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I appreciate your comment about moving GE's map thread to the men-only area. In fact, I am told he does have a thread there that is active.
In our case there has been far too much secrecy. I have made my continued participation in this relationship conditional on a number of things, one of which is his active participation on MMSL forums in a way that is visible to me. It is not enough right now for him to just say, oh I have a men-only thread. I have to be able to see his participation because his tendency is to stop doing what needs to be done the minute there is no one holding him to account. Until he starts to internalize these things satisfactorily, I need to be able to see it.