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Ok, hypothetical situation. Lets say I initiate everytime I want sex, I have been in sexting, girl game , etc and he knows where I am sexually. I initiate and I am OI. He refuses or is unavailable multiple nights in a row. Then eventually gives in. yeah SEX! But its bad sex. Its the kind that feels like he is just going through the motions. He is following a dull roadmap at best and can't wait for it to be over. Its just touch her here, lick her there, blah blah blah Frankly, this is better than nothing but there are times that I's rather stay horny than feel this..
What are your thoughts on tapping him out. Just saying something like "another time" and then moving on. Not being mean or pissy or pouty or angry . Just initiating, start f*cking, and at whatever moment I realize this is "starfish" and is it not going to get any better, I stop, or tap him out, give a peck on the cheek and move on. Leave him as is, just hanging and confused.
I sincerely would love to know what the below posters say and of course any other forum-ers.
Is this move way too passive aggressive or simply not accepting sh*t.
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@hoping4etter Perhaps I live in a parallel universe from yours or perhaps it does happen to women. Just read the FO club section.
In my case it is Low- T that is currently being medically addressed however still don't know what to do about the above.
)Your unimaginable comment was kinda cute....made me smile.
"Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess because like in the game of chess the Queen always protects her King" author unknown. ( but you have to be the King first)
"I could die for you. But I wouldn't and couldn't live for you" Ayn Rand
His T is improving .We do not have a followup lab work yet to know if the dosing has to be adjusted. I really try hard not to get pissy or mean. My goal is never to hurt him for several reason including that I love him totally. I know what pound-through-the-mattress sex is like . He has given me that aplenty and we will get that back. I just felt uncertain about the starfish sex.
"Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess because like in the game of chess the Queen always protects her King" author unknown. ( but you have to be the King first)
"I could die for you. But I wouldn't and couldn't live for you" Ayn Rand
"Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess because like in the game of chess the Queen always protects her King" author unknown. ( but you have to be the King first)
"I could die for you. But I wouldn't and couldn't live for you" Ayn Rand
I finally had enough and stopped initiating with him, stopped showing him interest, stopped flirting, stopped everything. When he finally had to start pursuing me was when it clicked with him and he got interested again.
Our moms told us to play 'hard to get' and turns out there's some truth to that. Men are created to hunt and pursue. When it's too easy for them, they lose interest.
Until he starts pursuing you and doing the things that trigger your responsive desire, I think you should ignore anything sexual with him. It may take a while as the T therapy does its work, but let him do the chasing.
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About a month - 6 weeks? - ago we had a low point sexually and I decided to stop initiating altogether. I am available but that is it. We have had less sex but the sex itself has been way better. I'd like it 4-5x per week (where we were before his T dropped like 2 years ago) and he is at 1-2x but I am more satisfied this way. He is more into me so the quality is much better
So what would happen if you stopped initiating? Do you think all sex would stop?
And - I would not stop sex in the middle, as I know it would demoralize him.
Instead, if you're already doing the deed, I recommend going wild 'n crazy and at least trying to have fun for yourself.
If you're not already doing the deed, I recommend making him chase you. Lead, tempt, tease... make him work for it.
"Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess because like in the game of chess the Queen always protects her King" author unknown. ( but you have to be the King first)
"I could die for you. But I wouldn't and couldn't live for you" Ayn Rand
"Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess because like in the game of chess the Queen always protects her King" author unknown. ( but you have to be the King first)
"I could die for you. But I wouldn't and couldn't live for you" Ayn Rand
"Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess because like in the game of chess the Queen always protects her King" author unknown. ( but you have to be the King first)
"I could die for you. But I wouldn't and couldn't live for you" Ayn Rand
I have no good advice about that exact approach, hon ... in my pre red pill aware days, I think I abruptly ended bad sex maybe once or twice over the years but definitely not from a good alpha / OI frame and certainly with no lasting positive change
I think you need advice from the other HD FOs on how they spur on their LD husbands
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So, wait until the timing is right.
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Make plans to go out with your girlfriend that night, but don't tell him until the middle of the day. If he says something about having sex that night, act all regretful and say, "Oh hon, I already made plans with Heather. I'm so sorry, maybe tomorrow night." Build up the anticipation in his mind, until he's dying for it.
But you have to use self-discipline. The problem with we HD women is that we want it so bad that we have a hard time denying ourselves. Use your self-control and play the long game.
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