revealing about “hey you” when a girl uses it. As with Newly Aloof’s observation, I’ve yet to meet a girl who dropped the “hey you” greeting on me who didn’t eventually show keen interest in becoming an intimate partner in grime. It’s especially revealing when you hear a girl say “hey you” rather than reading it in text. Typically, she will sing-song the phrase…
hey yoooooo …like a vocal fry on steroids. And perhaps accentuate her delivery with a cute hunched shoulder, upturned head, full body mini-hop, eyes glimmering like C-beams. It’s as if the two words “hey” and “you”, melodically concatenated for synergistic effect, are the symptomatic verbal goosebumps of the warm chill caused by her engorging labia.

JesusMarimba · June 2013

TK421 said:

Got a "Hey yoooouuuuu!" from a solid 30 year old 9 at work when I walked up to her desk to ask her a question. This was just days after reading the Hey You post on Heartiste, and was delivered in near sing-song style, almost exactly the way it was described below, complete with glimmering body language. I almost told her to meet me in the broom closet in 5 minutes.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/04/10/hey-you/

There really is something predictably revealing about “hey you” when a girl uses it. As with Newly Aloof’s observation, I’ve yet to meet a girl who dropped the “hey you” greeting on me who didn’t eventually show keen interest in becoming an intimate partner in grime. It’s especially revealing when you hear a girl say “hey you” rather than reading it in text. Typically, she will sing-song the phrase…
hey yoooooo …like a vocal fry on steroids. And perhaps accentuate her delivery with a cute hunched shoulder, upturned head, full body mini-hop, eyes glimmering like C-beams. It’s as if the two words “hey” and “you”, melodically concatenated for synergistic effect, are the symptomatic verbal goosebumps of the warm chill caused by her engorging labia.

I uh... huh. My wife's twin says this to me all of the time. Now I'm interested in finding out if she says it to everyone.

In fact, when I read the title of this thread, I immediately thought of her. She gives out way more IOIs than my wife.

And no, I don't think she's indicating DTF. I actually view the IOIs as a barometer for how my wife views me. If she's pissed, my SIL regards me more coldly and formally. Social proof and all that...

DaveBowman · June 2013

wishful_thinking said:

To all those in the above posts, would you describe yourselves, or are you described by others as having above average / good looks? As much as I would love to believe that such scenarios could happen to me, I just cannot envisage experiencing anything like this. Ever.

The chick in my post was a solid 7-8. Didn't have a rock-solid body, she's obviously trying to get back in shape a bit but nothing to be embarrassed about. Very pretty face and about 10 years younger than me. Yoga pants & top, very very cute.

I never thought I would still experience this stuff at my age. After mapping it happens almost daily... and I think late 20s to mid 30s women find guys my age sexy. In fact, as I write this, the cute girl down the hall just walked past and gave me a very cute shy smile. She seems to make a habit of walking past my office even though it's clearly out of her way.

Another story from the gym a few weeks ago... I'm literally in mid bi curl and a girl comes up to me and asks me to spot her on the bench press.

I'm a bit annoyed actually because I'm in the middle of a set and trying to finish up my workout to make a meeting. So I say go ask one of the trainers over there.

She says "Can't you tell when a girl is coming on to you?"

I say "Happily married, not interested, but thanks."

She flips her hair, turns around and says over her shoulder, "Well, OK, but if you change your mind..." as she walks away.

Damn, women got aggressive all of a sudden.

PhoenixDown · June 2013

I wasn't there to see it, but apparently @mook_z flirted so hard with the chick at Arby's that she gave us a free dessert with our sandwiches...

No, it was not cheesecake.

wishful_thinking · June 2013

garbanzo said:

@wishful_thinking, I bet that unless one is clearly unattractive, we all consider ourselves at least above average. As for me, I have always been overweight (lost 40# since starting the MAP) and thought I was fairly average looking until the last few years when a few things have happened to convince me otherwise; at a wedding weekend a few years ago where my wife was a bridesmaid she told me that one of the other bridesmaids (very attractive and stacked woman, solid 8) told her that she thought I was hot. And I recently came across a FB msg between my wife and her BFF where my wife commented that I was getting hotter than her and the BFF (legit 8.5-9) told her that I'd been hot for a while now.

So you might be better looking than you think you are.

How do we know what is clearly unattractive though? Is it based on how we judge ourselves or how others judge us? I will admit to having a fair few unpleasantries thrown my way over the years. Strangely enough is that the vast majority were from other guys, with the only one I can remember from a girl was in my school days.

I've been MAPing now for over a year. Although weight wasn't an issue, I've since added muscle, increased my confidence, added alpha to what was total beta,and have always taken pride in dressing and looking the best I can whenever I go anywhere. The stumbling block is lack of IOI's with or without my wife's presence. Consequently my SR stays as it is. I've read countless websites about eye contact and have tried and tried to initiate this with passing women of varying SR but I get fuck all back. Just don't know how to get past this at all. I may be wrong but aren't true IOI's given spontaneously rather than say after flirting or initating a conversation?

@DarKeyes - I reckon that most of the above IOI's were given spontaneously and were driven by looks, especially the one given to @challenger.

Rapunzel · June 2013

My best and funniest was a few months ago when I took 4 of my 127 kids the the eye doctor and the assistant, who couldn't of even been 30, keep asking me strange things and trying to start conversations and it was so funny because he was not a smooth talker at all. I thought it was odd because he was attractive and I would've thought he'd be better with the ladies.

Here are some snippets (and all 4 kids had appointments so we were hanging out awhile).

I'm explaining very simple and basic things on the eye poster to my 6 year old, things like the fact that our eyeballs are round and the pink things around the eyes are muscles and the guy asks me if I'm a doctor. I say no and he says, "We'll you're really smart, smarter than most people." (I'm thinking because I know eyeballs are round???) He compliments my fat silver ring on my pointer finger, later asked me if we go fishing. (???) There was more, I can't remember it all. It was very flattering and funny. I had not been MAPing long so it was a nice boost.

PhoenixDown · June 2013

Peter Dinklage was GQ's Man of the Year in 2011. It's all about attitude.

DaveBowman · June 2013

Not a shit test, a loyalty test. But you handled it fine.

shanna_banana · June 2013

I'm waiting in the car in the parking lot of my husband's office to bring him lunch.
There's a woman passing him on the sidewalk as he comes out towards me. The woman stared at him, turned and looked again as they passed each other and then she walked into a wall! He got to the car and turned just in time to see it. We were both laughing!

This does kind of make me uncomfortable, though.
My husband had been sick for a few years with a chronic illness. I am so happy he is well! He's put on weight (he'd always been too thin), has been working out and also just got a tan from our vacation. He looks better than he has in years. He's more confident, too.
I'm just not used to his sex rank being as high/higher? than mine.
Glad he's not a flirt and seems to have oneitis for me!

neen · June 2013

When we dropped the kids off at camp last week my H and I had to stand in the medication line just so one of ours could receive melatonin for sleep. The two women running the nurses room were over weight, short hair and loud. They were gossiping the whole time. I was just getting bored and hot. Once it was our turn I handed the H the bottle. Well, the 2 women lit up like Xmas tress....Im annoyed now. Anyway.....they start talking about vitamins, so I just said in the most monotone voice, 'he's a doctor'. They both seemed excited.....I hear my H say something about vitamin D / sun and then he points to the woman and says 'you've gotta nice tan ,you don't need to worry about it'. Then she proceeds to hike up her shorts and underwear up to her waistline! Showing off her tan? :-S geez