Since I've started upping the alpha content in my sexual advances toward my wife, I've noticed something in her behaviour that has probably always been there, just not as top of mind due to our lack of sexual interactions.
I like being alpha, I like being dominant, especially during sex and the lead up. I know that my wife likes it too, and she likes to be submissive - I can't wait to see how this side of her evolves over time. She does, however, tend to put up some resistance to my alpha advances. I don't know if the resistance is there because she wants me to up the alpha ante even further and power through it, or because she's trying to retain some sort of control over the situation for fear of losing herself too deeply in the moment.
It's probably hard for you to make much of this without an example. Usually it manifests in some sort of foreplay interaction. I'll text her something racy, or leave her a note in a very dominant frame "I am going to do XYZ to you", the implication being that she has no choice in the matter. Sometimes she just goes with it, but other times she retorts to the effect of "I'll see about that" or "only if ABC...".
Do any of you guys / girls experience that sort of reaction to your advances, or react in that sort of way? I'm curious how you respond to it, and what she might be looking for when she does that.
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The more I think about this, the more it's clear that it spills over into the sex as well. I've had times in the past where I've been trying to keep dominant frame, instructing her in a confident tone about what to do, and she'll just say "no". The only reactions I could think to make have always left me feeling a bit uneasy afterwards. Basically what I've done is grabbed her in some sort of dominant way (maybe near the neck or throat, but never violent or in a way that would evoke pain) and told her in an even sterner sort of tone that she'll do what I ask. It seems to have worked, I've just worried afterwards (without any reason from her) that I could have pushed too far.
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It also helps to change up your alpha approach once in awhile. What makes for good alpha for one woman can be a complete turn off for another. figure out which displays of high-value dominance she resists the least.
All men are great men, most fail to see the greatness in themselves.
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