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  Is this marriage done? In May of 2014 I started to get a feeling that something was wrong with my marriage. For whatever reason (still not sure what possessed me to do this) I went over our cell phone records. I found out that there were 150 texts between my wife and the father of my daughters friend. I completely lost it. I didn't get any guidance from sites like this. I confronted immediately. While going through her phone I accidentally but dialed the POSOM. He texted right back and asked if she but dialed. I texted back " ya sorry". He replied "darn". Nothing she could tell me explained that. As far as I was concerned that was the smoking gun. Case closed. She denied any wrong doing. While getting ready for work I decided to comb over the records again. I noticed 2 picture messages that were sent to me and one minute later to him. I know what pics she sent me. They were or her exposing herself in her underwear. Showing her breasts and her vagina. I woke her up and asked her what pics she sent him. Of course she denied everything but admitted to having a crush on him. Ya right. I told her I was divorcing her and was going ruin everything of hers. II then went to work. I came home early and found out she had moved out with the kids, took all the money out of our bank account, and wouldn't answer my phonecalls. She came home later that evening to talk. She said I scared her and that is why she left. She still denied everything. I installed Spyware on her phone and keyloggers on the 2 computers. We got along OK for the rest of the week. That weekend I told her that I did not believe her and to tell me the truth. She confessed to sleeping with him. I took about a month to get all of the details. I exposed this to my family. Made her expose herself to her family. I told the OM wife. I started a text app and acted like I was my wife to the OM. I was able to recover some emails through him. Her story seemed to be backed up by his wife and the emails. I think she has been remorseful from DDAY but who knows. I was distraught and threatened suicide. She called the police and I was put on suicide watch for 2 days. Could not work for over a week. Typical things that everyone seems to go through when your life falls apart like weight loss, nightmares, ect. The cops that arrested me and the nurses at the facility that I was stuck in all told me to ditch her. She was crying day in and day out for what seems like forever. Wrote the no contact letter. Changed her phone number. Cancelled her email addresses. Begged for forgiveness. I told her that if she wanted me that bad she was going to have to watch me have sex with another woman. I hired an escort and did the deed in front of her. She said she felt like we could put this behind us finally. This was about 2 months after discovery. We where in marriage counseling from that point on. I started going to the gym regularly. I got in really decent shape and was listening to motivational speakers. We started going to church. But I was still depressed. I put up a profile on a dating site and proceeded to talk to countless people. 2 of these turned into EAs. At one point I almost left my wife for one of these girls. My wife was extremely upset and told my daughter. I stayed. She has been in contact with the other woman. This woman claims to be pregnant with my child. I never slept with her but my wife believes her. Not sure why she says she is pregnant but I think she is trying to break up my marriage. My wife says she will help raise the kid. Haven't heard from this woman in a couple of weeks. Since then things have calmed down. Not sure what is going to be the result of all this but this is where I am at. I know my wife has had a hard time dealing with everything. I still have not committed to staying with her

  
  

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  February 15
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  Is this over? In May of 2014 I started to get a feeling that something was wrong with my marriage. For whatever reason (still not sure what possessed me to do this) I went over our cell phone records. I found out that there were 150 texts between my wife and the father of my daughters friend. I completely lost it. I didn't get any guidance from sites like this. I confronted immediately. While going through her phone I accidentally but dialed the POSOM. He texted right back and asked if she but dialed. I texted back " ya sorry". He replied "darn". Nothing she could tell me explained that. As far as I was concerned that was the smoking gun. Case closed. She denied any wrong doing. While getting ready for work I decided to comb over the records again. I noticed 2 picture messages that were sent to me and one minute later to him. I know what pics she sent me. They were or her exposing herself in her underwear. Showing her breasts and her vagina. I woke her up and asked her what pics she sent him. Of course she denied everything but admitted to having a crush on him. Ya right. I told her I was divorcing her and was going ruin everything of hers. II then went to work. I came home early and found out she had moved out with the kids, took all the money out of our bank account, and wouldn't answer my phonecalls. She came home later that evening to talk. She said I scared her and that is why she left. She still denied everything. I installed Spyware on her phone and keyloggers on the 2 computers. We got along OK for the rest of the week. That weekend I told her that I did not believe her and to tell me the truth. She confessed to sleeping with him. I took about a month to get all of the details. I exposed this to my family. Made her expose herself to her family. I told the OM wife. I started a text app and acted like I was my wife to the OM. I was able to recover some emails through him. Her story seemed to be backed up by his wife and the emails. I think she has been remorseful from DDAY but who knows. I was distraught and threatened suicide. She called the police and I was put on suicide watch for 2 days. Could not work for over a week. Typical things that everyone seems to go through when your life falls apart like weight loss, nightmares, ect. The cops that arrested me and the nurses at the facility that I was stuck in all told me to ditch her. She was crying day in and day out for what seems like forever. Wrote the no contact letter. Changed her phone number. Cancelled her email addresses. Begged for forgiveness. I told her that if she wanted me that bad she was going to have to watch me have sex with another woman. I hired an escort and did the deed in front of her. She said she felt like we could put this behind us finally. This was about 2 months after discovery. We where in marriage counseling from that point on. I started going to the gym regularly. I got in really decent shape and was listening to motivational speakers. We started going to church. But I was still depressed. I put up a profile on a dating site and proceeded to talk to countless people. 2 of these turned into EAs. At one point I almost left my wife for one of these girls. My wife was extremely upset and told my daughter. I stayed. She has been in contact with the other woman. This woman claims to be pregnant with my child. I never slept with her but my wife believes her. Not sure why she says she is pregnant but I think she is trying to break up my marriage. My wife says she will help raise the kid. Haven't heard from this woman in a couple of weeks. Since then things have calmed down. Not sure what is going to be the result of all this but this is where I am at. I know my wife has had a hard time dealing with everything. I still have not committed to staying with her

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  Is this over? In May of 2014 I started to get a feeling that something was wrong with my marriage. For whatever reason (still not sure what possessed me to do this) I went over our cell phone records. I found out that there were 150 texts between my wife and the father of my daughters friend. I completely lost it. I didn't get any guidance from sites like this. I confronted immediately. While going through her phone I accidentally but dialed the POSOM. He texted right back and asked if she but dialed. I texted back " ya sorry". He replied "darn". Nothing she could tell me explained that. As far as I was concerned that was the smoking gun. Case closed. She denied any wrong doing. While getting ready for work I decided to comb over the records again. I noticed 2 picture messages that were sent to me and one minute later to him. I know what pics she sent me. They were or her exposing herself in her underwear. Showing her breasts and her vagina. I woke her up and asked her what pics she sent him. Of course she denied everything but admitted to having a crush on him. Ya right. I told her I was divorcing her and was going ruin everything of hers. II then went to work. I came home early and found out she had moved out with the kids, took all the money out of our bank account, and wouldn't answer my phonecalls. She came home later that evening to talk. She said I scared her and that is why she left. She still denied everything. I installed Spyware on her phone and keyloggers on the 2 computers. We got along OK for the rest of the week. That weekend I told her that I did not believe her and to tell me the truth. She confessed to sleeping with him. I took about a month to get all of the details. I exposed this to my family. Made her expose herself to her family. I told the OM wife. I started a text app and acted like I was my wife to the OM. I was able to recover some emails through him. Her story seemed to be backed up by his wife and the emails. I think she has been remorseful from DDAY but who knows. I was distraught and threatened suicide. She called the police and I was put on suicide watch for 2 days. Could not work for over a week. Typical things that everyone seems to go through when your life falls apart like weight loss, nightmares, ect. The cops that arrested me and the nurses at the facility that I was stuck in all told me to ditch her. She was crying day in and day out for what seems like forever. Wrote the no contact letter. Changed her phone number. Cancelled her email addresses. Begged for forgiveness. I told her that if she wanted me that bad she was going to have to watch me have sex with another woman. I hired an escort and did the deed in front of her. She said she felt like we could put this behind us finally. This was about 2 months after discovery. We where in marriage counseling from that point on. I started going to the gym regularly. I got in really decent shape and was listening to motivational speakers. We started going to church. But I was still depressed. I put up a profile on a dating site and proceeded to talk to countless people. 2 of these turned into EAs. At one point I almost left my wife for one of these girls. My wife was extremely upset and told my daughter. I stayed. She has been in contact with the other woman. This woman claims to be pregnant with my child. I never slept with her but my wife believes her. Not sure why she says she is pregnant but I think she is trying to break up my marriage. My wife says she will help raise the kid. Haven't heard from this woman in a couple of weeks. Since then things have calmed down. Not sure what is going to be the result of all this but this is where I am at. I know my wife has had a hard time dealing with everything. I still have not committed to staying with her

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