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Jacquie

Serenity said:

Ok @Jacquie, you are a fount of information. Now that you've bared your soul about ah ...other private things... please educate me about products designed to tighten things up. lol  Any suggestions?

It's been awhile since I did the research so could only remeber one site I'd read at the time and looked up others to quickly to add to it.

http://www.jadeeggs.com/sexual-benefit.htm

http://www.cure-incontinence.com/health.htm

http://calmspirit.net/jade_pearls/jade-eggs.htm

This is where I got the information, but I didn't purchase off line. I found a shop in my area that carries stones and crystals and such and purchased Jade stones according to the dimensions off the website and used them according to the directions online. In the past this information would have gone so against all my Christian beliefs, but I cannot deny the results and the improvement in how I feel about myself. I hope this isn't too much information, but then again...the way the threads have been going lately I guess the point of TMI has long since passed.  )

Athol_Kay

Did she have a marked change after a child birth?

Needyhusband

Im_a_Man:  Sometimes I will put her on the counter and slip a few fingers in with myself.  It is mind blowingly good. Sorry, TMI.

@DougB:  I don't really understand the how the balls work?

@Dido:  No, she has not talked of the incontinence with me.  She is VERY sensitive.  She absolutely will not talk about sex with me even though she can be kinky sometimes.  I will just do what I can from my side.  If I were to send her the links that @Jacquie suggests I would be in the dog house the rest of my life.

As I said before, I love her the way she is.  These are things that she wants and I am trying to make them happen for her.  Maybe giving up porn and masturbation along with more foreplay are all we really need.  I would miss the hand play.

Needyhusband

@Athol_Kay:  Yes, after birthing 3 kids she was much looser and I loved it!

Needyhusband

Thanks @Krafty, that sounds like something I should try!

Serenity

@Jacquie ; You are a lovely woman...and a very good sport.  And yes, I agree we're past the point of TMI.  Heck, maybe one day I'll be able to type c*ck or p*ussy without the asterick.  Nah, probably not.  lol

Why against your Christian beliefs?

Needyhusband

@Jacquie:  Thank you for being willing to share.  You will help many people!  Now, how do get her to find those links herself!

Serenity

@Needyhusband ; What if you approached it this way? 'Hon, I was reading on a website/read an article/heard from a friend that women can have better orgasms by strengthening their pelvic floor muscles and there's a whole bunch of products that can help. I want to buy some for you so you can have even better orgasms.'

Kind of alpha and beta rolled into one.  Caring about her pleasure, taking charge of the purchase.

Ben

Krafty said:

We've somewhat had this problem in the past and mostly solved it with different positions.  For whatever reason in missionary or girl on-top there isn't quite enough friction for me.  Doggy style with her legs together, much better.  Almost too good that way if there is such a thing.  You could always switch to anal 

We've also used a warming gel in the past that helped get her warmed up faster, she liked it on her clit but I found if I put some inside her it would often tighten her up as well.

Word.  Everyone's different, but I've found that missionary and cowgirl are my "I'm a little backed up and need less stimulation lest I blow before my time" positions, and any variation of doggy is my go-to "my balls are already below a quarter-tank but this'll get me there anyway" position.

Needyhusband

I think she would have to be drunk to try the eggs although the jade eggs look like the perfect thing to do the trick.

Needyhusband

I don't know how to say this tactfully so I will just say it.  Doggy style has never worked for us.  In doggy style position she sort of hollows out.  Sorry to be so graphic but there is no other way to say it.  So doggy style is absolutely the worst position for both of us.  Side is the best for me but it does nothing for her.

Ben

Gotcha.  Well, like I said, everybody's different.  My STBX and I were very lucky in that doggystyle turned out to be both of our go-to favorites.

Needyhusband

I am pretty sure now that my wife has pelvic floor problems.

Ben

Also, again speaking strictly for myself, but being able to feel the vibrations while inside her is the freaking BEST.  Guys may not have their nerve endings bunched up so close that they can come from vibrations alone, but that doesn't mean it doesn't still feel really nice.

Needyhusband

My wife has a super sensitive clit.  I can go no where near it.  I think in the side position I just don't hit the right spot.  Oh well, I will figure something out.  I think she must get the hint when I ask her to finger herself while we are having sex or when I finger her while we are having sex!

Needyhusband

@Ben:  I had her put a vibrator in while we having sex and she was super pissed off about it.  She felt like I was "pushing the envelope" even though there was plenty o' room in there.  It felt great and was an awesome turn on.  I pretty much have to let her come up with ideas because I am a filthy pervert

Ben

Have you tried indirect clit stimulation?  Sometimes when my STBX was feeling particularly sensitive, she'd get all the stimulation she needed from a vibrator pressed above her clit.  Start maybe halfway between her clit and her belly button and move down slowly until she says when.

Ben

Needyhusband said:

@Ben:  I had her put a vibrator in while we having sex and she was super pissed off about it.  She felt like I was "pushing the envelope" even though there was plenty o' room in there.  It felt great and was an awesome turn on.  I pretty much have to let her come up with ideas because I am a filthy pervert

Oof.  Sounds like she needs a talk about how only 30% of what you try in bed will work.  It's fine to not be into something, but getting pissed off about it sounds like it might be getting into fitness test territory.

Joskin_Nodd

@Needhusband: " I pretty much have to let her come up with ideas because I am a filthy pervert"

Sure you are. Answer to the accusation: "Uh huh. And?"

"I'm not following."

"And you married me. What kind of sick woman marries a pervert?"

"If you think this is perverted, tomorrow night's really going to rock your world."

Needyhusband

I cannot complain about or resent my wife.  We all have our comfort zones and I have certainly pushed her too much to do kinky stuff.  The biggest problem is she really does not have it for me right now and when you don't have it for someone you will feel sickened by their kinky sexual requests.  My wife has been on duty sex for a long time trying to keep me sane.