Hi all I am summer and I wanted to give this place a long overdue thankyou. Four years ago I was overweight, depressed and my husband wanted out. My daughters got me started at the gym and i began to lose weight. Inspired, I began to look online and two years ago found the blog. By then H had noticed a difference in me and we were working on us. I told him about the books and he ordered them all. H said it was the first thing he read that didnt make him feel guilty for being a normal man. H started at the gym and lifting. He has lost 65 pounds and I have lost 45. I went from a size 14 to a 2. H has a 34" waist again. We are 50 and 51. I eventually started reading the forum and learned so much about girl game. I now wear dresses, sexy underwear, makeup, and keep my nails done. H seems so proud of me. We belonged to a strict church our whole marriage. I was taught that sex was special but would not be if we had it ti often. Wives shouldnt initiate or be sexy as it would distract their husband from God. Almost everything bur missionary was on the no no list. We have left the church. Last March we observed our first steak and b.j.day! I served dinner in an apron and high heels and nothing else. We have also ordered and enjoyed the alleged dress. Unfortunately my biggest monkey i being painfully shy and lowtech. My Newyears resolution was to join and participate here but now I am too late.l completely understand the rules
@Hildacorners has for the new group. I just wanted to at least say thanks for all I learned here. Just posting this was scary. I am greatful to all the ladies here for the wonderful advice. Also thanks to the guys for helping me understand H so much better. Biggest thanks to
@Athol_Kay for doing this for so long. I will admit that when I read the rules for the new group I had a good cry but then I went to the gym! I will go ahead and post my goal for Newyears. We bought tickets to a dinner and dance. I am so scared to dance in public but I am going to do it! Thanks to all in this amazing community. Good luck on your journeys. Summer
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Steaks and BJs. Now that's a romantic couple.
Wish you well.
While I still can...
BA BAM way to go
Fate favors the prepared.
Don't stop now. Best of luck to you!
@SaigoTakamori, wow a BA BAM! Thanks so much for that.
@Tiger-Lily that means so much. Posting this was scary. I was actually shaking when I posted. My map for the last year focused on fitness and our marriage. Next years map I will work on overcoming shyness. If there is ever a map accountability group that takes new members I wiil join it. My biggest regret is not starting here sooner because I was afraid. Everyone has been so nice. I know its ending in a few days but posting while I can is good practice.
These are literally 'No Risk' transactions. It doesn't matter if you bomb it, stammer through it, whatever. There is literally No Risk. And they're easy and abundant - because they happen all around you, all the time, every day. I tend to engage people with humor; that's just how I'm wired. But whatever works for you. It can start as simple as direct eye contact, a smile, and 'Hello'.
You'll get a hundred reps a day doing this. If you've ever played a sport, you understand that practice is about reps. The more reps, the better you do at something. Eventually, you master it.
How will you live well today?
Remember to play!
Do the right thing, whether anyone is watching or not.
Be married, until you are not.
Email address: angeline.greenwood@att.net
So talk. Laugh. Don't fucking sweat this - enjoy it. Because this is also a No Risk situation.
Look, I only dance when I've had several tequila shots. Then I do White Man's Overbite Air Guitar. And I own.it.
Start having fun. That is the key to everything.
How will you live well today?
Reps, reps, reps, reps. Practice makes perfect. Pretty soon, this become routine - this is how you change your default setting. This is how you change your life.
Listen, I'm gonna tell you a little secret - go growl in the mirror. Bare those canines like you fucking mean it. Who gives a shit if your H catches you.
/Mr. Summer: "...um...um...honey, are you ok?"
/Summer: "Yeah babe, just getting in some reps. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR"
How will you live well today?
The store I worked in (a year ago) encouraged us to chat with customers. With the checkout counter between me and them I felt safe, and I knew I'd never see most of the customers outside this tiny little role. So I could experiment.
I'm not working there any more (got a job in my field, yay!) but I can now talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime for a few minutes. I can make people think I care about what they're saying. I can get through a job interview, phone or in person, and have the interviewer feel like we really connected.
This may be the most valuable thing I got from that job.
Enneagram 5w4. I'm researching what that means, before designing t-shirt art about it.
"I feel no shame in making lavish use of the strongest muscles, namely male ones (but my own strongest muscle is dedicated to the service of men - noblesse oblige). I don't begrudge men one whit of their natural advantages as long as they respect mine. I am not an unhappy pseudomale; I am female and like it that way." RAH