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I've always been a morning person, my wife is not. Since I get up early, I've always gone to an early mass, and she has always gone with the kids to a later mass (I hate wasting the morning). I'm concerned this has contributed to my loss of the reigns as the leader of the family. She is not going to get up and go to an early mass - should I go to the later mass with them?
Really - I guess I'm asking, do you think it is a big deal that we don't go to church as a family?
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@missusP, I think that is the right solution. My hesitation is that I have 3-teenage boys (yes this has been going on that long) and they would rather sleep in as well. I see me turning my whole family against me for the sake of a power play.
Leaving aside the concern that this is just another battleground for you and your wife to fight over dominance issues...
I don't know. It depends on your wife's spiritual views and those of your faith. There is something to be said for taking Communion along side someone you love.
What are you doing during the hours that the rest of the family is at church that cannot be time-shifted?
We were going to a church she has been to, but I haven't. She was giving me directions and we missed a turn. She got very sarcastic about why was I coming to church with them (along the lines of if I hadn't come along with them, we wouldn't be having this problem). I parked the car told her to get out - she appologised and we went to mass.
I'm not a morning person, but I still get up at 5am on Sundays. It can be done if you want to!
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Who's been the leader in your family for most of the marriage?
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I alluded to the power struggle, because we never seem to be able to compromise about anything. Most of our "struggles" are because we "like different things". You say "who's been the leader", I guess people would say her, but it is just because she micromanages everything and I'm more easy going. We get into arguments because whenever I care about something by definition there is a conflict. She needs me, more than I need her. I'm staying for the kids.