My wife found MMSL - long

picard

ddad said:

and laugh about it

This is a marker of a relationship that's going to work out.

ddad

@picard you are probably right.  But I have seen when trust and understanding of each other grows we can be silly, joke and laugh at each other, ourselves and our whole situation.  Compared to when one or both are frustrated and feel that they aren't understood then jokes are often taken as hurtful.  Laughter is key but it is only the outcome of understanding.

MrsJon

@dmom ;    Welcome to the forum!

I too, came to the forum after my husband and read his posts. I was horrified and very hurt, so I think I know a little of what you are going through right now. 

What you need now, is time to process your thoughts and feelings, so give yourself however long it takes for you. It may be a couple of days, or maybe a couple of weeks.  When the sting starts to fade a little (and it will), come back and reread your husband’s posts, but focus on the responses and advice he was given. It will give you a different perspective. Then read around a bit on the forum, that will give you a sense of what the forum is about and the kind of support and encouragement that is offered here.

Then when you are ready, post an introduction and share your story.  The two of you have a great opportunity now, to work on your marriage together. I can tell you from experience that both partners working their own MAP has a very powerful effect on the marriage.

Wishing you luck, and please don’t hesitate to post with any questions you might have.