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telyni
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Final update. Hubby is still adamant that he won't look into medical help for the low-T, and is now also insisting that having more sex is the best way to increase testosterone. I know it's a factor, but I'm not sure it's the main factor. Anyway, I'…
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Might as well update again, since stuff happened today and I want to write it down before I forget. I'm going to have to start keeping an offline journal, I suspect. Today our toddler was being really difficult, disrespectful and uncooperative. To…
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I'm definitely going to try beans in the pressure cooker once we get it. Also, hubby loved the egg muffins this morning. He said once he microwaved them a bit, it was like having a fresh omelette. But portable. We'll certainly keep doing those, then…
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Good morning, @Jek! I agree that buying the books for other people can be awkward or useless or both. That doesn't stop me from having the books myself and sharing the concepts when it seems appropriate, but it's a lot like sharing one's faith: you…
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@Leticia It depends on the dish, I guess. Some things we eat are usually premade, so we just heat them up, like Indian curries. Other things I make from scratch. For enchiladas, I toss a can of black beans into a pan with sauteed onions and peppers,…
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Lots of good ideas here. Thanks, everyone. @Angeline The instant pot sounds amazing. Hubby's on board with it. I think we're going to order one from Amazon shortly. I've already been using our crockpots fairly regularly, but it does require rat…
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This will probably be my last substantial update here. I've come a long way since I got here, a little over a year ago, but there's a long way to go yet. Thanks again to everyone who's encouraged me and helped push me out of my comfort zone. I will …
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@Crashaxe said it best: In my time surfing the internet, forums have come and gone, but MMSL has been the most educational, enjoyable, entertaining, and life-changing website that I have ever participated in, bar none. I will mourn the closure of th…
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This place has been a very valuable resource. I'm glad it's been here as long as it has. I understand the need to focus on what's most important, and I do hope this will free up more time for content creation and family. But ten days isn't much a…
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TwelveRubies said: Honestly I don't even know how I would go about an ultimatum. Divorce is not an option in this situation for faith reasons. A smaller ultimatum I could make is sleeping in separate bedrooms. That would be devastating to him. …
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On the positive side of things, I'm really enjoying the Ipsy subscription. Thanks to you all who encouraged me to do that. I'm getting some really nice samples, and almost everything in each of the three bags I've gotten so far have been things I ca…
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@TooEarlyTooLate Of course I've told him to see a doctor and fix the low-T. I've been telling him that since last April when the low-T was confirmed. I just told him again tonight. I said I'm not forcing him to do a specific kind of testosterone sup…
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SignorePillolaRossa said: see, i fear that because telyni knows the way, everything her H does wrong is multiplied in its negative impact on her ... telyni sees guys on here who 'get it' and put it in place to fix their lives and then lives he…
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@Angeline: Do you agree with @SignorePillolaRossa then that I should give him the primer to explain how to become more attractive? I think the consensus some months ago was that I needed to get him to work on the low-T first. Otherwise, a lot of stu…
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RebuildingHusband said: telyni said: And just getting back to "wedding weight" isn't going to be enough. That really needs to be said out loud. I will. But hey, I was just waking up and he was on his way out the door for…
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This morning, the first thing hubby said to me was, "I was incorrect about my being at our wedding weight. I guess that explains a lot." Well, it's not the only factor, but it definitely doesn't help. And just getting back to "wedding weight" isn't …
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Long conversation tonight, triggered by the homework conversation. Lots to talk about. Whatever else the counseling might be doing, it's at least forcing us to talk honestly about stuff every so often. Hubby seems to have come to a point where he's…
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We've been sick this weekend. My husband nearly always gets sicker than me whenever anything's going around. I've been the one doing childcare, cooking, and cleanup while he mostly rested. I'm not really complaining, and he's been grateful, but I ca…
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We have an elliptical. It's supposed to be easier on the joints than running. But really, any lightweight exercise done quickly enough can turn into cardio.
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@dalef I don't even know what you're responding to. My husband hasn't started any therapy yet. My presentation yesterday went really well. I'm so glad I decided to offer it to the group. I'm not the best at public speaking, but I am good at breakin…
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Siblings are one of the exceptions, I think, and historically there are all sorts of ways people might find themselves in sibling-like relationships without being related by blood. (Adoption, "blood brothers," sharing a wet nurse, etc.) Doesn't mean…
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Today was the first snowfall of the season. We took the boy out to play in it in the afternoon. He was too excited to take his nap. And we actually made a little snowman for once. It was a fun day. Hubby tried to initiate last night. It was quite s…
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@Angeline, oh, it was further back than I remembered. Here's what I was thinking of: (July 19) No, I didn't present the three month period like an absolute expectation. But last night he relented a little. He said he'll have another physical this ye…
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Charlie said: You probably need to be very blunt with him, even more than you have been, because he clearly doesn't get it. I think he needs to hear how unattractive he is to you. A couple years ago my wife had a talk with me where she basicall…
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Last night we had our "homework" conversation. What he wished for wasn't a surprise. More quality time, more "intimate time" (his wording, meaning sex), and less screen time apart. I know quality time is one of his top love languages, so it makes se…
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I've read through NMMNG now. What I found most interesting was that I think I have at least some of the equivalent tendencies, but the book doesn't address how that plays out in a woman because it's so focused on restoring proper masculinity. (A fem…
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Cooking for Thanksgiving went really well. I made three side dishes and a pie and we joined my husband's parents, who made the turkey and trimmings, a couple of other side dishes, and a different pie. Lots of food. I also had fun playing a programmi…
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I want to tell him he is free to assume I'll be up for sex, and that he does have power to turn my yellow to a green with a strong initiation. Nah, I did this and it didn't change anything. Probably people are going to just tell you STFU about sex…
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I don't know if a woman initiating with a passive-in-rehab H is a DHV because she is confident in what she wants, or an enabling DLV that shows she is needy and won't demand her H to step up. It depends on how bad the situation is. My understan…
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He says he’s always up for sex, but his actions betray him. This is exactly where we're at. I could have written that whole paragraph before we confirmed the low-T. Low-T is its own kind of challenge, but at least it's actionable. "I want you to w…
