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  • I'm going to miss everyone.  Thanks Athol for this forum and your insight into personal relationships.  It's been very helpful to me.  Did I mention I'm going to miss everyone?  
  • He already knows how you feel.  You have communicated plenty in the past.  Just tell him you have no desire to rehash this once again.  Then go do something productive.
  • Pregnancy.  Don't.
  • Pinterest is your friend.  Search for low-carb pumpkin.  I myself just pinned a great blog post with multiple pumpkin recipes.  Because pumpkin.  
  • forestleaf said: @io actually, I'm fairly sure that @amblrgirl and I share the same enneagram, 6w5 (good call).  But so many things about us are different so I'm not sure why you drew a comparison. I don't get your situations confused.…
  • forestleaf said: @io that's interesting, because I don't believe I mentioned another candidate.  I'm talking about fear, and gender issues specifically, and how the person whom we chose for office reveals something very telling about who we are…
  • Try to imagine if someone else had won.  Now imagine your FB feed.  How many caveats would you hear from the celebrants?  Do you honestly think it would be any different?  Our do you truly think there would be a bunch of people acknowledging that ye…
  • Some people are just much more selfish and self-centered than others.  They cannot empathize with other people.  When she wasn't in love with you anymore, you became one of the "others" that she has no empathy or compassion for.  She wants what she …
  • "There are other issues going on beyond sex, but they aren’t as important in comparison." That's probably not true. The sex may seem the most important to you, but it is almost always a symptom of something else. Fill out the triage. We may be…
  • MrsB said: For me, what was upsetting was how many men I know defended him and said it's how ALL men talk. It makes men seem duplicitous. Like, one minute y'all act like perfect gentlemen and the next you're talking about us in the most degradi…
  • http://marriedmansexlife.vanillacommunities.com/discussion/comment/556245/#Comment_556245 Read the linked post.  Plan accordingly.
  • Gnusmas.  Imagine this.  Your wife has slept with three different guys in the last two years, guys who you hang out with occasionally.  She also is getting her emotional needs met by flirting with strangers on Facebook.  Then she gets on a message b…
  • As I recall you pay a rather exorbitant amount in child care.  To her sister.  I'm 75% sure you're the only one paying child care.  That would make it a more reasonable amount.
  • Your SR is not equal.  Read your own post above.  You moved back to the city you used to live in at her insistence.  You now have a 2 hour commute to school.  And why is this?  Because she needs to support your family.   My god man.  Stop fooling y…
  • Instead of meditating for DD, try breathing exercises.  It's an active rather than passive exercise (therefore less likely to lose concentration) and it still takes you out of the immediate stress and thoughts.
  • The Game is played by everyone, but most people have no idea they're playing it.  It's just human nature.  The majority of humanity are just reacting to stimuli according to their biologic and emotional makeup without knowing that's what they're doi…
  • In the world of internet connectivity, no one actually needs to go to school to learn anything.  If he truly wants to learn this unusual language, someone somewhere on the internet is teaching it, and your son will find that person.
  • Climbingup said: Thanks again @nubby. But how do you get over the fact that she is not interested in you? I hate that I still depend on her to make me feel good. The resentment is hard to kick. I just want to start over every morning. Without a…
  • What's the point of paying for therapy to keep going with the flow?  Lay everything out.  It's not like she's going to like you less.
  • Do not let a mentally unstable woman physically discipline your children.  Especially with a yardstick.  I'm speaking from experience.  I cannot overstate what a horrible, terrible, child-damaging situation you are allowing your kids to endure.  
  • Your wife was raised by verbally abusive, mentally unstable people.  These were very negative people.  You are a very negative person even by the opinion of your friends.  You say you think you are realistic but quite witty.  I'm going to go out on …
  • I'm religious.  I agree that a wife is commanded to have respect for her husband.  But until a man is actually worthy of that respect, even the most pious woman in the world is not going to be doing it for her husband.  Frankly, that will simply be …
  • Husband3point0 said: jonnyboy said: @Husband3point0 - nope.  Not going anywhere near this.  I am quite prepared to F him over (both in terms of his life and physically).  I will make sure he knows that.  No beating around the bush here. …
  • She's wallowing in her C average.  If she accepts that, that means she never has to make an effort to improve.  Marriage counseling might get her to a B-, and she's not even willing to do that much.  Counseling to discuss separation feels safe to he…
  • To repeat @Angeline's point above, you A/B'd her.  You made counseling a condition.  If you let her back out, you are not maintaining the status quo, you are going backwards.  You are training her to ignore your needs in the relationship. Right now…
  • Your wife doesn't want to leave her parents' house.  She wants this to be the status quo.  Everything you just did was in her frame.  And her frame does not have your best interests at heart.  
    in Mark's journey Comment by _io April 28
  • Let me tell you what she's going to say.  "Yes, I'm willing to stay.  What are you going to change about yourself?"  
  • She wants the family to incur tens of thousands of dollars of debt so she can make no more money than she's already making which, of yeah, only pays for the child care you have to pay so she can go to work.   If she wants to go back to school to fe…
  • SignorePillolaRossa said: yeah, what i think can happen with proper attention is that anonym can create and maintain his own frame wherein his energy level (i.e. being the guy he is/wants to be) will be maintained in his wife's presence) ... ye…