I don't get blatant come-ons like the guys wrote about (and I'm thankful for that!), but there's a nice steady flow of small IOIs on a daily basis, like a guy driving by in a car blowing me a kiss (yesterday), wolf whistles from construction workers (day before yesterday) - that's enough for my self-esteem.
And: Disabled guys LOVE me! Supposedly because I'm friendly to everyone and as a special education teacher I don't treat them as if they were invisible.
_____________________________________________________________________________ If you want us to be unapologetically feminine, be unapologetically masculine.
There was a guy staring at me at the gym yesterday... I smirked and fiddled with my headphones. I think I have Angry Bitch Face when I'm working out though...
There was a guy staring at me at the gym yesterday... I smirked and fiddled with my headphones. I think I have Angry Bitch Face when I'm working out though...
I smiled at a man today while walking. He tripped, and almost fell over.
I'm deadly.
To senior citizens...X_X
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Went to Europe with "I" and we visited her family for a sort of min-family reunion. Food, drink, laughter, me telling stories translated by "I" and her younger sister (5 years younger). A one point, younger sister comes over an literally sits on my knew. "I" was out of the room. Words are exchanged in their native tongue. I don't have to know the language to get the gist of the conversation. Younger sister beats a hasty retreat to the kitchen. "I" curls up in my lap.
Pre-selection for the win.
Note - If you a FO with a Lazy Bear or Low-T husband, ignore everything I say. It probably doesn't apply "As he works on his MAP, he's going to do things that piss you off. He has to." - Steu2817 "In a world of Alpha's there is no peace for anyone.....welcome to Somalia enjoy your stay" - Highlander2
Last Friday, after a work lunch at a nice restaurant for my wife's company we were making our way out and Mrs. Arlequin is stopping to talk to people as we make our way down the long table.
I was dressed nice/casual, my nicer button down shirt, tight jeans, hair on head and face nicely groomed.
I'm standing there waiting and casually turn to survey the room and see a very pretty Mediterranean, possibly Arabic, woman with dark, shoulder length hair (my favorite, I wonder how she knew?) looking at me.
Our eyes locked and she smiled a sloooooooow, sultry smile.
You know, it's true what they say about smiles being contagious! I returned her smile with a slow smile of my own and after a few seconds the gaze broke and the moment was but a memory.
I think it also has a lot to do with your environment, do you come in contact with many women on a day to day basis? I know I don't. I own a small shop and have three male employees so no workplace flirting for me. We also live in a very rural area, you can go out walking or whatever you want for hours and most likely not meet anyone. So IOI's are a little harder to come by for some than others.
As it happens, I worked at the same place since leaving school for the best part of 20 years. In that time, the only female employee was the boss' daughter, in the office. At the current workplace I've been at since, the only female employee has been the boss' wife. It's fair to say that 99% of my workmates have been male. However I live in a large city and pass hundreds of women over the course of a week. Unfortunately none of them are attracted enough to me to return eye contact or give IOI's.
@DaveBowman - while it's fair to say that your MAPing has increased your IOI's, I'm guessing that you had decent looks to start with. As such, your looks being the spark and the results of your MAPing being the fuel for IOI's.
Likewise I reckon that anyone receiving IOI's and claiming not to have above average looks is being slightly modest. I fail to see how the initial factor in getting IOI's is not down to looks, my own situation being a prime example.
Recently I was at the zoo, and this momma grizzly bear was totally giving me "the look"........
She was probably envious of your hair - like we all are ;-)
_____________________________________________________________________________ If you want us to be unapologetically feminine, be unapologetically masculine.
Tbh, other than Arby's, I'm either oblivious or not getting the attention that y'all are. I get lots of "you've lost weight! " comments from all the old office ladies but nothing more except the one lady who says it at least once every two weeks. She's very observant.
I mostly get compliments on how easy I make it look when I have all three small kids with me. Awesome dad is awesome.
I need to get out more and cultivate these in the wild, stupid job taking up all my free time!
This morning I was getting ready for bball and the wife happened to be up (super early for her). I was wearing a shirt that fits pretty well for a gym/work shirt and I noticed her staring at me. I kept doing my thing with my eyes locked on her, good her a good three minutes to even notice I was looking. When we caught eyes I gave her a smirk and went on with the morning.
She could have been zoned out because of the early hour, but I'm taking the point in my win column.
Tbh, other than Arby's, I'm either oblivious or not getting the attention that y'all are. I get lots of "you've lost weight! " comments from all the old office ladies but nothing more except the one lady who says it at least once every two weeks. She's very observant.
I mostly get compliments on how easy I make it look when I have all three small kids with me. Awesome dad is awesome.
@Mook_z You get IOIs often, honey. And you flirt like mad. You just don't know, because it's just how you are. I'm used to it by this point. :P I'll point it out next time I see it...
@DaveBowman - while it's fair to say that your MAPing has increased your IOI's, I'm guessing that you had decent looks to start with. As such, your looks being the spark and the results of your MAPing being the fuel for IOI's.
Likewise I reckon that anyone receiving IOI's and claiming not to have above average looks is being slightly modest. I fail to see how the initial factor in getting IOI's is not down to looks, my own situation being a prime example.
Sure I'm no slouch and I clean up well... but I'm no freakin' Brando or anything.
But I sure never got these levels of IOIs until mapping. Now they are constant. I think it's because I actually look women in the eye, or give them the short up and down. Modestly, I try to walk a fine line between gawking and appreciating... but I don't get embarrassed or shy for appreciating a woman's assets, that's for sure.
I mean, if you're a decent looking woman that puts time and effort into their appearance, I assume you want to be appreciated by virile guys around you. And since I've lost a bunch of the spare tire, put on ~10lbs of muscle, and do it with a smirk I've never had one woman mind the Joey 'how you doin' look.
Plus, I actually talk to women now. There was a hottie in the elevator coming up and a guy I knew. Joked with the guy, got the hottie laughing, chatted her up a bit about the other guy being a goof, said "good morning" and walked out.
I'm not going to try to sleep with them or anything, I'm not a cheater... and since I get laid like tile I'm not tempted to. So why not treat them as fabulously beautiful creatures that are fun to be around and have a laugh with?
Sure I'm no slouch and I clean up well... but I'm no freakin' Brando or anything.
But I sure never got these levels of IOIs until mapping. Now they are constant. I think it's because I actually look women in the eye, or give them the short up and down. Modestly, I try to walk a fine line between gawking and appreciating... but I don't get embarrassed or shy for appreciating a woman's assets, that's for sure.
I mean, if you're a decent looking woman that puts time and effort into their appearance, I assume you want to be appreciated by virile guys around you. And since I've lost a bunch of the spare tire, put on ~10lbs of muscle, and do it with a smirk I've never had one woman mind the Joey 'how you doin' look.
Plus, I actually talk to women now. There was a hottie in the elevator coming up and a guy I knew. Joked with the guy, got the hottie laughing, chatted her up a bit about the other guy being a goof, said "good morning" and walked out.
I'm not going to try to sleep with them or anything, I'm not a cheater... and since I get laid like tile I'm not tempted to. So why not treat them as fabulously beautiful creatures that are fun to be around and have a laugh with?
This. Yes all of this.
My sort of move is to stare at the body part I'm admiring, like I've always done, and when she catches me slowly move up and look her straight in the eye and give her a smile somewhere between a normal smile and amused mastery sort of look (while standing in a wide confident pose). If the situation calls for it I'll often strike the conversation up with a simple "Hello", almost every time she gets all hair flicky, even if there's no real interest beyond that bit of flirting we both go on with our days.
I'm an average looking guy, but I carry a lot of confidence in my walk, because I like who I am.
My sort of move is to stare at the body part I'm admiring, like I've always done, and when she catches me slowly move up and look her straight in the eye and give her a smile somewhere between a normal smile and amused mastery sort of look (while standing in a wide confident pose).
I do the opposite. Stare directly at her breasts, take in a good solid viewing, and when she catches you looking, just as she's about to give you a disgusted gasp, you look away and stare off into the distance. Just DON'T look them in the eye. It looks like you were daydraming the whole time. I've been doing this since I was about 17. Works like a charm.
Also works when you need to cheat at a test in high school or college. Look at your buddy's paper but NEVER look up at the teacher after. I've been in situations where I am blatantly looking at a neighbor's test and can see the prof watching me in the corner of my eye. The prof is just about to walk over and bust me for cheating but then I'd just raise or lower my eyes slightly to stare at the wall or the floor. Because if you look at your friend's paper and then look at the prof, you are busted. But play the "just daydreamin" card and you can stare all you want!!
My sort of move is to stare at the body part I'm admiring, like I've always done, and when she catches me slowly move up and look her straight in the eye and give her a smile somewhere between a normal smile and amused mastery sort of look (while standing in a wide confident pose).
I do the opposite. Stare directly at her breasts, take in a good solid viewing, and when she catches you looking, just as she's about to give you a disgusted gasp, you look away and stare off into the distance. Just DON'T look them in the eye. It looks like you were daydraming the whole time. I've been doing this since I was about 17. Works like a charm.
I don't want her to think I was daydreaming, I want her to say hello.
Naw @TK421 this is how you get away with it, not how you own it.
You want to look? Look. Own up to it. Don't try to do it on the sly.
Same goes for being busted checking out other women when you're with the wife. Sort out where the line is between gawking and noticing... and if busted, smirk. Shrug your shoulders. You're a man, you notice women. Don't explain, don't downplay, don't lie. Own it.
It's like they say... a man notices an attractive woman. An asshole turns around to look at her ass.
Although I was busted doing that just today, sigh. Except she turned around to look at me, too. So at least we're mutually busted.
I don't want her to think I was daydreaming, I want her to say hello.
Nah, I want to sneak a sneaky look at her boobs and do it up close.
Totally agree that you should own it, like when you're out in public. But since most of the hotties I encounter in my life are at the workplace you need to keep those looks on the DL. And I'm fucking SURROUNDED by hotties. My company is known for it's hotties. Shit, I've even had non-work girlfriend who want to work for my company but have asked flat out, "Am I pretty enough to work there?"
So yeah, I could own up to that shit, and be labelled a creeper and probably get dragged into HR. Or I can sit back and get paid to appreciate God's beauty.
My boss is a woman. A very powerful, no-nonsense woman that I respect, trust, and admire greatly. She believes in empowering and backing women to the hilt. She supports and develops the women that work for her greatly... but never in a way that means a woman will get promoted before a man that's better suited or worked harder for it.
I'm in her office for a one on one. Our offices are all glass so you can see people walking by.
A blonde bombshell walks by. I notice, keep talking to my boss. She walks by again. And again.
And again.
My boss says to me "wow, you're good. I mean you checked her out the first time, didn't make a big deal about it, and ignored her the rest of the time."
I said "did you pay her to walk by and test me or something?"
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And: Disabled guys LOVE me!
Supposedly because I'm friendly to everyone and as a special education teacher I don't treat them as if they were invisible.
If you want us to be unapologetically feminine, be unapologetically masculine.
Note - If you a FO with a Lazy Bear or Low-T husband, ignore everything I say. It probably doesn't apply
"As he works on his MAP, he's going to do things that piss you off. He has to." - Steu2817
"In a world of Alpha's there is no peace for anyone.....welcome to Somalia enjoy your stay" - Highlander2
Last Friday, after a work lunch at a nice restaurant for my wife's company we were making our way out and Mrs. Arlequin is stopping to talk to people as we make our way down the long table.
I was dressed nice/casual, my nicer button down shirt, tight jeans, hair on head and face nicely groomed.
I'm standing there waiting and casually turn to survey the room and see a very pretty Mediterranean, possibly Arabic, woman with dark, shoulder length hair (my favorite, I wonder how she knew?) looking at me.
Our eyes locked and she smiled a sloooooooow, sultry smile.
You know, it's true what they say about smiles being contagious! I returned her smile with a slow smile of my own and after a few seconds the gaze broke and the moment was but a memory.
A good one...
As it happens, I worked at the same place since leaving school for the best part of 20 years. In that time, the only female employee was the boss' daughter, in the office. At the current workplace I've been at since, the only female employee has been the boss' wife. It's fair to say that 99% of my workmates have been male.
However I live in a large city and pass hundreds of women over the course of a week. Unfortunately none of them are attracted enough to me to return eye contact or give IOI's.
@DaveBowman - while it's fair to say that your MAPing has increased your IOI's, I'm guessing that you had decent looks to start with. As such, your looks being the spark and the results of your MAPing being the fuel for IOI's.
Likewise I reckon that anyone receiving IOI's and claiming not to have above average looks is being slightly modest. I fail to see how the initial factor in getting IOI's is not down to looks, my own situation being a prime example.
If you want us to be unapologetically feminine, be unapologetically masculine.
I mostly get compliments on how easy I make it look when I have all three small kids with me. Awesome dad is awesome.
This morning I was getting ready for bball and the wife happened to be up (super early for her). I was wearing a shirt that fits pretty well for a gym/work shirt and I noticed her staring at me. I kept doing my thing with my eyes locked on her, good her a good three minutes to even notice I was looking. When we caught eyes I gave her a smirk and went on with the morning.
She could have been zoned out because of the early hour, but I'm taking the point in my win column.
Eat. Sleep. Mate. Defend.
But I sure never got these levels of IOIs until mapping. Now they are constant. I think it's because I actually look women in the eye, or give them the short up and down. Modestly, I try to walk a fine line between gawking and appreciating... but I don't get embarrassed or shy for appreciating a woman's assets, that's for sure.
I mean, if you're a decent looking woman that puts time and effort into their appearance, I assume you want to be appreciated by virile guys around you. And since I've lost a bunch of the spare tire, put on ~10lbs of muscle, and do it with a smirk I've never had one woman mind the Joey 'how you doin' look.
Plus, I actually talk to women now. There was a hottie in the elevator coming up and a guy I knew. Joked with the guy, got the hottie laughing, chatted her up a bit about the other guy being a goof, said "good morning" and walked out.
I'm not going to try to sleep with them or anything, I'm not a cheater... and since I get laid like tile I'm not tempted to. So why not treat them as fabulously beautiful creatures that are fun to be around and have a laugh with?
I do the opposite. Stare directly at her breasts, take in a good solid viewing, and when she catches you looking, just as she's about to give you a disgusted gasp, you look away and stare off into the distance. Just DON'T look them in the eye. It looks like you were daydraming the whole time. I've been doing this since I was about 17. Works like a charm.
Also works when you need to cheat at a test in high school or college. Look at your buddy's paper but NEVER look up at the teacher after. I've been in situations where I am blatantly looking at a neighbor's test and can see the prof watching me in the corner of my eye. The prof is just about to walk over and bust me for cheating but then I'd just raise or lower my eyes slightly to stare at the wall or the floor. Because if you look at your friend's paper and then look at the prof, you are busted. But play the "just daydreamin" card and you can stare all you want!!
I don't want her to think I was daydreaming, I want her to say hello.
You want to look? Look. Own up to it. Don't try to do it on the sly.
Same goes for being busted checking out other women when you're with the wife. Sort out where the line is between gawking and noticing... and if busted, smirk. Shrug your shoulders. You're a man, you notice women. Don't explain, don't downplay, don't lie. Own it.
It's like they say... a man notices an attractive woman. An asshole turns around to look at her ass.
Although I was busted doing that just today, sigh. Except she turned around to look at me, too. So at least we're mutually busted.
Nah, I want to sneak a sneaky look at her boobs and do it up close.
Totally agree that you should own it, like when you're out in public. But since most of the hotties I encounter in my life are at the workplace you need to keep those looks on the DL. And I'm fucking SURROUNDED by hotties. My company is known for it's hotties. Shit, I've even had non-work girlfriend who want to work for my company but have asked flat out, "Am I pretty enough to work there?"
So yeah, I could own up to that shit, and be labelled a creeper and probably get dragged into HR. Or I can sit back and get paid to appreciate God's beauty.
My boss is a woman. A very powerful, no-nonsense woman that I respect, trust, and admire greatly. She believes in empowering and backing women to the hilt. She supports and develops the women that work for her greatly... but never in a way that means a woman will get promoted before a man that's better suited or worked harder for it.
I'm in her office for a one on one. Our offices are all glass so you can see people walking by.
A blonde bombshell walks by. I notice, keep talking to my boss. She walks by again. And again.
And again.
My boss says to me "wow, you're good. I mean you checked her out the first time, didn't make a big deal about it, and ignored her the rest of the time."
I said "did you pay her to walk by and test me or something?"
She laughed and said "No. But you passed."