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I've been working on trying to put this down for a few weeks, but until I promised myself a metaphorical cookie, I couldn't get it finished. One thing I picked up from the MAP book was the fact that I need to motivate myself positively, not negatively. I guess that's a point right there in the "Personality" category, eh? (My latent Canadian showing up there.)
I've added a Career category to Athol's MAP chart, but other then that I'm using that as the framework to my MAP plan.
Physical Yellow to Green
I'm in good health, still look in my mid 30s (turned 45 last week) and am still lifting every day. My weight loss has stalled out at about 250. I expect that I'm just going to have to find a way to get some cardio in whenever the opportunity presents itself. Easier said then done when I live in a mobile cabin and I only get a shower every 3 days or so....
I've never done any drugs, never smoked and only drink occasionally, but my co driver smokes. Got to find a way to help him quit. He is always bitching about how much the damn things cost, I know he wants to quit.
For living on the road, I'm doing pretty good diet wise. We didn't have a fridge in the truck for the last 3 weeks, so I was eating too much junk food. Currently back on track now that we have one, with the ubiquitous Subways being the only truck stop food I still induldge. Other then that I pretty much stick to food I pick up in Walmarts.
Financial Yellow to Green
The new company I started driving for this month pays much more, almost twice as much as the last one. Now that I'm making more then "just getting by" I've got enough to implement Dave Ramsey's "The Total Money Makeover" plan. I'll have the emergency fund done in about 8 days.
I don't have much debt to get out from under. Not student loans, no credit cards, and no car payments. I owe family about $15,000, mainly in free rent I got over on over the last 10 years or so. After I get that done, I'll do better with Mom's fitness tests....grrr.
Career Green
A year ago I decided the market was trying to tell me to change careers, so I looked around for something that was in demand and didn't need much in the way of education/training. OTR Truck Driver fit the bill, and it's pretty much gone as expected. I got my CDL, hired on with a "training company" that pays "meh", get some experience and jumped ship to a better company. So far it's gone according to plan.
Still learning the ins and outs (there is more to this job then you might think....) but it's coming along nicely. Going to start looking into Owner/Operator options and developing bonus income opportunities.
"Ultimately the captain sets the tone of the relationship." -Athol Kay
"A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be." -Albert Einstein
"Momma said that the Forrest part was to remind me that sometimes we all do things that, well, just don't make no sense." -Forrest Gump
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DHV Yellow
Being a truck driver isn't a DHV (it might be a DLV depending on who you ask), but I don't give a fuck. I have some projects to work on though. I'm learning Spanish while I drive, but I know it's going to take a while before it becomes useful. Languages, music and higher math are not my forte (I'm not a 5). Still, I have time to use and I might as well make something of it besides listening to the same songs I've heard over and over.
I'm the dominate partner between me and my co-driver, but I don't really made a point of it. He tries to fitness test me sometimes, but I know how to handle them much better then I did in the past, so it just reinforces my grasp. We are a pretty good team, despite being pretty much opposites (I'm an INTP, he is an ESFJ). He does the paperwork, I do the planning and navigation. If either of us come upon a problem that we can't figure out, the other has the solution. I dragged him with me from our old job, and he was really uncertain about making the jump. I kept telling him to chill out (I'm a 9, I am master of chilling out, while he is a 6 and is by nature more prone to stressing out.) and eventually he agreed that I was right, this was a brain dead move.
I'll get around to dealing with Mom later. She is an extraordinarily proficient fitness tester, and until I get some leverage in that relationship I don't think I'm going to have to accept the status quo.
I'm going to get my eyes lazed as soon as I get can the money saved up for it. Eventually I'll get new clothes after I get to a desired weight/build.
Relationship Yellow to Green
This was green for the most part up until about 2 months ago, when the wife's hamster went bonkers. I engaged the furry little bugger and lost my patience and my frame. Been in recovery mode for the last two months using the appropriate techniques and have undone most of the damage, but it's been slow going. I thought she was more rational, but sixes don't handle foundational shifts well at all, and I have been disturbing things with my ongoing efforts. I should have seen it coming.
Otherwise, we are upgrading our nest with high benefit to cost ratio expenditures to improve the energy state of our home. We are both (by necessity more then virtue, I'm afraid) frugal people, so we know how to get a lot of bang for our buck.
Fortunately, me being away so much hasn't caused any conflict, so no binds to deal with.
I am maintaining friendships as best I can. Phone calls, poker games when I am in town, email. Only one is making an effort to keep it up on the other end, though.
"Ultimately the captain sets the tone of the relationship." -Athol Kay
"A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be." -Albert Einstein
"Momma said that the Forrest part was to remind me that sometimes we all do things that, well, just don't make no sense." -Forrest Gump
Personality Yellow
I have pretty much come to the conclusion that no matter how present I become, I can't remember a "to do" list for crap. My mind has a wonderful tendency to "forget" tasks, so I have to write stuff down if I want to get shit done. Just started this, I'll see if I can implement a system that I can work with.
Energy gains? I have .... some. My wife is a bit of a vampire, but I knew that going in and it's gotten much better over the years. I am also fairly detached from environmental energy sources, for better and worse. I need to develop something, I just have no idea at this time what they could be. Forward momentum counts, right? Perhaps something will present itself as I progress.
I have no trouble unwinding. Ha! It's getting wound up that can be a bit of effort.
Sexuality Yellow
This was until recently decently yellow green, but being away from home for 4 weeks (or so) at a time sucks, and having a 2 month hamsterfest on top of that has put it down to yellow. I believe it will improve somewhat shortly, so I'm not too concerned about it.
I don't have secondary sources. Channeling that energy into lifting..... I'm doing a lot of lifting.
Spirit Red to Yellow
I always put this last. I should be putting it first. Humm..... I think I'll use some of that excess energy and redirect it here.
Too much here in the "orange", I realize now that I think about it. I'll have to think about this some more.
Any feedback, pro and con is of course appreciated.
"Ultimately the captain sets the tone of the relationship." -Athol Kay
"A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be." -Albert Einstein
"Momma said that the Forrest part was to remind me that sometimes we all do things that, well, just don't make no sense." -Forrest Gump
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I'm famous for writing to -do -lists and scheduling times on my calendar - and then totally forgetting to look at the lists and the calendar!!!
That wouldn't be so bad by itself - if only I could recall the things I had written down earlier.
Sadly it seems the moment I jot things down they vanish from my short-time memory alltogether. Once I've transferred them to any form of extern memory they go "poof".
If you want us to be unapologetically feminine, be unapologetically masculine.
"The pain of discipline is a tiny thing compared to the pain of regret."
On my computer, my phone, my Kindle. Syncs to all.
I'm never not near one of these devices so I can jot down any little ToDo that pops into my head.
"Ultimately the captain sets the tone of the relationship." -Athol Kay
"A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be." -Albert Einstein
"Momma said that the Forrest part was to remind me that sometimes we all do things that, well, just don't make no sense." -Forrest Gump
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"The turnaround is tremendous. And I'm lifting weights, eating better, and tackling projects. I have all this great energy without a vampire sucking my life force. He's a lot stronger standing on his own two feet, as well." - Scarlet
My weight loss was stalled out at 220 lbs. I don't know how tall you are, but I'm 6'-0" on the nose, so 220lb is too heavy for me and it sounds like 250 lb is too heavy for you.
I was thinking like you, "Hmmmm... I'm going to have to add cardio." I think there's some truth to that.
The problem is that I hate cardio. It's mind-numbing. I don't mind the exertion at all, but I lack the mental stamina.
Plus... have you ever seen a 220 lb fat man doing cardio? It's pathetic. But I added the cardio I could fit into my schedule anyway.
Then, something else happened that got me thru my 220 barrier. I just stopped eating.
To be more specific, I began to fast one day a week, for 24 hrs. I go from sunset to sunset.
There is a diet that I guess is all the rage in the UK where you eat whatever for 5 days and fast for 2 days a week. I'm not doing that, exactly. I'm just picking a day (Monday's are a good choice) when I restrict myself to tea, water and coffee.
It's completely changed my relationship to hunger. Although I get hungry, I don't suffer from hunger. I'm OK with being hungry. I want to be hungry.
So I've reached point where I'm eating exactly what I want to eat, exactly when I want to eat it (if you know what I mean). It's the best diet I've ever been on.
I had considered the fasting idea, and was going to do the same thing you are, one day a week. Glad to hear that it proved effective for you.
"Ultimately the captain sets the tone of the relationship." -Athol Kay
"A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be." -Albert Einstein
"Momma said that the Forrest part was to remind me that sometimes we all do things that, well, just don't make no sense." -Forrest Gump