I got the recent notice from Athol about the forum closing in a week, and am really sad about that. There are tons of gold in these pages. They ought to be published as a book, or series of books.
I will just say, on this subject, that in some case…
I'm not sure where to post this, but the last few paragraphs contain a bombshell of a wakeup call.
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/charles-j-orlando/why-women-cheat-married-man-goes-undercover-ashley-madison
@Katt,
I don't want to hijack the thread, so I'll take what you say at face value, and accept your premise. However, when I say "oral," I don't just mean "oral." I mean blended orgasms involving more than just external genitalia, also involving the…
@gamechanger, I've been watching your other thread for you to let us know how things are going after MC, and came across your triage. I have a couple of comments:
If she doesn't like receiving oral, then you could probably use some pointers. If don…
The only hint we have is that we were told that his wife feels like he is shutting her out with all his mapping. It seems to me that this, if true, would kind of defeat the purpose. Is he avoiding her, or trying to punish her, or using this as "purs…
I hear you, brother. My first born over achiever extroverted wife has been a handful for our entire marriage. If you haven't done so already, since you referred to yourself as a NG, please read No More Mr. Nice Guy.
Another thing. When dealing wit…
Off topic: Don't know quite how to put this, but for me the BJTC is the much sought after Holy Grail. Anyone know of a thread that maps (so to speak) out a strategy, other than just becoming so awesome that she'll do anything to please me?
Another thing that helped my out of the bedroom game was trying hard to figure out my wife's Love Languages. One of my spouse's main things is humor. As Ben Franklin said, " A maiden laughing is half taken."
Give this a lot of thought. One suggesti…
@Middleman I guess it did sound like I was bragging, but the truth is that a lot more has gone wrong in my marriage than has gone right. Things have turned around a bit with MMSL.
If you have your game on, and it sounds like you do, it may be that …
@MiddleMan, yes, I have experienced what you're describing. For many, many years, until I read Athol's book nearly 2 years ago. My MAP is still a work in progress; I've much to learn. Regarding her lack of response, how do YOU respond when she blows…
There are a great many aspects to this, but It's helped in my situation that I've become a student in the art of pleasuring my wife. She knows that a trip to the bedroom with me will result in her experiencing an absolutely bone crushing orgasm, one…
I've been mapping for about a year. I've always been mystified by my wife's lack of desire, which appeared after we'd been married just two years, when she was 24 and I was 27. After that she became a "black box" to which I could only rarely find th…
Sadly, my gut tells me that she was projecting, and that perhaps the differences with her ex weren't so irreconcileable after all, especially with @BrokenAlpha out of town for two months. I hope I'm wrong.
This is an old thread now. Sorry I missed out on the fun, but I'd like to add some comments. In addition to hydration and abstinence, the things that determine ejaculate volume include storage capacity, such as the sized of the prostate and the …
Suicide is a permanent solution for what in most cases is a temporary problem. Drugs my be part of the solution, especially in the acute phase of depression, but for long lasting management, she needs some good cognitive therapy. Most therapists don…
@mandrill, the theme of this thread is the ability to suddenly look back at 30+ years of marriage with Red-Pill eyes,and see all the sh*t that went down from a different perspective. This is an exquisitely painful experience for some of us older guy…
The therapist was, and probably still is, a sexual predator. His record needs to follow him, where ever he goes, so that he can't harm anyone else. I don't know if what he did could legally be called rape. If so, you might consider asking your wife …
I think it's just important what your partner is, in terms of marital comparability. I'm 3rd of 5, with older brother and sister. I'm in an alpha profession, and have always assumed organizational leadership, and successfully participated in lots of…
Perhaps I just missed it, but have you sent a NC letter to your EA partner, and agreed to tell your wife if she contacts you again? Are you experiencing any dopamine withdrawal? You certainly don't want this to blow up again by trying to protect eit…
In my opinion, I think it's time to go nuclear, and let everyone you know that the purpose of the gym isn't fitness; the business plan of the gym is to give the OM access to lots of poon in the form of the wives of his clients. This low life serial…
@Friendlylurker, my heart breaks for you. Having the man you thought was your father use you as leverage against your mother is one of the cruelest things I have ever heard.
@StThomas, I think the only way you come out of this smelling like a r…
I believe in running the map. It's working for me, and my situation was far more hopeless, and long standing, than yours. That being said, get this settled, or you will wonder for the rest of your life if the reason she doesn't desire you is because…
One thing that comes to mind. Have you changed changed contraception methods since you moved in, or gotten an IUD? Changes of this type are sometimes reported to produce dramatic changes in a woman's desire.
For God's sake, don't ruin this guy's life by making promises to him that you're unsure you will be able to keep. Most guys are pretty stand up, they honor their vows, and their word is their bond. When they find themselves in a marriage with a woma…